September 28, 2010, - 10:40 am

Letter from a Black American Reader

By Debbie Schlussel

Early this morning, I received this e-mail from a Black reader who is a corporate executive.  Would love for all of those who “read” my site, yet throw baseless racism charges at me, to actually read it.  I don’t know about not raising kids in the U.S., but I agree and have certainly written repeatedly on my site about how tough it is and how all innocence and sense of a childhood is lost (and how way too many “parents” are just womb and sperm donors).


Date: Tue, Sep 28, 2010
Subject: Thank you

Hello Debbie,

I read and re read your article on single moms in the military as well as the article about the father boarding the bus to protect his daughter. There is something pathetically wrong with Black America, so much so that as a black man I refuse to raise my children in the USA. I find your articles candid, to the point and I applaud you for raising such issues. Political correctness has replaced common sense and principle and the statement you made about the father’s use of coarse language, it is so accurate in saying that the lingua franca is the only language these kids understand, these kids simply have no discipline, no manners and no parental care, even with one parent. Blacks continue to blame whites for their plight but refuse to accept responsibility for the despair they bring upon themselves. As for single moms in the military, this will never change as most single moms in the military are black, so any attempt to fix this problem will end up being a racial issue, the USA military is slowly becoming a social experiment by the liberals.

Continue to write Debbie, I find your articles refreshing. Have a nice day.

Readers like this–like most of you, regardless of your race and ethnicity–are a good part of why I continue my work with this site. This reader is not the only Black American man who feels this way. There are many like him. The conventional narrative is that Black America is a monolith. But despite their nearly unanimous vote for Barack Obama, when it comes to issues like this, many Black Americans have conservative values.

And you don’t need to be a conservative to know right from wrong and when things stop making sense. To the contrary, sometimes–many times–as in the cases of so many I’ve identified on this site (Sarah Palin, Michelle Fraudkin, Hot Airheads, RedStateIdiotRandPaulovers), false calling one’s self a “conservative” is just mere costuming for excusing what’s wrong.

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23 Responses

I wonder where he raises his children! Lucky kids!

As goes on September 28, 2010 at 11:40 am

That sounds like a level-headed individual.

Having grown-up in ethnically-mixed neighborhoods, and as someone who knows ‘white-flight’ first-hand, I’ve seen the steady downward decay up-close.
Neighborhoods that were once thriving have been ruined.
And a sure sign that a neighborhood has gone down the tubes: it has a Martin Luther King drive/boulevard/street.

I get into this argument (how whitey ruins everything) now and then, but as a white male who grew up in a housing project, in a racially-mixed area which was very densely-populated….I’ve got ammo to fire back.

For the life of me, I cannot fathom why anyone insists on having the likes of Sharpton or Jackson on their programs.
It strikes me as an insult for anyone to consider those 2 lowlifes as representatives of any race. Yet, time and again, they’ll trot out those 2 dirtbags for their opinion on the ‘race problem du jour’. And the downward spiral continues…

guitarguy on September 28, 2010 at 11:47 am

I was not aware that most single military mothers were black, but this policy of deployment has bothered me. There are many domestic military positions that can be filled. It seems to me accommodations could be made for these soldiers (as well as when both parents are serving) unless there is a general call up.
As for the fellow who protected his daughter, he deserves an award.

pat on September 28, 2010 at 1:03 pm


    I beg to differ with you, they can’t have it both ways. We no longer have a draft, so they entered the military of their own free will. If they choose to have children either before they enter military service, or have them while in military service, again they do so freely. Women want equality, but when they have children all of a sudden they want to be treated differently. YOU CAN’T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS.

    Customs Forever on September 28, 2010 at 2:47 pm

I am also Afraid to raise kids in America only to have them indoctrinated and controlled by our education system. Everyday is a fight for your child’s innocence.

Paul Anthony on September 28, 2010 at 1:06 pm

    I have a feeling you’re going to do fine by your children. Remaining vigilant is half the batter.

    As goes on September 28, 2010 at 1:25 pm

      Don’t you mean battle?

      Uh, yes!

      As goes on September 28, 2010 at 1:25 pm

Most pregnant military members I’ve seen are white.

Mike on September 28, 2010 at 1:37 pm

Currently I’m a single man who’s looking for a woman to date and marry, and when we start to have children sometime in the future, we’ll send our kids to a regular school, but if my wife and I both find out that the teachers in the school are NOT educating our kid(s) and indoctrinating them, we’ll go up to the school, mention the BS to the principal and also to the superintendent and we’ll take our kid(s) out of that school and we’ll home-school them. And I agree with you Paul Anthony, just about everyday is a fight for our childrens innocence, and since one of my sisters has a daughter (she’s only 5 months old, ie a baby), I just hope that her child insist indoctrinated by the educational system a few years from now when she starts school!

“A nation is identified by it’s borders, language & culture!”

Sean R. on September 28, 2010 at 1:40 pm

As long as we reward women for having a baby by giving them a bigger monthly check, the most useless of women will spew for kids who represent a check to fuel the partying.

If a woman comes on the roles with 3 kids, support them. But when she has the fourth — no check increase. That fourth child will end up at an orphanage, in foster care, or with a relative who doesn’t need a check to love a child. That fouth kid will be the lucky one.

Agree on September 28, 2010 at 1:50 pm

And to the spelling nazi who appeared above, yes, I did mean “fourth.”

Agree on September 28, 2010 at 1:55 pm

Bravo to DS and writer. Even if you do not like the “tone” of this site (and I do, because the truth is harsh and one has to be brave and direct when stating a truth today) you should come here and read…you will learn a thing or two even if you may not agree all the time (it’s not a crime to disagree).

DS is the only person I have found more steadfast in her beliefs, values and character than me. I like peeps like her and Dr. Laura because they lay it on the line with the cold, hard truth.

Don’t like the fact that having kids out of wedlock is terrible for the person(s), kids and society? Tough! The truth says it is. Don’t wait around for it to really affect YOU to say so.

Don’t like the fact that today women have become messes because they “hook up” and lack discerning values when looking for a man and even in post-feminist America have become PATHETIC when trying to snag a guy and base their whole self worth on it (even if they lie and say they don’t)? Tough! It makes messes of lives, causes mental illnesses and is inherently unhealthy.

Just like Obamarxist, the truth is out there to be seen if one just opens their eyes. Playing PC games and just wanting to FEEL good is not helping anyone. All black Americans are welcome to embrace the TRUE Conservative way in America. We need all the decent AMERICANS we can get no matter what ethnicity or race. The liberals are the ones who base everything on identity politics, and they are liars.

Skunky on September 28, 2010 at 3:03 pm

Funny skunky, where is the man’s role in the hook up generation? Oh that’s right, double standards are okay!

CJ on September 28, 2010 at 4:53 pm

    No CJ. I was gonna tackle that too, because I do think that they are guilty too, but I confess I got lazy.

    Also, I think women have a lot to answer for because at one time they fought in a great way for rights, but now it is just a joke. Feminism was a fraud and women were fraudulent when they fought for rights and decried how men treated them, but then only became the monsters they used to hate.

    I’ll tackle the men briefly. Just ‘cuz a dame is a skank does not mean that you have the right to take advantage of them. Treating women disrespectfully is not cool. “Kicking it” with a broad is not cool even if the dame is game because we know you are just using them and they are soon forgotten. Men and women handle sex differently in general. Men can move on asap and women get emotionally involved. This behaviour is unsavoury for both the men and women and chaos can ensue.

    Skunky on September 28, 2010 at 6:48 pm

Debbie you are totally right. On the most part to understand Debbie means that you have to be honest with yourself. This reader gets it. Sometimes Debbie is brutally honest. She has consistent principles. I evaluate myself as a libertarian the more I assess myself. I am a big Ron Paul and Rand Paul fan. Can’t agree on everything Debbie.

CaliforniaScreaming on September 28, 2010 at 5:12 pm

    I’m sorry, california—you are aware that Ron Paul is a rampant antisemitic scumbag who votes just about 100% of the time with Dennis Kucinich on foreign policy issues. Look it up in THOMAS. If Dennis is your foreign policy guru, well, then, you’re in the right place.

    Occam's Tool on January 10, 2011 at 10:25 pm

Wow, Debbie got a letter not threatening to rape and kill her with really bad spelling and grammar. You don’t see that often enough.

While in the Marines in the first Gulf War, I was a single dad at the time. As the ground war was about to start I was in a forward unit and would be driving one of the first vehicles thru the minefield in to Kuwait. I was called back the the HQ and asked if I wanted to switch jobs. I asked why they are asking me now and they said that I was a single parent and the OIC said he would feel bad if something happened to me. I was shocked and angry and said I was here to do a job and nothing was going to stop me. My Gunny just turned to the OIC and said, I told you he wouldn’t go for it and we went back up to the line. I could never understand how a parent would or could use their kid as an excuse for cowardice.

Seeing the women who were literally lining up because they were suddenly pregnant before we deployed was sickening in their lack of loyalty to the Corps and their Country. Debbie did an article on that some years ago I believe.

ender on September 28, 2010 at 9:07 pm

Well ya’ll knew sooner or later I was gonna input my 2 cents.

DS knows I’m one of the few (and young) blacks that read this site. (she also knows i have a small crush on her, but let’s not get into that) How can anyone of any color disagree with the writer. I see what he talks about every damn day when I go to work, and at work too. This psychonutty so-called black mindset is what is holding back my ethnicity, and it’s promoted in the media and hollywood as normal!! When you see that everywhere you go, on the street, on a movie, TV, music, it just tells you that this is a racist form of bullshit being used to make millions of dollars.

I’m sick and tired of being generalized with this BS as if all black people are supposed to be this way or else. Or else what?? We’re no longer “black” in the minds of the media?? Blacks aren’t allowed to think “outside the box”? I’m supposed to like and dislike everything based on being black? I can go on for hours about this….but in my opinion, I feel blacks are the worst of the brainwashed when it comes to this BS ethnic mentality.

It makes me wish we had a live chatroom or something, where we can discuss issues like this on a weekly basis.

Just remember one thing, me and that writer aren’t the only blacks out there that dares think “outside the box”. We gotta come together, have a voice, and force the media to show the world that there are REAL black americans that do exist.

Squirrel3D on September 29, 2010 at 12:32 am

    Well said Squirrel. I have always enjoyed the peeps who are not afraid to be unconventional. I do wish your mindset and the “writer’s” were conventional though. It’s good for the individual and America.

    The left usually hate stereotypes, but they sure love to keep black Americans in the Democrat demographic. It is NOT good for them and they are being zoomed. It’s very crazy-making when one sees intelligent black folk falling for the old “Democrats REALLY care about you” schtick. I know the ones who do are afraid of a stark truth and/or are only be driven by their emotions. What a pity.

    Skunky on September 29, 2010 at 2:18 pm

    I’ll bet you’d enjoy the Blog Talk Radio Show, The Black Sphere (aka Kevin Jackson). He airs Monday nights at 9 p.m. eastern. There is a chat room with the show.

    BINKY on March 22, 2011 at 1:21 pm

I believe Mom’s should be home with their kids, if there is not a financial need or have to work situation going on. Let the men go to work..Not to say that Mom’s aren’t working too…they are, it is one of the hardest jobs in the world. You have to juggle so many hats…but the rewards are worth it– balanced human beings in the long run.

There has to be order in the Home, if there is order in the Home, there is order in socieity. This is the only way we are going to raise strong families.
But we can’t all leave America…we have to stay and fight.
Stand against the status quo…
There is always a remnant, if you will.

Ms. Hello on September 29, 2010 at 5:19 pm

Great post, Deborah. As someone who has lived within the african culture for all of my life I can say that the tragedy of the culture is the promiscuity caused by fatherlessness (which is caused by promiscuity, and so on). It’s a vicious cycle that can ONLY be stopped when people turn back to God and try to live a life as it should be.

I don’t say “God” here lightly, bkz I see how girls in the church I go value and preserve their purity, and how they endup aving functional marrieges with the man God has chosen to them.

The problem of course is that, not only single mon is a “hip” thing these days, but the socialist-ruled world where we live promotes single motherhood as means to dumb down the culture.

Mats on September 30, 2010 at 8:41 am

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