February 3, 2011, - 1:13 pm
For years, on this site and elsewhere, I’ve been an unfortunate observer of how America’s men are becoming chickified and and America’s women are becoming masculinized. And now a new study shows this disturbing trend now dominates America. Researchers studying over 5,000 men and women found that men–more than at any time before in America–are more interested in love, marriage and children; and that women want more “independence” in their relationships and feel that “hooking up” and one-night stands aren’t just meaningless sexual encounters. (Yeah, you keep telling yourself that, sluts.)
Girlie-Man Nation: The Transformation Is Complete
So, basically, it’s official. We’ve become a nation in which men are women with a sperm supply. And women are the new men with the inconvenience of a womb and periods. It’s so sad. And, as I’ve noted before, nations like this–matriarchies never last. The dustbin of history is filled with all of them, all failures. It’s not the kind of society that will beat the Islamic threat, but the kind of society that will sadly embrace it, as the void of masculinity for men continues and they yearn and find it elsewhere.
Findings show men are more interested in love, marriage and children than their peers in earlier times; women want more independence in their relationships than their mothers did; and hooking up and one-night stands aren’t necessarily meaningless sexual encounters.
The researchers say the nationally representative survey of more than 5,000 men and women is the largest and most comprehensive study of single adults to date. And it reveals a sea change in gender expectations.
“Men are now expressing some traditionally female attitudes, while women are adopting some of those long attributed to men,” says biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, who helped develop the survey with social historian Stephanie Coontz and Justin Garcia, a doctoral fellow with the Institute for Evolutionary Studies at Binghamton (N.Y.) University.
Not sure how this is “evolution.” More like DE-volution and regression.
“For me, as a historian, it’s just amazing confirmation about what has changed in the last 40 years,” says Coontz, professor of history and family studies at Evergreen State College in Olympia, Wash.
Yes, an “amazing confirmation” of how far America has fallen in the last 40 years. If you don’t think there’s a correlation between the rise in ignorance and failure in math and science, the breakdown of the American family and society mores, and just overall decline in America since 1970 AND the feminist revolution, you’re simply a moron. Gloria Steinem and Betty Friedan may have been derided and mocked. And the Equal Rights Amendment might have lost. But they won. They won. The fact that women are the new men, and men are the new women in America is the ultimate victory for the NOW hags. Again, they won.
The online survey of singles ages 21 and older was conducted by market research firm MarketTools for the Dallas-based dating website Match.com. Fisher, a research professor at Rutgers University, is a scientific adviser for a division of Match.com.
Data show men are quicker to fall in love and more likely than women to want children: 54% of men say they have experienced love at first sight, compared with 44% of women; among singles without children under 18, more men (24%) than women (15%) say they want children.
And, across every age group, women want more independence than men in their relationships: 77% of women say having their personal space is “very important,” vs. 58% for men; 78% of women say the same about having their own interests and hobbies (vs. 64% for men). And 35% of women (vs. 23% of men) say regular nights out with the guys/girls are important.
Kathleen Gerson, a sociology professor at New York University who did not participate in the survey, says the attitudes echo her findings on 18- to 32-year-olds born in the 1970s, 1980s and 1990s, which reflect “a blurring of gender boundaries.”
“Men do feel more empowered to acknowledge their desires for commitment and their desires for connection,” says Gerson, author of The Unfinished Revolution: Coming of Age in a New Era of Gender, Work, and Family, out in March.
That’s a sugar-coated, euphemism-filled, diplomatic way of telling the truth, which is that men are feeling more empowered to be girlie. Admit it. That’s what she’s saying. Whip out the lipstick, guyliner, man-blouses, and frilly lace for men. Sounds like there’s now a huge market.
The title of her book makes it clear that feminists are celebrating because this is a huge victory for them. There’s a reason her book title is “Unfinished Revolution.” The ultimate goal of the feminist revolution is that men are relegated to female roles and women become the men. That’s happened. The only thing left to “finish” the revolution is to gloat . . . and find a way to have kids without sperm.
Sherri Langburt of New York, founder of SingleEdition.com, a lifestyle website for singles, says she has noticed the changes in what men and women ask the site’s panel of experts.
“Men are writing us more about the emotional relationships than women. Women are writing us about the one-night stands,” Langburt says. “Women are (asking) if it’s OK — ‘Can I have a one-night stand?’ Men are writing, ‘I’m single and I’m lonely and want to find love and can’t admit it to anyone.’ ” . . .
The 5,199 singles surveyed include the never married (56%), divorced (31%), widowed (10%) and separated (3%) who were not in a serious relationship at the time. Of the total, 5% were gay or lesbian; 4% were bisexual; and 0.1% identified as transgender.
Among other findings . . . .
•Hookups and one-night stands can turn into partnerships. Thirty-five percent have had a one-night stand that turned into a long-term relationship.
Like I said, you keep telling yourself that, sluts. Sorry, but that number sounds very high. It’s basically a bunch of lying women not wanting to admit the truth–to themselves or those conducting the study. The world doesn’t operate like the predictable, unrealistic movie, “No Strings Attached” (read my review).
The survey did not define a “hookup” for participants, but Garcia’s research calls it “a sexual encounter between people who are not dating or in a relationship, and where a more traditional romantic relationship is not an explicit condition of the encounter.”
Regardless, it’s pretty clear that there’s no coincidence that a declining masculinity in men and an increasing masculinity in women is happening at the same time as America is declining in every aspect more than ever.
Chickified men = chickified–and failed–America.
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