February 10, 2009, - 11:30 pm

The End of Parenting: The Complete Morons Who Take Their Kids to “Friday the 13th”

By Debbie Schlussel
Tonight, I concluded that the decline of America is increasing with rapidity and escalation far worse than I’ve earlier diagnosed.
I just returned from a special critics and promotional screening of the latest installment of the “Friday The 13th” movie franchise. This latest one bears the same name as the 1980 original–simply, “Friday the 13th.” And I watched parents voluntarily subject their very young children to graphic, bloody violence, from which many parents in the Third World only wish they could shield their kids.
Al-Qaeda murdered 3,000 Americans on 9/11. That was an outrage. But thousands more American parents–who are merely sperm, egg, and womb donors–are doing to this country what Al-Qaeda could never do. These American parents have voluntarily turned their kids’ minds to mush–kids who will still be around, who will “grow up,” and who will continue to add to America’s decline.

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Does This Look Like It’s for Babies & 10-Year-Olds?

In the past, I’ve complained on this site about selfish parents who take their babies to the movies, so we hear them crying instead of the movie. And I’ve lamented that irresponsible parents take their very young kids to violent, graphic, sex-laden, R-rated movies like this one. This latest “Friday the 13th,” should have been rated NC-17 and, a few years ago, it would have been. But Hollywood is desperate to keep teens coming to these flicks and manages to get the ratings standards relaxed.
But while I blame Hollywood for creating ever trashier garbage, I blame these pseudo-parents far more.
Tonight, I saw ever more extreme examples of this–of the morons who are “raising” America’s next generation.
“Friday The 13th” is what you’d expect–except that it’s more graphic, bloody, and violent than ever. Posters and passes to the free screening of this movie say, “FROM THE PRODUCERS OF THE TEXAS CHAINSAW MASSACRE.” (There are more graphic beheadings in this movie than a dozen Al-Qaeda videos.) It also is more replete with topless, heavily-implanted women, sexual language and content, and a prolonged, very explicit sex scene.
It’s NOT for kids. But fewer and fewer parents in America seem to care anymore.
Tonight, I saw–or rather, heard–at least two crying babies at the “Friday the 13th” showing. And I saw at least two parents with VERY young, impressionable kids. It was one of those times I wish I had a video camera with me. I spoke with each of these parents I saw.
First, the babies. I understand that it’s “Friday The 13th.” It’s no masterpiece. More like the anti-masterpiece. I expected lots of laughter at supposedly scary points in the movie and lots of talking back to the screen.
But I didn’t expect surround-sound baby. Two single parents–a baby mama and a baby daddy–brought their babies to the movie. They didn’t think: Hmmm . . . I don’t wanna or can’t afford to spring for a baby sitter. So, the right thing to do would be to be a good parent and a good citizen and stay home with my kid.
Nope, they thought: I wanna see a free movie, and damn it if I have this inconvenient product of my slutty single sex life get in the way. I’m gonna go see that movie, not matter what. And I don’t give a crap if the rest of the people in the theater can’t enjoy the movie when my baby predictably cries or makes noises.
That was selfish enough. But, then, as you’d predict, their babies repeatedly cried, cooed, and screamed during the entire movie. Not once did they get up and leave the theater. No, that would ruin their movie-viewing experience. Who gives a crap about the rest of the people in the theater?
I asked both of the parents of these babies why they brought their crying babies to the movies. Both happened to be Black, but don’t you worry that this is a race thing, because I’ll get to the two moronic single White mothers who brought their young kids later on in this column.
First, there was a single Black mother with her baby. I shouted to her, “Why did you bring a baby to “Friday the 13th?” “Shut up, bitch,” was the response. To another film critic’s questions, she and her friends said, “Mind ya own damn bid’ness.” Um, well, we would, if we wouldn’t have to hear the result of your bid’ness throughout the movie, sister.
Then, there was the single Black father and his aging mother with a baby. I’d bet money his mother is raising this grandkid. They were parked next to me, and after the movie, I asked, “Why was it necessary for you to bring your baby to ‘Friday the 13th’? Don’t you think that’s rude and irresponsible?”
His response: “He say he wanna get scared.”
Me: “Huh? How old is this kid? Can he even talk?”
Baby Daddy: “He one-year-old.”
Me: “A one-year-old can understand what’s going on in ‘Friday the 13th’? Come on . . . .”
Baby Daddy: “You’d be surprised.”
Me, getting into my car: “Well, that’s very irresponsible parenting and very rude to the rest of us who heard his crying.”
Then, there are the two White, single mothers with their kids, who looked to be between the ages of 8 and 11.
White Single Mother #1 took two young daughters to see this disgustingly violent, explicitly sexual movie. I asked her youngest daughter how old she was. She looked at me and her mother like even she knew she wasn’t old enough to be there.
White Single Mother (WSM) #1: “She’s eleven.”
Me: “Why would you take an eleven-year-old girl to see this movie?”
WSM #1: “Well, if I would have known it would be like this . . . .”
Me: “If you would have known?! Lady, it’s ‘Friday the 13th.'”
And it’s R-rated. WSM #1 threw her hands up and smiled because she knew quite well what the content of “Friday the 13th.” It’s not like there haven’t been a gazillion sequels to and incarnations of this movie over the last three decades (the first was in 1980).
Me: “Great parenting. You’re a moron.”
White Single Mother #2 had a teeny, tiny, young boy with her. I asked the boy how old he is. He, too, had the same look of guilt as White Single Mother #1’s daughter. He knew he shouldn’t be at this movie.
White Single Mother (WSM) #2: “He’s ten.”
Me: “Why are you taking a ten-year-old to see such a graphic, violent movie?”
WSM #2: “It’s only a movie. And, yeah, I know it’s violent and stuff, but he knows right from wrong. And ya know, it’s only a movie and stuff.”
Me: “Huh? That’s Bullsh-t. He’s only ten and you’re taking him to a movie where people are hacked to death, burned alive, and otherwise killed in morbid, grisly ways?”
WSM #2: “I can’t believe you just cussed in front of my son.”
Me: “Why does that suddenly bother you, since you just dragged your ten-year-old son to a movie at eleven o-clock at night, in which they’re swearing throughout the entire movie? [Every other word is sh-t, f-ck, the p-word, etc.] You’re completely irresponsible.”
WSM #2: “Well, that’s not real. Mind your own business.”
You know what? I wish Americans could mind their own business. I wish that we didn’t have so many morons, so many irresponsible people raising kids in America. But that is my business, and it’s yours, too. Because how they raise–or rather, don’t raise–their kids is going to affect us and future generations of this country. “Deep Throat” is “just a movie,” too. I wonder why this woman isn’t also showing that to her 10-year-old. Or maybe she is.
Trust me–this isn’t the first time White Single Mothers #1 and #2 are subjecting their kids to these kinds of movies, violence, and sex, because they, themselves, can’t pass up a free movie ticket. If they have no problem with this, odds are that they have no problem with a lot of other objectionable things that come up in raising their kids. And the same goes for Black Single Mom and Father. They’ll do the same. These so-called parents have no sense, no basic standard of what it means to be responsible, to raise your child with the tools to be good people and use common sense. It’s, frankly, indecent. And sickeningly selfish.
And this is one of the reasons I’m not optimistic about America’s future.
When I was a kid, my parents investigated the movies I saw BEFORE I saw them. They didn’t let me see the movies I was too young to see. They didn’t view parenting as a passive, go-through-the-motions avocation. It was their very serious vocation. (And they taught me to be a polite citizen–not to consider a movie theater my own personal living room, in which I can answer my cell phone, bring a crying baby, provide John Madden-style endless play-by-play color commentary of the obvious regarding what’s happening on-screen, or otherwise disturb everyone else repeatedly.)
At first, my father wouldn’t let me see “Star Wars,” because he heard there were monsters and scary-looking people in it. I was seven or eight at the time and begged him to see it. He saw it on his own first to check it out and loved it, realizing that his concerns were not borne out. He couldn’t wait to take us. But I’m glad–and lucky–that I had a parent who cared enough to be concerned in the first place.
When I was in high school, my dad wouldn’t let me see “Risky Business” because it glorified prostitution and pimping (as a way to get into the college of your choice). But compared to the new “Friday the 13th,” “Risky Business” is nothing.
Sorry, but parents who take their ten-year-olds to see “Friday the 13th” shouldn’t have kids. It’s child abuse of a more insidious kind.
These were just four irresponsible parents–all single parents, too. But I’ve seen other parents take their young kids to violent, risque movies. And there are, sadly, tens of thousands–probably hundreds of thousands and even millions–of American parents just like them who just don’t give a damn.
They don’t give a damn about the rest of the people in the theater. And, even worse, they don’t care a whit about their own children.
And when people don’t care enough about their own kids, who and what will they care about?
Certainly not the rest of their country. The stuff to which you subject your children is the stuff that they will be.
Garbage in, garbage out. And sadly, we have a lot of trash to take out in America.
Let’s take out the trash before it takes us out.

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36 Responses

Ugh, I have no stomach for gory films. I’m very squeamish, and rarely see stuff that’s rated R. Kinda wimpy for a 44 year-old, but that’s how I am!
Dad’s a southern Baptist minister and his flavor of religion forbids all movies (the Devil’s work, along with secular music, card games and booze).
Mom, however, is Salvation Army and we sneaked out to the odd Disney matinee when I was a kid. That being said, she always VERY CAREFULLY vetted movies and music before we went shopping. She even screened a BTO album for my aunt before giving it to her son for his birthday. Two songs later it went back to my aunt to be returned.
And mom would have had my scalp if I ever behaved like that in a theater!

mplumb on February 11, 2009 at 1:48 am

I used to go to a lot of early free movies. But as you see, more and more people would bring more and more distractions, uh I mean kids.
At one screening, the guy from Lionsgate actually went and told the 2 single moms with 6 kids that the movie was very graphic and they shouldn’t be there. They told him to mind his own business and that their kids were ok with this. Not twenty minutes in to the film a couple of women got so disgusted they got up and left. But the 2 mother of the year award winners just kept talking and munching pop corn as the film got worse.
So now the wife and I rarely go to a film, we debate the cost (like I said the free ones are way to crowded and noisy), dealing with the crowd or just waiting to netflix it. netflix wins a lot.

ender on February 11, 2009 at 2:01 am

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You’ve got guts talking to people like this, be careful out there. My grandparents took my mom to the ‘Wizard of Oz’ when it first came out, she was 3, her first time in a movie theater. It was too scary, she wouldn’t stop crying, so they did the right thing, they left.
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absurd thought –
God of the Universe says
raise your kids with violence
bring them to slasher movies
encourage playing with knives
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USpace on February 11, 2009 at 2:07 am

As usual, Debbie is spot on. Kids everywhere are everybody’s business. Unfortunately, due to negligence, our business is about to fold. Part of the problem is our elected officials who disregard little things, like, say, paying their taxes, claiming their limos. They coarsen society for all of us by setting a Bad Example. The movies clearly have age restrictions, yet the ignorant parents disregard them. These parents should be ticketed for gross neglect. As in the case of Octop*ssy, the baby machine, a lot of the so called “parents” are simply having kids to keep themselves from being alone. Debbie is right. Obscene selfishness times Ten. Even alleged ‘parenting” sites are useless, because you have the liberal Know-Nothings come in, take over, and frankly, give bad advice. People seem to have conveniently forgotten that kids are not little adults. When I was eight, my ignorant caregivers (sheesh) let me stay up to watch “In Cold Blood” with truman capote and “Psycho” by hitchcock. Those movies left permanent scars on my psyche. Too bad. After all, I wanted to stay up to watch them. No parental guidance. I guess that would be today’s slogan. “No Parental Guidance Necessary” See. Easy.

Roads Skolar on February 11, 2009 at 8:14 am

Debbie didn’t have her initials quite correct when using WSM. to describe the White Single Mother,
It should have been WTSM, for White Trash Single Mother.
A minor point, but hey I like things done right.

smg45acp on February 11, 2009 at 8:16 am

I was at this screening last night as well Debbie. I don’t think that Scorsese needs to worry about his greatness being challenged anytime soon. I did enjoy it for what it was.
That being said, I was asking myself the same exact question that you posed in your blog today.
Why, OH WHY, would someone bring their INFANT KIDS to a Friday the 13th movie?
I’ve been to many movie screenings in the past several months. I go to the movies to get away from the realities of the world we live in.
I do not want to sit in a movie theatre clinching my fists, turning around telling people to shut up because they think the actor can hear them say “Child don’t OPEN THAT DO'”
But back to the infants, I totally agree with what your reaction was Debbie. It was quite annoying to hear a kid crying throughout the movie last night, and I heard another person tell the kid to shut up as well.
Also, PLEASE PEOPLE ENOUGH WITH THE CELL PHONE AND TEXT MESSAGING while you’re watching a movie. Are people that scary important that they must respond to text messages while the movie is playing?
Thanks for the post today, and thanks for allowing me to rant.

trewsdetroit on February 11, 2009 at 8:28 am

Why would ANYONE want to see this

mindy1 on February 11, 2009 at 8:31 am

Once went out with a projects girl and the whole family, including her 3-year-old niece, was gathered around the TV set watching “Hellraiser” like it was a Disney movie!
PREPARES them for the violence they have to see on the streets though.

EminemsRevenge on February 11, 2009 at 8:31 am

Once again I must thank Deb for her sacrafice so that we may be enlightened. And for the rest of you I only have two words: bigscreen TV.

KrazyKafir on February 11, 2009 at 9:10 am

Here’s a story of a Mom, Dad, and three kids (an actual family unit) coming into a theater playing…Adam Sandler’s 8 Crazy Nights! It’s a cartoon, after all. It’s ok for kids! I leaned over to my husband and said that they would be gone before the 15 minute mark. Sure enough, Mom dragged the kids out during the outhouse/frozen poop scene. Dad had his tail between his legs and followed his brood out the door.
I couldn’t help it. I laughed out loud.

cirrus1701 on February 11, 2009 at 9:15 am

I decided to work a part time job last year and worked security at the movies at Fairlane shopping mall in Dearborn (detroit). A friend of mine that helped get me the job laughingly referred to the dolts that brought their infants and toddlers to midnight shows as “Mother”, or “Father of the Year”. Working in a prison, as a safety mechanism, I look at people differently than most people. They clearly resembled the inmate families that come to visit their idiot prisoner in they famly. The dead look in the eyes that is a result of years of blunts and excessive drinking on a daily basis as well as a life of leisure spent sitting on a couch with no drive for a purpose driven life. The stupid sagging pants that make the person look like an over grown midget, black or white. Pants that low have the effect of making the idiot wearing them have to shuffle slowly when walking. Lazy. These people rarely go to the 11:45am or the 1pm show so those are the ones I go to if ever more rarely these days. Crack heads and other drug abusers sleep in A LOT.

samurai on February 11, 2009 at 9:28 am

Also it’s none of our bidnes until we have to use tax dollars to lock up or otherwise fund their idiots that are reproduced.

samurai on February 11, 2009 at 9:32 am

It’s sad that parents don’t take the time or responsibility to actually raise their children. I have a son and daughter who are 11 and 9 respectively. And my son ask me all the time to see these stupid movies when he sees a commercial for them on TV. I flat out say No and there’s no debate about it. My wife and I, in fact monitor their computer usage too.
The problem is many of these kind of people who don’t take responsibility. Never really wanted kids or not at that juncture in their lives. It simply happened due to having sex. But, they don’t think of the ramifications of their desires. When I initially got married, we held off on kids. We wanted the ability to travel, take long weekends and so forth. We knew once you have kids. Things change, for the better and in a different way. I have no regrets having my children. They and my wife are my life. But, I knew being a parent was a huge responsibility and needed to be contended with very seriously.
My wife usually takes our children to the early showings. I go when I can. Point being is parents need to monitor all aspects of their childrens lives and activities. We’re not suppose to be their friend. That will happen once they’re older and in the mid-20’s.
Taking a child to a movie which isn’t appropriate for their age. Should be prosecuted for child neglect. And the manager of the theater should be charged too.

Tenn Scholar on February 11, 2009 at 9:43 am

I’m glad you said something to these idiots, Debbie. That’s a trait I have in common with you–I will say something to the idiot. Love that, “sh’up bitch!” Ah, yes, what a country!
As for the movie itself, you can tell a lot about a people by what entertains it. In old Rome the gladiators and feeding people to lions and stuff–it was all great eye candy. Seems we are getting there again. When Sodom and Gomorrah got bad enough, the judgment rained down–that’s where we are headed.

BB on February 11, 2009 at 9:57 am

I totally agree that bringing young children to this kind of event is child abuse. In fact, I think Child Protective Services should station agents at the doors to theaters showing this kind of stuff and investigate the kids’ home situation. Seriously. It’s child abuse, and the kids would be better off in foster care.
I also think that if I hear a parent speaking to a child in a public place, and it’s obvious that the parent can’t speak a word of English, that should be grounds for a CPS investigation. That parent is virtually ensuring that the kid won’t be able to hold a job, so either they should be deported to their mother country where they can speak Spanish to their heart’s content, or compel them to enroll in English classes.

jsm555 on February 11, 2009 at 10:46 am

Completely agreed with you, Debbie. I am disgusted with Hollywood churning out nihilistic movies (most recent horror films) for the purpose of promoting nihilism in the minds of young people. Classic horror movies (of long ago) were always a variety of good-vs-evil yarns. I think the fascination of seeing people get slashed or hacked up violently onscreen began with Alfred Hitchock’s classic, “Psycho” and Hollywood has been churning up more and more nihilistic-based horror films, each trying to outdo each other for insanely shock values.
Debbie, you did not just saw a horror movie, you saw a nihilistic movie and it’s really sad to see stupid single parents bringing their kids to see nihilistic movies. Hollywood did a great job of influencing these single parents and others for years before that way.

Bobby's Brain on February 11, 2009 at 10:48 am

Debbie,
You are so right! I find it abusive for these idiots to take their children to these things.
A few years ago, I GOT A SITTER FOR MY KIDS, and my husband and I went to Born on the Fourth of July (I know, not a great choice!)! In the front row of the theatre there was a couple with a child of about 10 years of age. I could not focus on the movie, all I kept thinking about was that poor boy. After the movie, as I was coming out of the bathroom stall, that ‘mother’ was standing in line waiting to use the bathroom. I took a deep breath and walked up to her and said, “This may be none of my business but don’t you think that bringing a child to this movie is rather abusive?” The women behind her looked shocked! That ‘mother’ looked at me like I was a bug and said, “You’re right. It isn’t any of your business.” Maybe, but hopefully she thought about that next time she wanted to go see a movie and not get a sitter!

Nora on February 11, 2009 at 11:17 am

Kudos to you for having the guts to confront members of the underclass. I prefer to distance myself as far as possible. Unfortunately, none of them will have learned anything from your comments. This is because archaic pillars of decorum have been destroyed over the last 40 or 50 years. Things like shame, personal responsibility, discipline, etc., are completely foreign concepts to these people. Our modern society has insured this in an effort to be “inclusive” (one of the left’s guiding principles). What this has created is an ever expanding underclass.

spiffo on February 11, 2009 at 12:38 pm

Simple message to everyone here: Don’t go to the theatre anymore. Just wait for the movie to come out on DVD.
Since we live in a “I don’t give a fuck” society, let’s send a message to the psychonuts and not attend the movies anymore.

Squirrel3D on February 11, 2009 at 2:09 pm

I was a single mother for 5 years. I worked hard at 2 jobs but was still able to spend a lot of time with my son. He was always my priority. I am now married with 3 children and they don’t even watch a TV show without my screening it first. Children are sponges what they take in eventually gets wrung out. Those poor poor children. Those pathetic pathetic parents.

MTMama on February 11, 2009 at 2:46 pm

Going on about personal responsibility and shame immeadiately after talking about how you shield yourself from the “underclass” is quite rich. Nice code words, too.

stormhit on February 11, 2009 at 3:59 pm

Funny story:
Back in grad school a few of us decided to knock off the studying and go see Bad Boys. The 1983 version with a young Sean Penn that is set in Chicago. We took in a cheap afternoon matinee.
A few rows in front of us there were three black guys and they were being boisterous, but the lights hadn’t gone down. There was a slightly built poindexter sitting behind them, he looked to be alone, and he was pick, pick, picking at them for talking. He wouldn’t ask them directly to quiet down, he just kept complaining to no one in particulary about their noise. Finally one of the three stood up and turned around to face poindexter as the lights began to dim. All of a sudden you could hear a pin drop in that theater. I expected poindexter to get his ass beat. But the brother just said, “Man, you act like you paid a million bucks to see this movie.” Then he sat down and he and his friends were quiet throughout the film. I think poindexter soiled himself.

Richard on February 11, 2009 at 4:33 pm

Debbie I think you learned or you already knew “Never underestimate the POWER OF STOOOOPID PEOPLE”. The country has fallen over the cliff and we are in free-fall just waiting for the crash. I can go on and on, but to make it short, I empathize with your anger and now I have accepted it and now laugh at society. I guess more out of frustration that I laugh. Hollywood and liberals have created a breakdown in family and society, then enable them to do more damage to themselves by bringing them to the trough and eat more slop. Pigs on parades.
http://poorwilliam.net/pix/pigs_trough.jpg
I don’t support banning such films. Only adults should go in the theaters for these type of films. However, with rights comes responsibilities. Because you have a right to do something doesn’t mean you allow your children to do adult things. Children are impressionable and allowing them to be formed by disgusting movies is irresponsible. Poor parenting ends up being a burden on our society because they will inevitably ask from us because they weren’t parented right. And every step of the way there were liberals preventing accountability.
Hey Hollywood knows that “You can never go broke underestimating the intelligence OF STOOOOPID PEOPLE”
Keep up the passion and fierceness. Society needs more Debbie Schlussels. YOU ROCK!!

californiascreaming on February 11, 2009 at 4:47 pm

when I was a kid my parents to us to see mary poppins and the sound of music. I wonder what this generation will take their future kids to see?

Chuck W on February 11, 2009 at 4:51 pm

    @Chuck W (though comment is really old)

    So, so many irresponsible self-centered parents in this world, they will take their kids to see EVERYTHING. They will drag their 1-year-olds to see everything from ‘About a Boy’ (pretty dull, boredom-squirm-inspiring movie), to 300, Kill Bill, and Texas Chainsaw Massacre, to Debbie Does Dallas, Boobalicious, The Devil In Miss Jones… they do not care AT ALL. (I have seen only the first 2 of these movies, the rest I yanked off of Google to make a point)

    ptaylor77 on December 7, 2014 at 7:47 pm

      I am so sorry, Debbie Schlussel. I completely forgot what site this is and who owns it, the choice of the first of the last 3 movies means *no* disrespect to you… I was simply swept away on my out-of-control rampaging soapbox and the movie title is one I’ve heard pinged around a lot, so I figured it might be easily identifiable, plus I was looking for ways to make this point without putting TOO many awful words on this website that do not belong here (I am, of course, not going to say them now, as that would completely defeat my purpose!). Delete my comment if you so choose, I apologize and I will not be bothering you or your website with my comments again.

      ptaylor77 on December 7, 2014 at 7:52 pm

The pagans lack revelation and therefore enlightenment.
Theology and morality is the package Iím thinking of. Theyíve become mindless Ichabods bantered about by the many voices found in our ìworldî. To expect these flatsouled pagans, or goats to be paragons of virtue, or to take a righteous stand, about anything, can only be laughable.
Really, they are the lowest of the low and hell will be crammed full with their type. They are parallel beings whereby their stupidity entirely matches and powers their lack of spirituality.
Their unreflected lives arenít even worth living.
I donít remember what nun, the mother superior, of which order, who earnestly mouthed the prayer, ìLord save us from stupid people.î But we need to invoke that ancient and direct prayer again today. And mean it!
We also need to beseech the heavenly court, all the angels and saints, past, present, and future who can also aid in the task.
By the way, the only folk on a lower rung than those deplorable moviegoers you engaged Debbie, are comprised of those celeb ninnies who publicly pledged themselves to be better Americans, for Prez Obama. I HAVE NEVER seenÖsuch asinine overtures!
Most Laughable
Me: “A one-year-old can understand what’s going on in ‘Friday the 13th’? Come on . . . .”
Baby Daddy: “You’d be surprised.”
Baby Daddy weíre really surprised at your depth of stupidity. A more intelligent version of yourself would be absolutely embarrassed by that addled assertion.
Most Insightful, Prophetic
WSM #2: “I can’t believe you just cussed in front of my son.”
Me: “Why does that suddenly bother you, since you just dragged your ten-year-old son to a movie at eleven o-clock at night, in which they’re swearing throughout the entire movie? [Every other word is sh-t, f-ck, the p-word, etc.] You’re completely irresponsible.”
May the truth, WSM #2, which you pagans needed to hear from Debbie, or somebodyÖwhile thereís still time, and hope, slowly settle in on youñ Listen and learn.

The Canadien on February 11, 2009 at 6:20 pm

My ten-year-old son thinks I’m the nerdiest, most fogeyish, un-cool mom around because I don’t let him see a lot of movies that other kids his age are watching. I not only watch out for sex and violence but the MESSAGE of the movie–since sometimes the insinuations and worldview you find in a PG movie can be much worse than the language and skin in a PG-13 movie. There’s a lot of anti-God, anti-Church, anti-marriage, anti-family crap that permeates many movies. Prime example: “In and Out,” rated PG, which made all the straight people look like assholes and losers, whereas all the really cool, fun, nice, enlightened characters were gay.
As for television, we don’t even HAVE it in our home. No way! We do have a set for playing videos and DVDs, but at least that way, we can thoughtfully CHOOSE what we will see.
So my kids complain. But I DON’T CARE. Let ‘em complain! A kid who NEVER hears the word NO is a kid who will never grow up.
When I was a teen, my mom wouldn’t let me see “The Godfather” or “The Exorcist”–and though I complained at the time, now that I’m older I’m tremendously grateful that she cared about me enough to protect me from extremely disturbing things that would have haunted me for years afterward.
Images are very powerful–especially MOVING images with sound, as in the cases of TV and movies. Really disturbing images work their way into your brain and can be next to impossible to get rid of.
Debbie, I agree with you that these stupid parents are committing child abuse. I never thought of actually CONFRONTING total strangers about it, though! You are an inspiration! I’ll try to work up my nerve to do likewise in the future.

Kathy from Kansas on February 12, 2009 at 12:38 am

“WSM #2: I can’t believe you just cursed in front of my son.”
Oh man, the irony! If the situation weren’t so ultimately awful I would laugh my head off. Spot on with the family commentary, Debbie, but you always are so it’s not a surprise. :)
Last Summer I had three annoying movie experiences in a row, I thought I was cursed, and I purposefully go to movies on weekdays in an attempt to avoid the idiots. Went to see X-Files 2, people had brought their infants. Went to The Dark Knight and one guy had brought his 10ish looking year old son who wouldn’t stop asking dad questions at first. Once Joker’s antics got under way, however, the kid quieted down. Then there was Hellboy 2. Someone actually brought their dog with them, I’m not kidding. I kept hearing wimpering in the movie theater.
What’s next? Cats? Hamsters? Some idiot could smuggle in their pet boa constrictor and I could end up being squeezed to death in the theater. Considering the horrible dreck that so many movies are now, I may end up welcoming that experience.

solitary_dan on February 13, 2009 at 10:25 am

Admittedly, I am an ancient crone (56). But I actually was young once, and I had parents. When I was 15 I was going on a double date with my boyfriend and his friend who had recently gotten his license to drive – this was a big deal because before then we had always needed a parent to take us.
I was pretty nervous being out with such a new driver, but my father took care of that. He announced to everyone that HIS daughter was not going to drive with an unproven driver, and that if they expected me to go with them that the fellow would have to drive my father around first. Of course, I rolled my eyes and apologized for my father, but inwardly I was cheering. My no-nonsense German father made this poor kid drive him around our neighborhood for a while before he pronounced himself satisfied and allowed me to go. Please believe me when I say that if the kid had not passed muster my father would have kept me home.
My father loved this country, and when we buried him a little over a year ago he had a military funeral – he went to his grave covered in the flag of the United States of America, because he was always so proud of having worn an Army uniform. But he was always highly critical of those American parents who wanted to be “friends” with their kids. He always said, “I’m not your friend, I’m your father.” We need more fathers like him, not fewer. There is no substitute for male authority properly applied; just as much as children need their mothers, both boys and girls need a strong male figure in their lives.

Michal on February 14, 2009 at 5:38 pm

Debbie,while I agree that young children and babies should never be taken to a film like this I have to wonder just who in the hell you and most of these posters think they are.Who in the hell made you the morality patrol.I would NEVER take my children to see a movie like this or anything close to it, hell I thought Bolt was a little too violent for them at ages 7 and 6 however, I must repeat, who in the hell do you think you are?If you ever spoke to my child as a stranger let alone put down our parenting abilities, you would find yourself slapped across your smug face, as you deserve.The “underclass” as one of your posters described some of these people do not need your permission to do as they please.Posting child welfare agents at theatre doors?Are we in cold war era Russia or is this still the United States of America?While there is no room for this level of irresponsible parenting like this in our country, there is also no room for the level of arrogance and elitism that pours from you.Posting your opinions in your own column is one thing, actually approaching parents and insulting them in front of their children is unacceptable and you should have been slapped or at least put in your place.You can be right without being a bitch,and in the end thats really how you make yourself look, like an arrogant bitch.
[MS: AND YOU’D BE BEHIND BARS FOR YOUR BEHAVIOR. AND PROBABLY WERE RAISED BY THE SAME SINGLE MOTHER WHO TOOK HER TEN YEAR OLD TO SEE THIS MOVIE, SINCE YOU’VE JUST ANNOUNCED YOU HAVE THE SAME PROCLIVITY FOR VIOLENCE THAT SUBJECTING KIDS TO A MOVIE LIKE THIS CREATES. WE DON’T NEED TO BE IN COLD WAR RUSSIA. WE’RE ALREADY IN A FAR WORSE PLACE BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO SUPPORT CRAP LIKE THIS COMING OUT OF HOLLYWOOD. YOU ARE WHAT YOU WATCH. CRAP IS CRAP AND LIKES CRAP. DS]

matthewsenior on February 21, 2009 at 9:32 am

Who do you think you are to judge this kind of thing?
WHO CARES IF SOME LADY WANTS TO TAKE HER KID TO SEE A GRAPHIC FILM? IT DOES NOT AFFECT YOU IN ANY WAY.
Stop trying to censor things from people. Fascist scum like you really piss me off.
[USA: WHEN THAT KID GROWS UP TO BEAT, RAPE, AND IMPREGNATE YOUR FEMALE RELATIVE, IT WON’T “AFFECT ME IN ANY WAY,”EITHER. RIGHT? DITTO FOR WHEN HE HACKS YOU TO DEATH. HERE’S A HINT: FASCIST SCUM ARE THE PEOPLE WHO STAKE THEIR LIVES ON GARBAGE LIKE THIS (AND GARBAGE LIKE YOU). DS]

United States of Anarchy on March 4, 2009 at 7:16 pm

While I agree that movies like this are not for children and it may not be the wisest judgment call on the part of the parents to allow their children to come along with them, I do have two things I take great offense to.
1. You cursed at these parents who you were interrogating about their bringing their children to the movie. Yes, it was a bad judgment call, but hello? What are you, a teenager? Because last time I checked, that was the age group that cusses at people to display their disdain. Let’s all be adults here, m’kay?
2. Your statement “I wanna see a free movie, and damn it if I have this inconvenient product of my slutty single sex life” appalled me. Excuse me? Single parents are now considered single sluts? Since when was that? I mean, sure they shouldn’t have brought their children, but this comment was so uncalled for. You have no idea what their situation is and how they got to be single parents. Maybe their husband/wife died in Iraq. Maybe they were left, maybe they were violently abused and they left and got their child out. Maybe it’s none of these things, but come now, have a little common decency and give these HUMAN BEINGS the benefit of the doubt before automatically writing them off as “single sluts”.

WriterBee on March 11, 2009 at 6:03 pm

A lot of folks responded that they agreed that movies are too violent “these days” and that it should stopped. I don’t believe the author of this blog said that. She simply said that these types of movies weren’t appropraite for kids.

Don’t people want to continue living in a “free” country? I am amazed at how many American citizens call for things to be banned. People who would give up freedoms to feel a sense of security don’t deserve either.

Daniel on October 18, 2009 at 7:14 am

Ur all so fucking dumb.don’t bash things.u mothers and family people.u probably grap ur purse when a black guy walks by.ur all just stuck up bitches who need to rant and bitchie.i mean debbie whore is ur ugly fat leader who have 3 kids and watch i love lucy for 7 hours

Cmyers on August 13, 2011 at 1:23 am

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