June 21, 2009, - 11:31 am

The Real National Security: Strong & Present Fathers; Every Day Should Be Father’s Day in America

By Debbie Schlussel
Today is the 100th anniversary of the establishment of Father’s Day.
As longtime readers know, my father was the single most important influence on my life. Today is not only Father’s Day, but it would be his 72nd birthday. (Read my Father’s Day tribute to my dad from last year.)
In my view, fathers are far more important in children’s lives than any other figure, even mothers. For young boys, they serve to teach them how to be a man. Not just by words, but–far more key–by their actions, their conduct, their behavior. The ideal father teaches his son how to be a good citizen and patriot, how to be moral and decent and care about others who are less fortunate, the importance of hard work, of good ethics, of how to treat women, and how to act with dignity and respect for authority and fellow beings.

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Me and My Dad
For young girls, fathers serve to teach daughters how they should be treated by a man, how he should behave toward them. And, for daughters, fathers are often far more influential in teaching the same lessons on citizenship, behavior, and decency than any other influence in their lives.
My own father taught me all of these things and to have the courage of my convictions. That principle is far more expensive than anything else. And far more important. That family and love for your children reign supreme along with allegiance to G-d and country.
But far too many kids in America never learn these things because they’ve never had a father in their lives. And the problem in America is growing. It’s no coincidence that the decline of America is concurrent with the decline of fathers and men in America.
In Wisconsin, where the problem of matriarchal families lacking fathers is representative of that in other states, Democrat Gov. Jim Doyle has declared June “Fathers Make a Difference Month.”
That’s because, according to Doyle, one in every four children in Wisconsin grows up in a single-parent household and 21 percent of children are raised by single mothers.

Doyle says fathers are especially important to children under 3. Those kids learn and develop primarily through play and fathers spend more time engaging their children in play than any other adults in a child’s life.

In other states and the District of Columbia, the numbers of kids growing up without a father is astronomical. In many urban areas, upwards of 80% of kids have no father.
And as I’ve noted previously on this site, with 40% of American babies now born to single mothers, America is unique from other nations in that these single mother households have no father figure whatsoever. As I’ve also noted on this site, these single mothers are the irresponsible morons who take their kids to see graphically violent and sexually explicit movies, like “Friday The 13th.” They simply don’t care about their kids the way a father does.
In divorced families, in States like Michigan, fathers get full custody of their children only 7% of the time, whereas mothers get it over 70% of the time, a figure frequently cited by my friend, family law attorney and father’s rights activist Dennis Vatsis.
That’s not a good thing for America’s kids, and definitely a factor in why we are turning out wimpish, sensitive, slacker boys (and Obama voters), not strong, hard-working, achieving men.
Again, as regular readers know, on this site, every single day is Father’s Day, as it should be–but isn’t–in America.
Unlike the media and pop culture (which constantly mocks and denigrates fathers and men), I always recognize the importance of fathers and strong men in the lives of America’s kids and America, in general. It’s not something I note here 1/365th of the time.
Nor should that be the frequency that you recognize it. Strong fathers as heads of nuclear households are dying out, as a result of media, pop culture, and other societal influences.
And, again, along with that, our country is dying, too. Mr. Moms don’t make a great country. You cannot have a strong society that functions as a matriarchy. There have been no great, long-term matriarchies in history. And there won’t be. Wonder Woman is a figment of comic books and pop culture only.
So, if you are lucky enough to have a father in your life, I hope you appreciate him and the lessons he taught you. If you had a father in your life, his influence on you is everlasting, and there is no substitute.
And your recognition and appreciation of this should be a daily thing, not something restricted for today–a day that always pales in comparison for the homage we collectively pay on Mother’s Day.
To those of you who are fathers and grandfathers, Happy Father’s Day. And to my own Dad, Happy Father’s Day and Birthday to you. I miss and think of you every single day.
A nation of good father’s is the real national security that we are losing on a regular basis. Secure borders and freedom from Islamic terrorism won’t change that.
But the lack of strong, active fathers in America’s children’s lives only enhances and contributes to those problems from within.

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My Dad, H.L. Schlussel, MD (Center) Receives Award From

Michigan Lions Club for Providing Free Eye Care to the Poor, Blind
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What’s the best advice your father gave you? What did your dad say or do that influenced you or helped you in life?

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25 Responses

Sounds like a good man-too bad we can’t take his genes and put them in our congress. Happy fathers day

mindy1 on June 21, 2009 at 12:49 pm

Wonderful Tribute to fatherhood in general, and your father in particular, Debbie!! Our Country thrives in proportion to strong, patriotic, intelligent, morally upright, sacrificing, loving and brave men and fathers. Having a great father doesn’t always guarantee your success, but it sure helps. May G-d bless the Memory of your father.

Roads Skolar on June 21, 2009 at 1:16 pm

My dad taught me to work hard. Not to be a slacker but to go out and earn a good living. He also taught me humility. With all that I make I tell my wife not to buy me anything, but spend the money on the kids. Buy for them all that they need, and if there’s anything left, get me some simple shoes or a decent shirt. Never anything fancy. He taught me to put family first.

tita2juju on June 21, 2009 at 1:30 pm

Debbie would point out that almost all male criminals come from fatherless or broken homes where the father was either a remote or an abusive presence. Our society needs to have families with a strong and responsible father – or it will continue to suffer from social pathologies that wouldn’t be as widespread had it honored men and fatherhood. The two parent family is important to America’s future far more than a lot of Americans realize. Let’s all be thankful for the Dads who made us who we are today and to all the fathers to come.

NormanF on June 21, 2009 at 1:48 pm

I agree that all children need to have a strong father figure. Unfortunately, as Debbie and others have pointed out, we have many children growing up today with the experience of not having one.
At this point, we need to do two things as a society.
1) Attempt to influence everyone to commit to taking actions that encourage traditional families and to stay away from those actions that discourage traditional families.
2) Provide a way to reach those who have grown up in non traditional families that despite their own experiences step 1 is the best way to go for their children. I have no clue as to how to do this, but I believe the numbers of people in this category is so high that our society is in trouble if we don’t succeed at this.

i_am_me on June 21, 2009 at 1:55 pm

My father raised four children on his own starting when we were 12, 10, 8 and 5 (after my mother left us for another man). The most important thing he taught me was self-reliance. After having moved out and back into the house several times, he finally said no when I asked again. It was the best thing he could have done for me. I will never know all he sacrificed to keep us and raise us right, but I suspect it was a lot. He never remarried.

ChicagoGal on June 21, 2009 at 2:42 pm

The day that I discovered my father was my best friend: I came home late one Friday morning (or actually I didnÔø?t come home at all Thursday evening). Smelling obviously like booze and perfume, I was dropped off by a girl I had hooked up with the night before. And of course here was my father, right in front of the driveway, taking out the garbage. He looked at me with a smirk on his face and said, Ôø?Get to bed.Ôø? My mother, meanwhile, was FURIOUS, yelling at me for keeping her up all night. This rage continued at the dinner table later that evening; my mother still enraged at me for coming home so late. It was then my father intervened with, simply the greatest words a father could say in defending his son: Ôø?At least he wasnÔø?t out all night with a guy.Ôø?
I love ya forever, man. Happy FatherÔø?s Day.

jefft315 on June 21, 2009 at 2:48 pm

My father prefers to look forward in life and not backwards. It’s not like he refuses to acknowledge the past, he just prefers to keep moving forward. According to him, the past is done, so dwelling on it or worrying about it won’t change anything.
It really helps keep me going.

verbatim on June 21, 2009 at 4:05 pm

Debbie you are a great reflection of your father. He did a great job. The pictures of you and your father speak a thousand words.

californiascreaming on June 21, 2009 at 4:24 pm

My dad was a great guy too. He left this world a little too soon. He taught me to keep my eye on the ball and to work hard. He also taught me a great many other things that I too often take for granted. I’d rather be spending time with him than missing him, but that’s life.

Richard on June 21, 2009 at 4:52 pm

Thank you for displaying these lovely picture of your Dad, Dr. H.L. Schlussel!
Even though my sibs and I also lost our Dad too young (he was 69) he is still with us- a lifelong inspiration. I can’t imagine who I would be if I grew up without my father – a role model of integrity and courage – not to mention humor. Sure, when we kids made minor trouble and noise he would call up the stairs “What are you doing up there…you crazycatkids?!”

crazycatkids on June 21, 2009 at 6:45 pm

Dear Debbie:
I always enjoy those pictures of you and your father. I know you adored him and rightly so.
My father taught me that American Jews failed to adequately confront our government during the Shoah. He openly pleaded “guilty” and explained the mindset of the day. He told me not to be fooled by American leaders who are great orators like FDR; even if there are prominent Jews in the American government.

There is NO Santa Claus on June 21, 2009 at 10:21 pm

Whether our fathers are still with us or not, it is still a very important day for appreciation or rememberance of those who cared for us as no one else could.

Worry01 on June 21, 2009 at 10:21 pm

I would agree that President Obama is an example of a man who has never had a strong father figure in his life. There is a sense of incompleteness in him that is unnerving.
My father taught me to examine matters closely, rather than superficially. First impressions can often be misleading. Also, my father told me to read when I was very young. I have probably been better at the latter, rather than the former at times, but both are still my goals. Regretably, he will probably not be in the visible realm much longer.

Worry01 on June 21, 2009 at 10:37 pm

Well if it wasn’t for my father I likely would not be good in math and be an accountant although overall my father’s side of the family sad to say has been very involved with promoting easy divorce and feminism and my father wasn’t so good to me growing up because I was more of an introvert and he liked extroverts and compared me to other relatives. My mother didn’t like me because she was very influenced by feminism although my mothers side of the family isn’t as bad in this respect and she is sort of the black sheep in that side of the family. I also was the first born and a male and feminist only like families where the women are all older then the men.
Most mothers care about their children just as most fathers do. Some of both genders couldn’t care less. Single mothers in most cases don’t care about their children because if they did they would understand their children need a male role model as well. Mothers who are raising children without fathers because the father decided to leave out of selfishness which is not MOST CASES but there are a few like that the children are not usually damaged and the mother understands the child needs a father figure. Clearance Thomas is a good example of this. As his Grandfather helped raise him when his father left and the mother was not that forced him out against his will. The whole thing of no fault divorce is part of the marxist playbook. My firm shares space with lawyers and I have heard that some of these lawyers say the richer party has to pay the poorer party which is usually the man but not always. How can a mother who is taking the man’s money and then bad mouthing the father raise children with any morals as one of the 10 commandments is to respect both parents.
The only other thing I will say is overall it sounds like your father was a good man Debbie. The only thing I would disagree with is that while Islam has serious problems and abuses I don’t think focusing on hating a religon is going to solve our problems. Clearly their society is too male dominated but our societies are too female dominated and no religon seems to have a good balance. With the experience with my own family and with Rabbi’s I have to honestly say that this war against fathers is being waged by many Orthodox Rabbi’s. And many Rabbi’s rarely say anything good about men and many women are worshipping the Rabbi as their husband and father which decent Rabbi’s would try to help get these women married and not want women to worship them. I think Rabbi Kahane was not a good man and the newspaper he worked for the Jewish Press mostly had Rabbi’s and Lawyers and they didn’t have any other type of men that actually created things and were in the trenches. Only elitist Rabbi’s and lawyers.(I know not all lawyers are bad but some just make money by destroying others.) And the Jewish Press has been very anti family and has done tremendous damage to the family unit and many women want feminized men because they think a man that acts like a man will be abusive.
And Kahane wanted to ban democracy because he claimed that otherwise Jews would become a minority but part of this of course was because if you don’t protect the family a society will have lower birth rates and this issue Kahane wanted to ignore. In fact he attacked arabs for having high birth rates that they breed like cockroaches which actually the women deserve credit for having children. The first obligation in the torah (the Jewish Bible) is be fruitful and multiply although it shouldn’t be done at another taxpayers expense of course.
I hope I didn’t write too much but this is some of my views on fathers day and fathers in general.

adam6275 on June 22, 2009 at 1:13 am

B”H
May your father’s memory be for a blessing.

Ben-Yehudah on June 22, 2009 at 7:13 am

DS, Your father was a handsome man.

Rick on June 22, 2009 at 10:09 am

Debbie;
The way that you were looking at your father in that first pic speaks VOLUMES.
You looked at him in the way only an adoring daughter would. You’re hanging on his every word as you listen and digest the true meaning of what he’s saying.
You listened because you wanted to be as wise and as special a person as he was.
You looked upon him as though no other person in that room mattered.
You felt safe being in his presence and you knew he would always protect you and care for you.
Your days were filled by him.
Bless you and your dad.

Thee_Bruno on June 22, 2009 at 12:02 pm

BTW, the second picture truly captures how happy he made you feel.

Thee_Bruno on June 22, 2009 at 12:04 pm

the national socialist democratic marxist are doing all they can to destroy families in america.if you want to see the future of american families, take a look at what bongo’s boys have done to negro families and you will find that it is no coincidence that negroes are a majority in our prisons.thank you 52er’s just keep on voting for bongo boys and watch them turn america into mexicp.

bruce on June 22, 2009 at 12:28 pm

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bruce on June 22, 2009 at 12:29 pm

The destruction of the family started with the LBJ “great Society” and continues today under the Dems/RNC.
You can blame Congress and our Government for this tragedy. That is why they pay women to have children out of wedlock. It produces slaves to the system, criminals and destroys the nuclear family that resulted in this country becoming the most powerful on earth.
They have engineered this nightmare so that they can institute socialism/communism and Barry Soetoro is implementing it one step at a time.
We are literally witnessing the destruction of the USA while we are all asleep at the wheel.

ScottyDog on June 22, 2009 at 2:53 pm

Hollyweird ISN’T interested in REAL Fathers.
Instead we get to see girlie man Dad’s or some BS Macho Commando type person.

SamAdams on June 22, 2009 at 5:50 pm

I’m extremely fortunate that my father taught me many things and still does to this day. He will be 82 years old in the fall and still has his own business and goes to work everyday. If anything he showed me working hard and being engaged in something is what keeps a person thriving. The day my father offerred me a position in his company and a chance to learn it. As well as, one day take it over. Was a day I felt I disappointed him. Because I refused his advance. I told him I wanted to pursue a totally different career, but would take the life lessons he taught me with me. He simply said to me he was very proud of me for wanting to making it on my own. And I was always welcomed in the family business. Which I never joined. That was a day I will never forget. He wasn’t mad I didn’t want to be in the family business. He was proud that I wanted to do it my way and on my own.
Today, my day is my hero and one of my best friends. And I still seek out his advisement. I also, see that I pass on a lot of things to my two daughters, that my father taught me. And when I see how my daughter look at me, that’s more than enough for me. I will and would do anything for my family and they ALWAYS come first, no matter what. I cannot emphasize how important the family unit is in making it in todays world. Devotion and being honest is so important. Today, I feel like the luckiest person on the planet. I grew up in a nuclear family….mom recently passed away 18 months ago and my parents were still happily married. And I’ve been married for almost 15 years. Sure we had our ups and downs. But, we love one another and in it for life. I couldn’t ask for anymore. And it’s all due to my father, mother, wife and children who keep me going strong.
Happy father’s day to ALL the Dad’s out there. I know you understand where I’m coming from. G-d Bless all of us.

Tenn Scholar on June 24, 2009 at 12:11 pm

Well I can say I had a good father, but at the same time not great. Well as time passed and he cheated and dissolved a marriage with my mother he changed. He was not the same man to my younger siblings he was to me. He did not make every effort to be a family man like he used. Every day I feel sorry for my brother and my sister for they never got to see the great man I saw. He never found time for my sister and drove a wedge between them. He remarried a women who he let put down his daughter everyday. He overall became the man I never thought he could be when I was young. I remeber him telling me that noone or anything would come between him and his kids.

Overall as time went on my mom was remarried also and in that we all found a man as a step-father who never pushed but we all knew he was always their for us. We also grew in and looked upon our grandfather (mom’s dad) and uncle (mom’s brother) as the male role models. These two men always told us that their blood was thicker then water and I will never forget that, because they showed it.

As an adult I have a son from a previous marriage and his mom and I work hard everyday on raising him. From day one I knew that my job as a father was the most impotant job I would ever have. I also knew that no dirt bag lawyer like Dennis Vatsis would ever be able to defend a true dad like me. Fathers rights and mothers rights lawyers are jokes. The reality is if they really look at the big picture and they where defending rights and the best intrest of the child they would not stick to one sex. Overall the best lawyers defend good clients and not stick to some bullshit lies or try to degrade a parent to make another look better.

I realize family law can get bad and ugly but overall these lawyers need to realize that as they trash the opposite sex they tear the child apart. They use tactics that they will try to tear up all relationships with the parents. Overall a lawyer like Dennis Vastis needs to SHUT HIS FUCKING MOUTH and realize not a women are bad, and not all his clients are saints. Come on if the guy really was honest and had a case why would he need a fathers rights lawyer to banter and slam women. Ever sit and watch these guys work in a court room. The shit that comes from their mouth leaves a bad taste in the court room and you need to wear watters to get out of the shit to not get it on your cloths.

bill on February 6, 2011 at 1:49 am

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