June 15, 2014, - 3:46 pm
Happy Mother’s Day, “Dad.” Not my dad, but many of the “dads” in America, now.
Me and My Dad, Ten Days After I Was Born
My Dad (Center) Receives Award From Michigan Lions Club for Providing Free Eye Care to the Poor, Blind
Sadly, that’s what more and more American kids should be saying to their fathers, today, assuming–and that’s a big assumption–that they even have a father in their lives (about half of American kids born in the last several years do not). American society–media, pop culture, education, and government–are pushing men as the new mothers. And for far too many kids, their dads have bent over and assumed the position
Last year, on Father’s Day, I wrote about my loving, dear late father, who insisted on a traditional family and traditional parental roles for himself and my mother. He did not want my mother to work full time (or even part time, though she did anyway–as a Hebrew school teacher at a phony baloney conservative Jewish “synagogue” that welcomes HAMAS and Hezbollah supporters). He wanted to be the one to bring home the bacon (or, in his case, kosher bacon). And he wanted my mother to be home and take care of us, to cook and clean (we had a maid, so there wasn’t much cleaning she had to do), and be there when we got home from school. And I was very lucky that my father insisted on those things and, for the most part, succeeded in having that traditional household. (This is the seventh Father’s Day I’ve celebrated without my father, H.L. Schlussel, M.D., Of Blessed Memory. And, Dad, I miss you a lot.)
Today, any man who wants that for his family is seen as backward and an idiot to be mocked. And any man who wants that will have a hard time finding a woman to agree, unless he’s wealthy and ready to provide a lifestyle of the rich and famous. Moreover, because the economy long ago adjusted to feminist urges and two-income households, it’s a lot harder for a family to get by on the wages of just the husband. Or is it?
Maybe not, because today, in a far worse development, our quickly-emasculated society is heavily pushing Mr. Mom stay-at-home dads, and the numbers are increasing exponentially. There is a reason, “Lean In,” the feminist manual written by Facebook billionaire Sheryl Sandberg, was a best-selling book for nearly a year. The media in unison hyped her manifesto for women to pursue their careers at all cost and to pursue only men who would stay home and change diapers while those women were chasing ambition at work. The book was essentially this message to women: if you get married, make sure it’s to a guy whose testicles you’ve amputated (and, then, make sure you augment your own body with them).
American men have been encouraged to strip themselves of their ambition, their drive, their desire to be the breadwinner. They’ve been told it’s no longer hip to be masculine in our “Dove for Men” moisturizer culture. And, in fact, Dove has been pushing the “Dads–the New Moms” ethos in recent ads and promotional campaigns. So, too, have employers, the Wall Street Journal reports. Many companies are encouraging men to stay at home, use “flextime,” and “recognize men’s role as caregivers.” The article was frightening to anyone who cares about the future of America, because we know that where there is a moral void, something very bad will fill it. In America’s case, that void will be filled more and more by Islam, which is increasingly the choice for many aimless youthful males seeking a way to be a real man.
There is nothing wrong with being a more involved dad. In fact, that is a good thing and should be encouraged. I and my siblings were very lucky to have a caring dad who was very involved in our lives. But there is a very clear line between being an involved, caring dad and simply becoming the mom with a penis (albeit a penis that clearly is no longer in use).
The Wall Street Journal article, excerpts of which are below was scary in that it quoted polls showing more and more American men no longer care about making it to the top at work. They are ambitionless and would rather make it home in time to make dinner and support their wives’ higher incomes. If that sounds like Europe (where Islam is thriving and will soon overtake the place, in some part because of men converting to Islam), it’s because it is. With ObamaCare, gay marriage, government-funded sex-change operations, illegal aliens galore, and men not caring about being men anymore, men not caring about being FATHERS, we are Europe, just maybe a decade or two behind (but fast “catching up”–which means regressing).
Honest men–real men, if they could say what they actually think without consequences–don’t really want to be Mr. Moms, but society has encouraged them to feel comfortable with it. Really, it’s embarrassing and emasculating, if they were really truthful about it. But, no, they have to push this on everyone else.
And so we have wimps like Lionel Beehner, some jerk who frequently contributes lefty drivel to USA Today, proudly saying, “Dads, We’re the New Moms. Stay-at-home fathers are a growing trend. I’m one of them–and it’s a blast.” Puh-leeze. A blast? More like a blast of hot air. This guy proudly proclaims, “I just cut my balls off, and I love it!” Okay, so he didn’t use those words. I had to translate from this, “The number of stay-at-home-dads has shot up in recent years. I know; I am one of them . . . . I just recently became a dad for the second time, and my wife is our family’s breadwinner.” He says it with such glee. And he talks about the support network and support groups. Here’s a tip: support groups are for the afflicted. And you, sir (er. . . . ma’am) are afflicted with decojonesia, my new medical term for an all too common mental illness in the Western world, especially America.
This imbecile ridicules his “hyper-ambitious” male friend, and talks about how he enjoys wearing skinny pants and a fanny pack. He brags about how he knows the difference between baby strollers and is “motherly.” G-d, I am so lucky my dad never wanted to be “motherly.” He wanted to be my father. Thank G-d. But, sadly, with 2012 figures showing there are 2 million stay-at-home dads and growing, this is our future. Wimps like this “guy.” They’ve lost their will to be men . . . and fathers. Without ambitious men–without real fathers (who are fathers, not “moms”), this country is finished. Kids want and need fathers who teach them how to be men (if they are boys) and how to be treated by men (if they are girls). They don’t want or need two moms of opposite genders.
Read these dismaying excerpts from the Wall Street Journal for more:
As the number of dual-earner couples grows and more men make sacrifices to support their wives’ careers, some fathers are asking employers for guidance and action or tapping flexible-workplace policies originally designed for working mothers. Others are curbing their career goals to spend more time at home. Employers have been slow to recognize men’s role as caregivers, fathers and researchers say. . . .
The shift comes at a time when more women are out-earning their husbands—a percentage that has risen steadily from 3.5% of families in 1960 to 15% of families in 2011, according to the Pew Research Center—and men are redefining what it means to be a dad. A study by the Boston College Center for Work & Family found that a majority of fathers, especially those under 40, are moving away from the traditional “breadwinner” role and see themselves as responsible for both the emotional and financial needs of their children.
“There is considerable confusion and angst among young men about how they’re going to make it work,” says Stew Friedman, a management professor and head of the Work/Life Integration Project at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School. . . . Thomas Hsu, an Accenture PLC executive with two young children . . . . is part of a team trying to increase Accenture’s paid paternity leave to three weeks from one. . . . Mr. Hsu says Accenture bosses regard taking on such roles as a sign of leadership.
Ford Motor Co. allows salaried U.S. employees to work a reduced schedule. Around 8.5% of 600 workers doing so in 2013 were men, up from 5% in 2009, according to Ford. As men take on more caregiving duties, they need flexibility at work, said Felicia Fields, Ford’s group vice president of human resources. Yet many still fear that reducing time at the office will dead-end their careers. Ford safety engineer Roger Trombley, 37, started a 70% schedule after his son’s birth in 2009. He says he was the first man in his department to do so, but three male colleagues eventually followed suit. At first, “they didn’t think it was really an option for them as guys,” he recalls.
But here’s a stat that counts:
A Harvard researcher has shown that men with children earn higher salaries when their wives work less than full-time.
Not in the Sheryl Sandberg playbook, huh?
Fred Bermont, 35, left his job at a Boston-area pharmaceuticals firm in pursuit of work-life balance in 2012, shortly after his first child was born. He joined Shire PLC, which offered paid paternity leave and some flexible scheduling. He’s usually at his desk by 8 a.m. and leaves at 4:30 p.m.
Wow, bankers’ hours (except banks are now open longer and later than this guy is at work.
“I don’t know if I can work like this and become a vice president,” says Mr. Bermont, a senior specialist in the clinical standards and data management department. “But I don’t know if I want to be one. . . .
American Express Co.’s occasional Fatherhood Breakfast Series invites male colleagues, including high-ranking executives, to talk about blending career and family. It was started in 2010 by Todd Goodwin, a vice president of information management, who says he hit a breaking point years ago while trying to balance his job with his daughters’ school drop-offs and other family duties.
Eddie Hollowell Jr. , 31, attended a MetLife parenting webinar shortly before his son’s birth last June. . . . Following his wife’s return to work, Mr. Hollowell used vacation time to work a four-day week last August and December. Because he had just started a new role in May 2013, “it was awkward to even broach the subject of a reduced work schedule,” he says. The webinar, he said, helped him ask his boss for the time off. He will work a four-day schedule again this July and August to help with child care. “I wouldn’t say that it has been easy balancing work and family,” he adds.
Um, what is not easy here is being the mom when you are supposed to be the dad.
But in our blurred society chock full of blurred everything (blurred sense of right and wrong, blurred sense of what is male and female, blurred sense of what is absurd and what isn’t), this is where we are.
This is the future. And thanks to the urgings of people like Sheryl Sandberg and others, these men will soon not have to worry about how many days to take off to play mother. They will be doing it full-time.
As I always say, name a matriarchy in Western civilization that has survived. You can’t. And you won’t be able to name a country of Mr. Moms that stays around long. You only need look at Scandinavia, where this phenomenon is dominant. But, where, because of it, Islam is even more dominant.
Saying good-bye to fathers means saying good-bye to America.
My dad taught us love of G-d, country, and family. These stay-at-home “dads” teach their kids love of diapers and cooking for men and love of the feminist emasculation of America. No thanks.
Happy Mother’s Day, “Dad.”
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