February 5, 2010, - 1:17 pm

No More Sympathy for Jenny Sanford (Symbol of U.S. Foreign Policy)

By Debbie Schlussel

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of hearing about the spate of famous cheating husbands and their wives–John Edwards and Elizabeth and his chick and his married couple of body-men, Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Young;  Tiger Woods and Elin and his harem; and Mark and Jenny Sanford and the girl from Ipanema or wherever.  They all have their tawdry books, and I don’t want to read them.  Tree abuse extraordinaire.  Old news.  Boring.  Next.


Sadly, it’s now the turn of Jenny Sanford, the wife of  Governor Mark, for her Baba Wawa interview and woman-done-wrong book.  But, while I first had much sympathy for this scorned woman, I no longer do and wish she’d go away.  Why?  Well, tonight, in her interview with ABC’s Wawa, airing on “20/20” at 10:00 p.m. tonight, she tells Barbara Walters that when she got married, her husband refused to include a vow of fidelity in their marriage ceremony.  She married him, anyway, saying that it merely “bothered me to some extent, but . . . we were in love.”

Um, hellooooo . . .? Giant clue.  Sorry.  No more sympathy from me.  Cannot believe that Republicans and the mainstream media were actually talking up this dummy as political candidate material after she became the scorned wife. People said they admired her for not standing by her prominent politician husband after he got caught having an affair. But, in fact, she stood by him the whole time, because she went along with his anti-fidelity stance, beginning with her wedding ceremony.

For someone touted as this brilliant Wall Street operator, Mrs. Sanford is pretty stupid. You don’t need to be a marriage counselor or Dear Abby to know that if someone says, “no fidelity vows,” it’s time to run for the hills.  Ironically, Jenny Sanford’s new book is entitled, “Staying True.”  But if she’d truly “Stayed True,” she’d have said no when he refused the fidelity vows.  In fact, it looks like the only one here who actually stayed true all along was Mark Sanford.  Sounds like he basically told her he was beginning an “open marriage.”

I actually don’t look down on Mr. Sanford as much anymore, since he actually had the cojones to tell her, this is the way it’s gonna be.  And yet, she chose to gloss over it.  He gave her full disclosure into the future, and she refused to believe it. Gov. Sanford was actually far more honest than Edwards or Tiger Woods or any of these guys.  And she didn’t listen.

Yet another example of the typical woman who refuses to believe what a man tells her at the very beginning and thinks “I’m gonna change him.”  Yeah, you “changed” him.

Not sure why we’re supposed to feel sorry for a woman who knew the deal going in.  Reminds me of Barack Obama, who says we’re going to have “dialogue” with Iran and try to negotiate nukes deals, when Mahmoud Ahmadinejad has already told us, as have the Ayatollahs who run his show, that he wants to destroy Israel and the West.  And Obama. Refuses. To. Listen.  He’s like the jilted Jenny Sanford who thinks she’s gonna change the Mark Sanfords of the world.

Yup, Jenny Sanford is like U.S. foreign policy in much of the Islamic world:  we refuse to listen when they tell us they’re “gonna screw us over.”

And then, we’re shocked–shocked!–when they do it.

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16 Responses

….’Jenny’ is a product of the same Chicago North Shore private school cabal that programed Bill Ayers……. ….and don’t discount their handmaidens Davis Axlerod and Mark Kirk….

Nick Fury on February 5, 2010 at 1:36 pm

What kind of conservative believes in “open marriage?” I thought the swinger fad went out with 70s. Silly me.

NormanF on February 5, 2010 at 2:21 pm

That is a great point about American foreign policy being like Jenny Sanford.

I think it also applies to anyone dumb enough to think that ANY Muslim is going to be “changed” and assimilated into American culture: They believe that if they only convince themselves that Islam is a “religion of peace” and that there are only a few “radicals that have hijacked the religion,” and, therefore, it is not a problem to allow them to immigrate in hordes to our country, that somehow everything will be okay in the end.

These gullible people who want to “marry” Muslims into American society need to wake up. They have a prenuptial agreement, and it is the Koran. We are not going to end up “changing” any Muslim with American values, democracy, or technology. Therefore, they shouldn’t even be allowed into the country.

JM on February 5, 2010 at 2:23 pm

Excellent post Debbie.

Hermster on February 5, 2010 at 3:26 pm

..what makes me laugh is people like Ms. Sanford, et al…who no one even heard of until they were betrayed …all of the sudden have enough of an interesting life to fill a whole book??? …what did they do that all of the sudden made them realize this??…oh that’s right, they didn’t see what was going on around them….how fascinating.

Catfur on February 5, 2010 at 3:34 pm

“I actually don’t look down on Mr. Sanford as much anymore, since he actually had the cojones to tell her, this is the way it’s gonna be. And yet, she chose to gloss over it. He gave her full disclosure into the future, and she refused to believe it. Gov. Sanford was actually far more honest than Edwards or Tiger Woods or any of these guys. And she didn’t listen.”

Actually, I would not even give Mrs. Sanford that much credit. I suspect that she was fully aware of her husband’s affair long before it was publicly disclosed, as well as those he had had previously. She simply decided to bail when Mark’s abandoning his job without telling anyone where he was for a tryst killed off his political prospects. Mr. Sanford was no longer a rising political star at that point, so it was time to cash in. Mr. Sanford never really lied to her about the situation, even if she was not always clued in about the details of his escapades.

Worry01 on February 5, 2010 at 4:16 pm

To fall back to the immortal Bard: “For love is blind, and lovers see not the follies they themselves commit”. Yeah, blind in love and being bothered a “bit” over the lack of “forsaking all others” clause……. we all reap what we sow eventually, even if we don’t like the harvest.

David B on February 5, 2010 at 4:51 pm

Unfortunate, perhaps, but the great majority of men (“type A”, especially) have neither the integrity nor the inclination to resist a hardwired drive to cast their seed at anything with a pulse. My Dad was the rare exception – no lack of libido, but a cast iron will to always do the right thing. He cherished Mom through 49 years of marriage and passed away Jan. 15, 2010. I’m not worthy to wear his shoes, but he never let me down.

Graty Slapchop on February 5, 2010 at 6:23 pm

Worry, a lot of women will put up with less than faithful men so long as they’re successful. Its when they crash and burn that’s when they leave them. They can’t say they just found out about their husband’s affairs and strike a pose of innocence after living with it for years. If that’s not being a classic enabler, then I don’t know why they tolerate infidelity in the first place.

NormanF on February 5, 2010 at 6:54 pm

    According to Debbie, Jenny was told point blank from the outset by Mark that he was not going to be faithful. So, her wronged woman pose was simply an act. She agreed to be a breeder and babysitter(assuming no nannies), since it would be hard to call what they had a real marriage. Only Mr. Sanford’s dropping out of sight like a teen and political shipwreck caused Jenny to arrange for her departure.

    Worry01 on February 6, 2010 at 12:05 am

I’m a little bit more sympathetic to Mrs. Sanford. Of course agreeing to open marriage at its inception shows that neither of these people was very serious about the concept of the family or the consequences on their kids. There is also clearly an element of opportunism in the fact that she is publicizing this aspect of her marriage to Ms. Walters who, herself has not hesitated to attack, both professionally, and on a personal basis, the sanctity of marriage.

Nevertheless, I do think her anger and discomfort when her husband’s scandal became public were genuine. So far as I know, she was faithful to her husband, and I suspect that her attitude towards open marriage may have changed in the process of having four children.

There is clearly some ambivalence; after all, she did proclaim to BaWa that her marriage vows were based on open marriage, but I still think that her initial reactions were not faked.

Little Al on February 6, 2010 at 7:31 am

    It is pretty unrealistic to think that the Argentina gal was his first affair. Also, the state legislature had been looking into other trips Governor Sanford had taken before they gave up on trying to impeach him. Finally, Jenny Sanford was not a child when she got married.

    I am sure the the emotions shown by Jenny were genuine, but not for quite the reasons assumed.

    sorrow01 on February 6, 2010 at 9:42 pm

I don’t feel any compassion for Ms. Sanford. I’m tired of women who marry because of political power and/or money when clearly the man has issues regarding morality and honesty. Especially when there are plenty of decent men available who maybe make a little less money or have a little less influence but even so if they are decent and work hard and are healthy they are more deserved of a woman then these men that just have money and power but no morals. In fact for her to complain about her children they are his children as well and if she knew this up front she should have asked herself is this the kind of man and would want my children to have as a father.

The whole no fault divorce concept is of communist origin. These women marry men who they know have moral failings (but have a lot of money and influence) and then they want out for these moral failings and want their money even though they knew this in the first place and agreed to getting married and signing the marriage contract. Meanwhile many decent men have a tough time getting married and could use a woman in their life and studies show married men do usually earn more then single men as they have more motivation. So the women are rewarding bad men with children and they should recognize their contribution to this problem and rewarding bad men.

The problem I have with Mr. Sanford is using government money for his trips to his mistress. I think Jenny likely knew about this but only bailed because she knew this was the end of his political power and influence.

adam on February 7, 2010 at 1:05 am

And the other thing is a man who makes a lot of money but is dishonest and has other serious moral failings this may catch up to him at some point. What can you do. Everything is upside down.

adam on February 7, 2010 at 1:17 am

My mother always told me, “If a man tells you you’re too good for him, BELIEVE him! He knows what he’s talking about!” I would certainly add “If a man won’t allow the “forsaking all others” clause in the marriage ceremony, RUN!!! Sounds like Jenny Sanford is just another politically ambitious Hillary Clinton type – she didn’t think she could make it politically on her own, so she married the political career. It was only when he husband completely jumped the shark that she was publicly humiliated enough to throw in the towel. Makes me curious to see how much more Hillary will take before old Bill is kicked to the curb…

DG in GA on February 7, 2010 at 2:05 am

Interesting how you were able to turn this into a reflection on Obama’s foreign policy. The only caveat being we are not MARRIED to Iran nor any other muslim nation for that matter…except for our dependence on their oil, and OUR own decision to involve ourselves militarily in the region in removing Sadaam and going after the Taliban and al-quada’s of the world.

I think a better analogy would be…the government (and economy) is more like Mark Sanford…addicted to the sex and crack cocaine of oil that our lover provides us, unable to get away or leave, wrapped up emotionally (militarily)…even when she threatens our “domestic” tranquility.

And WE (the trusting and naive public)are more like Jenny…thinking things will change, hoping for the best, but knowing things are doomed if they stay the same…

…and getting our chnace to “divorce” the bastard in 2012!

Dave on February 7, 2010 at 5:59 pm

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