June 17, 2012, - 3:47 pm

Fathers Day: I Miss You, Dad

By Debbie Schlussel

It’s been almost five years since I lost my father, H.L. Schlussel, MD, to pancreatic cancer. It seems like it was yesterday. And I miss him every single day. But even though he is gone, he is with me every day in the lessons he imparted to me as a loving, caring, concerned parent. I realize every day how lucky I was to have him in my life. How lucky I was that he was around and involved in my life and my development. Today, fewer and fewer Americans are so lucky. A father is the most important person you’ll ever have in your life and the most important influence, despite the constant ridicule of dads throughout pop culture, TV, and the movies.

Me and My Dad, Ten Days After I Was Born

dadlionsclub.jpg

My Dad (Center) Receives Award From

Michigan Lions Club for Providing Free Eye Care to the Poor, Blind

My father was a great guy. He was a sort of “Renaissance Man,” spoke several languages, was well read and brilliant, knew a lot about everything, and was a patriotic American, who proudly served in the U.S. Army when he was drafted out of medical school during the Vietnam war. He taught us to believe in G-d and to love America. He taught us to do the right thing and be honest and decent to others. He taught us about the dangers of liberalism and big brother and the history of the Jewish people. Being good Americans, good Jews, and decent people were primary in his parenting us every single day. But the most important things he taught us were not through words. They were through actions. My father always acted with the utmost of integrity, decency, honor, and charity. Sadly, so many American kids are never taught these things because they have no father in their lives. Their single mother is practically worthless because she is now a worker in the marketplace, not a nurturer who stays home and keeps the family. And yet, she will never be able to fill the role of a father. I was lucky that I had a traditional father. It’s something that’s quickly becoming (and may already be) passe. And with that, so are all the things kids learn from a traditional father.


Is it any wonder we have so many slacker men who come home to live with mom? Is it any wonder we have so many kids born out of wedlock? The guys learn by example. They had no father in their lives to teach them to grow up and become responsible adults. The women learn by example. They had no father in their lives and are as lax as their mothers were in insisting on that as a prerequisite.

My father–through words and example–impressed upon us the importance of G-d, family, and country. He taught us to have the courage of our convictions. Kids today, with no father, learn none of these things. Instead, “parents” like cable TV and US Magazine teach them the importance of living like a Kardashian or a Teen Mom. The important things are not important to them. But what is important to them–fame at any cost and fancy clothes, cars, and houses are the goal, with traditional values and patriotism long ago in the trash bin. Heck, today “fathers” are contestants on “The Bachelorette.” It’s sad.

I was lucky that my father was not shoved into a Mr. Mom slot. He was masculine and he was the breadwinner and protector, and he would let no one take that away or demote him. That’s a role that is no longer valued anymore. Unfortunately, in our feminized, feminist world, at least one in 15 fathers is a stay-at-home dad in America. Some stay-at-home dad advocacy groups (which should be called “No Balls, Inc.”) say the number is more like one in five dads. The kids of those fathers are raised without ambition. They see a father content to stay at home, cook, clean, and change diapers, not driven to succeed in the marketplace. And so the number of effeminate, slacker men will rise, and the cycle will continue. These men aren’t fathers. They are wimpy caretaker clinicians with a penis (or, at least, something that looks like one but may no longer be functional). It’s so bad already that USA Today reports that Fathers Day gifts are “less gender-role-driven,” this year. Today, kids don’t have fathers. They just have “parents.” Even those who call themselves supporters of “traditional family values” and stood up for Dan Quayle when he criticized Murphy Brown, are today the hypocrites who idolize single mom Bristol Palin and her alpha male “mother” Sarah Palin who selfishly abandoned her family for ambition and left her husband Todd to quit his job and assume the wifely duties of raising the kids.

This isn’t good for America. As I’ve always noted, matriarchies never last. You cannot name one matriarchal society on earth that’s survived. On Fathers Day, we should be strengthening and reinforcing what it actually means to be a father. And that means being a man, showing kids how to be a man, and letting kids see by example how a decent but masculine man behaves.

Fewer kids today–if they even have a father in their lives–get to see that. And, so, they’ll never learn.

I was lucky that I had that. But fewer and fewer Americans will.

Give your father a hug today and tell him how much he’s meant to you in your life. I wish I could tell my father that again, today. I’m glad I got to tell him while he was still here.

I love you, Dad.

dadandme.jpg

meanddad2.jpg

Me and My Dad

Related Posts with Thumbnails
Print Friendly



Tags: , , ,

50 Responses

We need strong male figures.

Women need husbands and children need fathers.

But our liberal society views men as redundant.

Think our Islamic enemies have the same view? For those of us fortunate to have had fathers its been quite an experience. We treasure them forever.

A society that shuns its men as ours does today, will never come to good. Period.

Happy Father’s Day!

NormanF on June 17, 2012 at 4:11 pm

Great article Debbie and thanks for sharing this with all of us, you’re fanbase, readers, etc.

And I’ll be honest with you DS, you sorta look the same in that photo picture of yours when you were a little punk child as you do today as a full-grown woman! Anyway, may you’re late, deceased father, “HL Schlussel” continue to rest in peace, and I would like to say happy fathers day to my own father in South Carolina!

“A nation is defined by its borders, language & culture!”

Sean R. on June 17, 2012 at 4:12 pm

I love when you write about your Dear Dad! I reconfirms my most passionate beliefs and gives proof that this again can be the rule rather than the exception. It touches me every year especially since I miss my Dad, too!

Men are important and should NOT be dismissed. Men are different from women and those differences should be known and understood.

American needs a re-birth of the MASCULINE man. A good masculine man. Happy Father’s Day to all the good Dads of today and the past. We know how valuable y’all are and were!

Skunky on June 17, 2012 at 5:18 pm

Your Father(z’l) was truly unique and even though My Father, Benno Levi, was – and still is to some extent – politically much more liberal, he had great respect for your Father. Liberalism was vastly different 50,40 & even 30 years ago – so its understandable that even many Orthodox Jews from “the greatest generation” still were die hard FRD liberals. Not any more. The latest report of The Jewish Federation of NY shows – Jews increasing their population for the first time in over half a century due to the high Orthodox birthrate, and a very serious decline of non-orthodox Jews. Over 60% of all Jewish children in the New York metropolitan area are now Orthodox. In its survey 90- 95% of Orthodox Jews were conservative politically and 80- 90% of non-Orthodox or non traditional Jews were clearly liberal politically. This incredible chasm is growing wider and deeper every year. Liberalism -in this country – has meant mass assimilation & has been an abject failure for the Jewish people and many of our formally liberal Dads are now realizing that.(Your Dad, may his Neshama have an Aliyah, was ahead of the curve in that respect) Happy Father’s Day to all our Dads who fought for our liberty – Oh & by the way, I don’t think my Dad is voting for President Obama…at least I hope & pray .

Uriel Levi on June 17, 2012 at 6:20 pm

You are so fortunate to have had such a great father. I did not have the most ideal childhood, but my father worked hard & took care of us while my mother stayed at home to raise me and my sister. I have several friends who never had a dad growing up & it has affected them (two of them were going on their third marriage before the age of 35!). It is sad that kids are being raised more often than not without a father. Thank you to the dads who still hold on to the values Debbie writes about & Happy Father’s Day!

Angela71 on June 17, 2012 at 6:30 pm

Very nice. One can’t help contrast that generations adults with todays toilet culture. Values are implanted early.

samurai on June 17, 2012 at 7:09 pm

Great posting Debbie. The Marxist Media has absolutely marginalized men into absolute nothing.
The 60’s people were badly influenced by the Socialists of the 1930’s. Especially the FDR crowd.
FDR had as many carpetbaggers in his adminstration as Abraham Lincoln did in his. Joseph P. Kennedy sold as much worthless stock to cause the crash of 1929 as Salmon P. Chase sold worthless Greenbacks to finance the War Between the States.

Thank you for the posting.

Confederate South on June 17, 2012 at 7:57 pm

Replacing fathers with public assistance is the #1 cause of
so many corrosive social problems. It is enragingly hypocritical of the left to claim a monopoly on compassion
for disadvantaged kids, when their welfare policies are directly responsible for their plight.

Endless thanks to Debbie for her thankless role of shouting
the truth.

Nicole on June 17, 2012 at 8:26 pm

Your dad sounds like he was a helluva guy and a great American. You were fortunate and I’m sure that he was very proud of you.

Also, those baby and kid pictures of you are adorable.

DS_ROCKS! on June 17, 2012 at 8:54 pm

You do have my empathy for your loss. It indeed good that you had him for as long as you did. Your father was not someone to forget, but one whose memory should be cherished. In these times, looking backwards is one of the few pleasures left in life.

Worry01 on June 17, 2012 at 9:58 pm

Thanks for sharing, Debbie

Ken A on June 17, 2012 at 10:08 pm

Thanks for sharing, Debbie. Your father was a geat man.

JeffE on June 17, 2012 at 11:01 pm

Rewrite:

Thanks for sharing, Debbie. Your father was a great man.

JeffE on June 17, 2012 at 11:01 pm

Was nice you shared about your father. I lost my parents in my twenties while going for my masters.

MH on June 17, 2012 at 11:34 pm

Beautifully written, must have stirred some tears in those whose fathers weren’t around to enjoy their youth. Dr Schlussel was a man of enormous goodness but more than that he would have been really proud of his Debbie.

May all fathers who have earned their rightful place at the head of the table be surrounded with love.

Eyes Wide Open on June 18, 2012 at 1:25 am

your dad seemed like a genuinely awesome guy Debbie…i’m glad he lives in you and, by the looks of it, he will continue doing so through your ideals and your actions which are also in part, his…

Yossi on June 18, 2012 at 7:30 am

A very touching article.What a relief to read about a real person who inspired his daughter to do good as against the usual news about crooked politicians, celebrity perverts and drug addicts, Marxists (Am I being redundent?) and all the bottom feeders of an immoral and corrupted society.

Jerry on June 18, 2012 at 8:38 am

As usual Debbie you hit this one out of the park. Your father was an great guy who instilled in his little girl a good value system that you have to this day. Sadly I’ve known and continue to know alot of kids that don’t have fathers in their lives. Girls more so than boys need their dad to be a positive role model. A really good dad teaches his little girl to have good self esteem and confidence in herself. That way she will not fall prey to the first baggy pants wearing smuck who comes along and says that he loves her. All to often the role of the father is being downgraded. For instance you see it on TV with goofy shows like Modern Family and Last Man Standing. Old shows like The Cosby Show, Still Standing, and According To Jim. These shows portray dads as useless no nothing screwups who have to be saved by their wives. To the hairy backed, granola eating fembots this may be an ideal role for a dad but for a person who had a real father in their life these shows are what they are pure fantasy. So once again Debbie let me say that you were blessed to have a good man in your life who knew what it took to be a great dad. May he rest in peace knowing that as far as I’m concerned he did a good job.

Ken b on June 18, 2012 at 10:38 am

    Very true Ken b. A woman needs a good man in her life not from the day she gets married but from the day she is born. That’s something the feminists won’t agree with because it’s something they probably never had. I ask every guy here to be an example to all the women in their lives, especially the young, of what a decent man should be. It makes a difference.

    theShadow on June 18, 2012 at 11:01 pm

There is an expression that goes “May his memory be a blessing.” Clearly, your Dad was a tremendous blessing to you and all those who knew him. G-d bless you for honoring your Dad, and may He comfort you as you remember him.

John on June 18, 2012 at 10:50 am

I’m 63 years old Debbie; my father also died of pancreatic cancer in 1990, right after Father’s Day. You made me cry. Love you!

BLESS ISRAEL on June 18, 2012 at 2:21 pm

I feel your pain. I just lost my Dad right around Thanksgiving.
He was a retired Captain in the USN and recently laid to rest at Arlinton National Cemetary. Father’s Day was very hard for me and my family this year especailly after seeing all the cards in the stores every where. He was in the Medical Corps and served during Vietnam. The very picure of an honorable and compassionate man. I was grateful to have him in my life for 48 1/2 years. I miss you Dad.

Richard N. on June 18, 2012 at 3:40 pm

Thanks we all needed that.

Ken Brks on June 18, 2012 at 4:53 pm

That’s a wondeful tribute,Ms. Schuessel. Your father would have loved to read it.

Ghostwriter on June 18, 2012 at 6:39 pm

yea,but his father and debbie granpa was kapo(guard) in nazi death camp and was killed by fellow jews for helping nazis kill his compatriots.

joe on June 18, 2012 at 10:54 pm

    Joe, you just soiled your own diaper verbally. Have a nice day.

    Worry01 on June 19, 2012 at 5:59 am

Joe…how is it going over there in Poland? I see that you are trying to learn English. Good luck with that. Don’t forget to take your meds!

Angela71 on June 18, 2012 at 11:04 pm

    How about you, Angie? Have you taken your cocktail of Klonapin, Wellbutrin, Clonidine, Xanax, Prozac, & Dilaudid?

    Kmicic on June 19, 2012 at 12:27 am

      Yes, I can see more soiled diapers out there. Yawn!

      Worry01 on June 19, 2012 at 6:01 am

angela71,no,not in Poland.In Germany,Dusseldorf where you also can check nazis archives about debbie’s grandfather.Her painfull family history with victims and killers make her hate everybody…

joe on June 18, 2012 at 11:38 pm

Joey, I can’t tell you how interested I am in the German perspective. Glad to see that you’ve patched up your differences with the Poles. This is as it should be.

How many wars have the Germans waged? As I recall, they even sacked Rome. Always barbarians. Always near civilization. But never quite civilized, huh?

skzion on June 18, 2012 at 11:59 pm

(Not that I necessarily believe joey is what he claims to be. But really, the main difference between the Poles and the Germans has been that the latter are much more effective warriors.)

skzion on June 19, 2012 at 12:02 am

YES,WE ARE,but now i got polish wife and i am telling You i am no warrior at home.

joe on June 19, 2012 at 12:18 am

Glad to hear that you have a Polish wife. Obviously you’ve taken on her little campaign of defamation.

I gotta say that, even a German, it’s rich to read comparisons of Abu Graihb to the Third Reich. Anyone remember how our Polish friends liked to mock American education?

skzion on June 19, 2012 at 12:27 am

yes,skzizini,this little girl burn with napalm on LIFE cover was true barbarian!And,wait, IF your nation exist for as long
as germany how many you will kill AS BARBARIANS.

joe on June 19, 2012 at 12:32 am

Se,my point is that ALL nations are guilty of something.Internet is great tool to spread hate.We do not need Debbie schlussel’s or father rydzyk’s in poland or muslim fucks to stir hate around.

joe on June 19, 2012 at 12:38 am

Poor little joey thinks that a decades-old photo of a burned girl who could easily have been ready to detonate in a war zone that was created by the Soviet Union is JUST LIKE the destruction BY GERMANS of whole civilizations and the systematic extermination of whole peoples IN THE HEART OF EUROPE IN THE 20TH CENTURY.

Joey and his creepy countrymen, it will be recalled, were barely reunited before they stabbed the US in the back. And now our joey pretends there was no Soviet threat post WW2. He pretends that, like Germany, the US is an atavistic force.

Really, it’s too much. But remember, gentle reader, it’s the Americans whose education is lacking.

skzion on June 19, 2012 at 12:44 am

well,speaking of back stabbing,i think US is best at that,no one trust you guys,ask poor poles fighting in WWII on your side only to be sold to soviets by your great president roosvelt.And those poor poles did not learn anything, they are getting ready to help israel attack iran,going to such extremes to cover this that when several polish F-16 took of from airbase to fly to israel to train with israelis they told all world that they flew to alaska for exercises!Better to have enemies then friends like that,but for some reason 80% poles think positively about US,we are smarter in rest of europe,only about 15% like you guys.

joe on June 19, 2012 at 1:22 am

Looks like skzion went to sleep.Tomorrow he has to wake up and go to work cleaning windows on great american skyscraper own by china!

joe on June 19, 2012 at 1:26 am

Poor Joey isn’t very educated, is he? He must even think that Germany is popular in Europe.

skzion on June 19, 2012 at 9:59 am

Class, notice how joey started his comment with a “wow.”

Somehow, joey and zaw-hoora have now decided I am a Secret Israeli. Figures. I guess that’s one way to get out of their demonstration of the inferiority of European education.

WOW, I don’t recall hearing that Israelis killed 1.6M fakestinians. It’s too good to be true.

skzion on June 19, 2012 at 10:57 am

Love the articles about your father, which always brings tears to my eyes. You are your father’s daughter and I respect and love what you write about and your convictions. Your Dad was a great man and everything you described him as.
May he rest in peace
LILLIAN

LILLIAN on June 19, 2012 at 12:53 pm

Debbie whenever you write stuff about your dad, it’s really inspirational. He’d be proud of your spirit for sure. :)

John B. Martyn on June 19, 2012 at 2:05 pm

Maybe your Dad died because he hated crazy Islamaphobic bitches who hate on perfectly nice young men.

Vi on June 20, 2012 at 8:57 am

This is great news, I’m glad he is dead. You should die too. I’m from Tel Aviv

Sharon on June 20, 2012 at 9:28 am

too bad he died not blown up.

kay on June 20, 2012 at 11:33 am

Nice story Debbie, I must say that as I was reading it, I felt the jealousy bug bite me. My father was not around growing up but my mother did the best she could. Although I had no male figure in my household growing up, I know that I when I have a child, I will be a shining example for him or her. The pictures of you and your father are beautiful.

Mr. Lawrence on December 29, 2012 at 7:16 pm

Well, joey, Americans have waged war against barbarians. The Germans waged their wars AS barbarians. And it’s not just once or twice.

No. The Germans are serial barbarians, as Andre Pigniole once wrote. Leave it to them to undo the rebirth of European civilization beginning in 1300s.

skzion on June 19, 2012 at 12:21 am

Then there is joey’s squeeze, Zaw-hoora, who continues the spamming by showing the usual Polish whining and lying that we so know and love.

Actually, a week ago I met up with a young, educated British couple who were telling me about the problems our ‘Eastern European’ friends have brought with them to Britain.

skzion on June 19, 2012 at 10:08 am

Leave a Reply

* denotes required field