June 16, 2013, - 1:42 pm
Happy Father’s Day to My Late Dad; The Late Role of Fathers: Fatherhood is Dying, Dead in Fallen America
This is the sixth Father’s Day since my late father, H.L. Schlussel MD (of Blessed Memory), passed away from cancer. But he is on my mind every single day, not just on these bittersweet Father’s Days. Today, I will celebrate, as I have every Father’s Day since his death, by going to my dad’s grave to reflect on how lucky I was to have this great man in my life.
Me and My Dad, Ten Days After I Was Born
My Dad (Center) Receives Award From Michigan Lions Club for Providing Free Eye Care to the Poor, Blind
I was lucky to have a loving father who constantly sacrificed his own personal happiness and financial wealth to be with us kids always, to teach us right from wrong, to teach us to be kind and generous to others–especially those less fortunate, to be patriotic Americans, to have faith in G-d above, and to know that He was watching at all times. My father taught me to have the courage of my convictions, as he did many times, organizing protests and getting us involved in political campaigns (he dragged us kids to hold signs when the Detroit Jewish Book Fair hosted the openly anti-Semitic, anti-Israel, pro-HAMAS/Hezbollah James Zogby; he took us campaigning for Ronald Reagan in 1980 and spent his own money for anti-Jimmy Carter bumper stickers). My father taught us through his actions, not just talk. That was one of the many ways he showed us he loved us. And we loved him back. We still love him because even though he is gone, his many life lessons will be with us until the day we die.
But I was lucky for another reason: my father valued traditional fatherhood. He did not want my mother to work, and despite her protestations and disagreements (although we were never rich, we didn’t need her income, anyway, and most American families could live on one income if they really wanted to), he insisted that she not take a full-time job. My father was the breadwinner. My mother was supposed to be the cook and the housekeeper (we had a paid maid who came to clean) and take care of the kids. Often, unfortunately, my father found himself doing all of those things, and in many ways he was father AND mother to us. But he insisted upon traditional parenting roles and impressed upon us that those were important. Those were the days when fathers were still fathers, when “Mr. Mom” was a comical movie, when men were men. We were lucky that my dad insisted this was the way we would be, should be, raised. Today, my father would be considered “backward” and a male chauvinist. But what he really was, was a terrific father. And a great family man. And I am so lucky for that. What he did was right for his day AND right for today, whether the conventional wisdom admits it or not. My father–like the ever-shrinking number of traditional fathers out there–was doing America a service, while others shirk their moral and societal responsibility.
Boys and girls, today, are confused. They have no real idea what their roles are supposed to be when they grow up (IF they grow up), and instead they are told that women should be breadwinners and men can be slacker hangers-on with no ambition or drive. Today, there really is no real “fatherhood” in America. That role is dying out, if not dead already–and with it all sense of male responsibility. This is why we have so much delayed adulthood in America and a good part of the reason there are so many single mothers and out of wedlock births. Dads are essential to raising good Americans. Sadly, far too many Americans don’t get it because they’ve been told otherwise by the media, TV, movies, and other poisonous parts of the cesspool of American pop culture (including Megyn Kelly of FOX News and Sarah Palin’s daughter).
If you are a stay-at-home dad–and the numbers of those are fast growing in America–you are NOT a “father.” You are the mother. If you are not the breadwinner, and you are doing laundry and cooking instead, you may have a penis by accident of birth, but you are NOT a father. You are assuming the motherhood role, no matter what you say. Being a sperm donor does not make you a father. If you are a woman, and you are the breadwinner in the home, you are the dad and not a very good one. So happy unisex Father’s Day to you. Fathers who stay at home or who are the nurturers in the family are not teaching their sons how to be men. They are not teaching their daughters how to be treated by men. In fact, it is the exact opposite. They are teaching confusion and slackerhood. They are teaching their sons to have the ambition of domestic duties and their daughters to lower expectations and to think that relationships with immature slackers is okay. That feminist gender roles are the direction our society should take. Yes, FOX News’ Megyn Kelly and Sarah Palin are the spokeschicks for that message. Conservative? Not even close. But, sadly, the lumpenconservatariat has blindly swallowed and embraced that because the likes of Kelly and Palin live that life (as do Palin’s kids–see Bristol Palin, Track Palin).
And then there are the completely demasculated households, where there is no male figure of any sort at all. Today, at least 42% of kids are born to single mothers, and that number is growing with each year. Researchers say that the kids born to single mothers in America are more likely to have NO father figure in their lives than in other Western democracies with large numbers of out-of-wedlock births. That makes America not great, but more like Scandinavia with is fast becoming ScandIslamia, where the savage worshipers of Mohammed are the only force of masculinity to be seen (and where they commit the majority of rapes). This is what happens to all Western matriarchies, and America is fast becoming a Western matriarchy. Matriarchies die, no matter what FOX News and Megyn Kelly tell you. No matter how many studies they trot out that kids of single mother households do well or other such baloney. I’ll trot out a better study. It’s called: America’s prisons and America’s drug addicts and babydaddies/babymamas. Most of the men and women in America’s prisons, most of America’s male and female drug addicts, most of America’s out-of-wedlock parents came out of single mother households. NOT two parent, traditional families. And look at the Americans who convert to Islam–most of them come out of broken, single mother households, too. Because they didn’t have a father, and so, now, Mohammed is their father. Case closed.
The death of fatherhood–traditional fatherhood as opposed to mere sperm donorhood–will be America’s death. It IS America’s death. Who do you think voted for Obama and a larger role for government in their lives: single mothers, most of whom voted for Obama. You know those “more fertile” illegal aliens that idiot Jeb Bush told us about on Friday? Guess what? Many of them father–or rather, sperm donorize–kids out of wedlock. And, no matter what studies feminist Megyn Kelly (who is the man in her marriage–and you know she’s on top) cites, that’s NOT good for America. It’s no accident that the sexual revolution and the adoption of feminist blurred gender roles coincides with America’s decline academically and economically in the world, with America’s decline in so many other spheres as well. It’s not just a coincidence. There’s a correlation. The times of traditional fatherhood in America were the times that America had the most innovations, inventions, economic successes, and relative prosperity. (We also had more military success at those times.)
Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” BS will be the Self Destruct-In of America. It’s already happening and has for a few decades. She can gloat about her Facebook billions and her wimp of a peckerless “husband” who does wifely household duties all she wants. In future generations, it will be the void that kills America. It already is. The men in those relationships have no power. They can’t be men. They aren’t men. They’re rent-a-penises. I’m glad I didn’t have the misfortune of being born to one of them.
I feel for the men who still want traditional fatherhood but can’t find women in America who’ll agree to that life. Sadly, there are fewer and fewer of such men and such women, and they are looked upon as an anachronism. They’ve all been programmed on the left AND the right that this is “a return to the backwards 1950s,” “a war on women,” “slavery,” or some other such baloney. And they are in a position where the odds are against them. Today, more women are admitted to, attend, and graduate from college and grad school. Women are making more money than the men who do attend and graduate. And with women now nearly half the breadwinners in America and heading nearly half of America’s households, there is a silent, accepted–even promoted (even by FOX News and Megyn Kelly)–war on men and war on fathers, especially traditional ones.
So, I was lucky to have not just a great dad, but a traditional dad. The kids who don’t have that in America, today–and there are far too many of them–I feel sorry for them. And, more so, I feel sorry for America, because it will affect–and doom–this country’s future.
Forget the cries about a fictional “war on women.” The real war in America is on men and fatherhood. And, ultimately, that’s a war on America from within.
America had Founding Fathers, NOT founding mothers. But, as a matriarchy, which we are fast becoming, America’s destruction will come because the fathers–and all vestiges of traditional fatherhood–disappeared.
Dad, I love you and I miss you every single day. To you and to the traditional fathers still out there, Happy Father’s Day . . . while there still is one.
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