March 3, 2011, - 12:11 pm

When Dumb Chicks Marry Muslims: Girl Runs Away to Avoid Arranged Marriage (VIDEO ADDED)

By Debbie Schlussel

I’ve written plenty over the years about the dumb, selfish American women who marry Muslim men because they put their desperation for a penis over what’s good for America and our future generations.  Many of these women are stupid shills for Muslims seeking green cards.  Others are factories for anchor babies.  And still others are factories for a growing Muslim population.  It seems that Melissa Bender, mother of Jesse Bender, is all three of these things and more.  Her thirteen-year-old American daughter was forced to run away to avoid the price of being the progeny of an Islamic sperm donor and a horrible American mother who was complicit in the Islamic father’s plan to marry her off in an arranged marriage.

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Jesse Bender, Age 13, Ran Away When Mom Tried to Send Her to Arranged Marriage by Muslim Dad in Pakistan

The daughter, Jesse Bender, has been found in hiding with relatives who tried to shield her from the Muslim arranged marriage in Pakistan.  And get a load of how mommy dearest, Melissa, was complicit in the plan and lied to police and the FBI, claiming her daughter ran away with an online predator, rather than tell authorities the real reason her daughter fled–to avoid being sent to Pakistan to be married off at age thirteen to some extremist Muslim stranger.  Yup, a nationwide manhunt with wasted resources because Mommy didn’t want to tell the truth about how she was complicit in this sickening Muslim plan.  So much for the assimilation of Islam into the West.

HESPERIA, Calif. — Investigators who spent more than a week searching for a 13-year-old girl her family feared had run away with someone she met online found her unharmed in a hotel Wednesday, where she said she had been hiding to avoid being forced into an arranged marriage in Pakistan.

Jesse Bender was taken into child protective custody as authorities decide whether to recommend filing charges against her family, San Bernardino County sheriff’s spokeswoman Cindy Bachman said.

No arrests have been made. A call to the Bender family home in the desert city of Hesperia went unanswered late Wednesday.

Jesse’s mother reported her missing on Feb. 22, telling authorities that her daughter was upset about having to go on a two-month vacation to her father’s native Pakistan, Bachman said.

Several days later, Melissa Bender told investigators she was worried her daughter ran off with someone she had been communicating with on Facebook. Her statement launched a nationwide kidnapping investigation by the FBI, U.S. Marshals Service, and multiple law enforcement agencies fearful that the girl was with an Internet predator.

Detectives served several search warrants and the investigation reached as far as Chicago because the mother believed the person who befriended her daughter on Facebook lived there.

“All that information was misleading,” Bachman said. “Whoever she was communicating with online was not a threat to her.”

As detectives began to focus on the Bender family, they learned that a relative was hiding Jessie in the nearby town of Apple Valley out of fear that she would be taken to Pakistan. That relative led detectives to the hotel early Wednesday.

Jesse’s three siblings were also taken into child protective custody pending the completion of the investigation, Bachman said.

“All of the information that was obtained by investigators will be sent to the district attorney’s office for review, I’m sure they’ll make some sort of recommendation,” Bachman said.

Let’s hope Melissa Bender is fully prosecuted and put behind bars for many years. That’s the only place for any mother who would do this to her daughter.

And, sadly, as I’ve repeatedly written, there are many more like her on American soil, many American women who care nothing about what’s right for America, what’s right for their children, and what’s right, period. They care only about themselves and their Muslim sex partners.

“Religion of peace” . . . and being forced into marriage to strangers in Pakistan at age 13.

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44 Responses

The quoted account differs a little from others I have read. The police ultimately did not have difficulty finding her: her Uncle not only believed her, but told his local police what the story was. He hid her in a hotel room so she could not be kidnapped. This little girl was clearly be set up for a rape and then would be forced to bring in another proto-terrorist. I want the mother and step-father put in jail for years for attempted rape.

pat on March 3, 2011 at 12:23 pm

For what it’s worth, it appears Jessie Bender is 100% non-Muslim, but her step-dad is Muslim, and it is he, named Mohammad Khan, who was seeking her arranged marriage. That is not to say the mom was in on it, but I wanted to clarify that I don’t think Jessie is actually a Muslim.

Red Tulips on March 3, 2011 at 12:25 pm

Excellent story. I am profoundly enraged at the mother. She is the perfect example of how raw emotion, Islamic piety and parental abuse join together. Hopefully, each offspring of this trailer-park trash woman will be placed under protective child custody.

Seek on March 3, 2011 at 12:26 pm

Meant to type that “that is not to say the mom WASN’T in on it.”

Likely, the mom and step-dad arranged for this girl to be forceably married and raped in Pakistan.


Red Tulips on March 3, 2011 at 12:26 pm

“Arranged marriage” – a lovely euphemism for child prostitution.

Religion Of Sex Slavery, baby!

NormanF on March 3, 2011 at 12:38 pm

I wonder how many underage girls have been sent to muslim countries over the years? maybe some of the missing girls today are there?

Steve on March 3, 2011 at 1:00 pm

13? That’s way past her prime isn’t it? I would think 8 0r 9 year olds would be in greater demand.

spiffo on March 3, 2011 at 1:19 pm

If that little girl is a non-muslim, does it make any difference to them, the arranged marriage freaks. Look whom they follow, a pedophile. Now check this link out

A “student” with extensive ties” to the middle east files suit against the FBI, and is represented by CAIR.

The “poor, hungry, yearning to be free” are no longer coming here looking to assimilate into the “melting pot”, they all want to bring that crap and establish it here. Maybe the U.S. should slow down immigration, after all aren’t we already established as a nation?

TimBuck2 on March 3, 2011 at 1:33 pm

There are so few places one can go to get the truth on Islam. Thanks Debbie! (What a scary story!!)

PDMac60 on March 3, 2011 at 1:40 pm

An attorney I work for worked on an asylum case where a young teen Pakistani girl was basically being given to a much older man to satisfy her father’s debt to this man. She refused and was been beaten by her father repeatedly and threatened with death – not only by the father but by the man she’s supposed to marry. Reading the transcripts, expert witness reports and depositions of her other family members, it was amazing (and by amazing, I mean horrifying) to find out just how savagely women are treated in Pakistan. This girl is lucky to have gotten away. Her mother should be boiled in oil or, as they frequently do in Pakistan, have acid thrown on her.

KerryB on March 3, 2011 at 1:40 pm

The 1990 Sally Field movie “Not Without My Daughter” details such a ‘Muslim Kidnapping’.
While the movie enjoyed a pretty decent rating, it quickly disappeared from the Detroit-Istan area…likely due to Islamic pressure.

Shootist on March 3, 2011 at 1:40 pm

    Hollywood would never make a movie like that today.

    No one there wants to confront Islam.

    Unless they enjoy having their heads lopped off and rolling around on the floor.

    NormanF on March 3, 2011 at 1:47 pm

      Norman: Hollywood did come out with a pair of movies in 2007 depicting sadistic Islamic thugs for what they were: “The Kingdom” (Peter Berg, dir.) and “The Kite Runner” (Marc Forster, dir.). The movies are there to see. What I want to see is real-time political action by the Obama administration to block all Islamic immigration to the U.S. Not that the Bush administration was any better.

      Seek on March 3, 2011 at 3:13 pm

I think I was unclear. This girl = Jesse Bender.

KerryB on March 3, 2011 at 1:42 pm

And those animals call us savages! As far as I’m concerned this is nothing less than trafficking a human being for the sex slave trade- a crime that IMHO warrants the death penalty.

Steve on March 3, 2011 at 1:56 pm

I have drawn a mental image of this creature. She is 5’3, weighing 250 pounds with long stringy greasy hair. She changes her panties every five days or so, when she decides it is time for a little bodily hygiene, about the same time she conducts oral hygiene on the seven teeth in her mouth. Her IQ is probably in the 89 range and hasn’t had an original thought i her entire life. WHO THE F–K else would marry a pakistani and allow this arrangement for her daughter? Gee, do I sound like a racist, well so be it.

Davida on March 3, 2011 at 2:07 pm

Okay, after listening to the news report I found out it was her step father. Anyways, who else would marry this woman but a Muslim wanting citizenship? She doesn’t have teeth? I am sure he didn’t marry her for love.

Karen on March 3, 2011 at 2:20 pm

What would Allah’s most Holy and final prophet do in this situation?

Well, let’s see, Muhammad married Aisha and “Aisha was six years old when betrothed to Muhammad. She stayed in her parents’ home until the age of nine or ten, when the marriage was consummated in Medina.” The year was 622, so Muhammad was about 52 years old.

It is permitted! There, now quit your bitching.

Rick on March 3, 2011 at 2:21 pm

Beautiful blond haired, blue eyed American 13 year old would attract a large pay off from a rich older man. Perhaps she would bring her family 6 or 7 figures in Saudi Arabia.

diane on March 3, 2011 at 2:39 pm

    Besides legalized prostitution, the other thing common in the Muslim World is the voracious consumption of porn.

    Keep that in mind when you hear them described as “modest folks” above such things.

    Debbie wrote a while back (use her website function) of a respected UK Muslim cleric convicted of raping boys.

    Yup, this is the Islam the PC crowd averts its face to and pretends doesn’t exist.

    Jesse Bender was saved from a horrifying fate that awaited her in Pakistan.

    NormanF on March 3, 2011 at 4:01 pm

Islam is evil and vile to the core.
Do good and evil, love and hate, right and wrong exist?
Moral relativists and multiculturalists often say, “Who are we to judge?”

If we DO NOT JUDGE, then it is impossible for good and evil, love and hate, right and wrong to exist.
We MUST JUDGE to know good from evil, love from hate, and right from wrong.

Islam was, is, and always will be, an evil ideology disguised as a religion that MUST destroy everything that is not Islamic.

Why shouldn’t we hate the Islamic Supremacist Hate Organization CAIR?

We should hate evil. We should loathe evil. We should despise evil.
We should not tolerate the intolerable.
A rational fear is not a phobia.

It is NOT a “hate crime” to hate evil. It is NOT Islamaphobic to HATE the following that Muslims are allowed to commit in Islam per the Koran, Mohammed, Hadith, and Sira:

Pre-Pubescent Child Rape (65:4), Sex Slaves (4:24), Rape (24:13), Amputation and Crucifixion (5:33), Beheading (8:12, 47:4), Wives Beating (4:34) and Wives Raping (2:223), Theft and Robbery (entire Chapter 8 of Koran called Booty), Extortion (9:29), Lying (3:28, 5:51), Stoning to Death for Adultery (Sahih Muslim 17.4206),..etc.

There are ONLY 3 positions – 3 choices: Pro-Islam, Anti-Islam, Neutral-Islam.

If you are Anti-Islam, you agree that the above acts are atrocities should be eliminated.
If you are Pro-Islam, you agree that the above acts are OK for Muslims to commit.
If you are Neutral-Islam, you don’t care one way or the other if the above acts/atrocities are perpetrated by Muslims.

Are African-Americans and blacks guilty of “hate crimes” for hating the KKK?
Are Jews guilty of “hate crimes” for hating Nazism?
Are Infidels guilty of “hate crimes” for hating Islam?

Jew Lover on March 3, 2011 at 4:20 pm

Sharia Delenda Est.

Occam's Tool on March 3, 2011 at 4:29 pm

What?! A foreign country with a foreign religion wants to do something that we dont agree with?! How dare they! To war! To war! (They have oil, right?)

mal on March 3, 2011 at 5:53 pm

    No- a scumbag HERE wants to kidnap one of OUR citizens and ship her to an enemy country to be RAPED. Put him under the jail.

    Scott on March 3, 2011 at 10:30 pm

Why is it that Girls are like property as far as muslims go?
But muslim males can do what ever they want with female infidels,and there are no honor killings either on males.
Always reading about some muslim father killing his daughter,never have seen a father kill his son for gettibg it on with or marrying an infidel.

stan on March 3, 2011 at 7:04 pm


It’s in the Koran, Hadith, Sira, etc. All verifiable translations through through USC websites. Islam would collapse if:

1. Muslims were not required to be killed for leaving Islam (Apostacy)
2. Muslim women were afforded the basic human right of marrying outside their religion
3. Muslim men were not allowed 4 wives and unlimited sex slaves (Possessions of the Right Hand)

/Me thinks that mal (maladroit, malevolent, mal…) is a multiculturalist/moral relativists who thinks anything is OK as long as another group believes it’s OK.
Hey, who are we to judge eh?

Jew Lover on March 3, 2011 at 7:26 pm

Jesse and her brother lived with the uncle. He was the surrogate father. The mother was reported to be unstable, and the children didn’t want contact with her. The mother and Khan showed up and were ready to take the girl to Pakistan. Clearly, there is some very disappointed Khan cousin somewhere in the village. No white child bride. No green card.

Adam on March 3, 2011 at 9:15 pm

Where’s the liberal outrage of a woman being ‘used’ by a man? Where’s the NOW gang, with a scathing diatribe on the evil rape factories that are muslim countries?

They sure are quiet when Jimmy Carter is in office, especially this second time around.

Cameron on March 3, 2011 at 10:21 pm

If Melissa Bender wanted to be completely controlled by someone, should’ve just joined a good old fashioned American cult instead. I bet those FDLS types would take her in, but she’d have to share a husband with some other wives.

KAAAAAHHHNN!! on March 3, 2011 at 10:24 pm

Was mom receiving any financial benefits from Pak. step father in this deal?? in other words: 1 pimp or 2???

bobby99 on March 3, 2011 at 10:41 pm

If religion is the Opiate of the Masses (and it is), then Melissa Bender is surely living up to her last name.

Maybe Charlie Sheen was a bit too modest with her?

The Reverend Jacques on March 4, 2011 at 12:22 am

The great devil is attacking our free society and trying to snatch our beautiful girls to breed devil’s descendant !

The greatest satanic deception is through Muhammad’s claim that Allah is God.

Everyday, the fruit of Islamization is revealing a hidden secret: Allah ==? Devil.

Violence, oppression, narrow-mindedness follow the Islam religion.

That’s why those Islamist extremists attacked America twin towers on 9/11, mistakenly thinking that they were to go to paradise with such evil deeds. What a perverted religious people.

Martha on March 4, 2011 at 1:18 am

I wonder if anyone is going after the stepfather on this? He could be pursued for child sex trafficking.

worry01 on March 4, 2011 at 2:42 am

If you really want the story on Islam and its influence may I suggest the following two websites.

They are from an Iraqi-born Muslim who lives in England. Once a week he makes an appearance with talk radio host Dr. Laurie Roth.

Here in fact is a sample of his appearance from late last month with Dr. Roth

Bob Porrazzo on March 4, 2011 at 7:37 am

The mother must now be extradited and sent to live permanently in Pakistan!

juniper on March 4, 2011 at 8:14 am


This is a game to infiltrate America from within. The Moslems deceive the girls by telling them they go a Moslem church. The girls think it is another church and do not affiliate that with Islam. When they marry they want to make sure that the progeny will be Moslem because that is what they have in mind for a perfect sleeper cell; someone who looks like the natives and is not easy to identify by looks. That is why they want them to grow as Moslems and marry another Moslem who would be brought in the country as the husband of an American wife. G-d only knows who would this husband be. Did you notice that the taxi driver who killed his two daughters killed them because according to him they became too Americanized. Did you notice that the brother conspired with the father to drag the two girls to their death and came after that to tell us that were bad Moslem girls.

The thing that an intelligent man like me do not understand is; Why do American authorities insist to play the role of the dumb and the sucker. They have been so persistent in that that they deserve an award for perfect acting.

G. R. SCHAROUBIM on March 4, 2011 at 11:28 am

The mother is an American. She can’t be extradited.

Michelle on March 4, 2011 at 11:43 am

Many years ago I came across this. I live in Grand Rapids, MI an important person inquired through a third party if I could arrange a escape from Iran for his daughter and grand children. I replied that I could however in this type of mission the rest of the house hold (this was in Iran) would be eliminated so that we (the team) could get out of country. They didnt like what had to be done and I heard nothing of it for several years and then the movies came out about the rescue of people that were unware of the religion of “peace” and what it includes. It constantly amazes me that people can have somthing staring them in the face and are still in denial and many of these are government officals.

Jonathan Gartner on March 4, 2011 at 3:11 pm

The mother Melissa must be some terrific sex partner if her muslim husband ran off to Pakistan to fornicate with his camel.

joesixpack31 on March 5, 2011 at 10:06 pm

She ran away because she is 13 and didn’t want to leave her friends for 2 months. Honestly you Americans and your anti Muslim culture is disgusting. My old boss is married to a man from Pakistan, he is Muslim and their kids are fantastic, they did not force any religion on them and are letting them decide when they are older. My boyfriend is from India, he is a Canadian citizen, he can’t marry me for a green card because he has been here since he was freaking 10. He is so respectful, sweet, and accepting of my own culture. My family is also interracial due to one of my parents remarrying, and guess what, it is amazing. I am very much an Atheist, and guess what, I am accepted by all parts of my family, step or immediate. You are so ignorant of other cultures.
This is why the world hates Americans, it is not all Americans that are as ignorant as you, but sadly the few like you make the rest of us disgusted by your lack of tolerance. PS you have Christian terrorists, Catholic Terrorists, animal rights terrorists, so stop hating on the Muslims, and maybe do something about the people in your own country killing in the name of God. You are sickening.

Ashley on July 25, 2013 at 12:42 am

    Thats one sensible comment among so much hate….!! ???????? thankfully there good people around????

    Ommyya on June 21, 2016 at 8:25 pm

Dear Debbie,

I just found this article and I am totally disgusted by it

Since this happened some 3 years ago, I wonder if there has/have been any follow-ups ?

What happened to the poor 13-year old girl ?

I sincerely hope that girl ditches Islam for good !

Potato on June 14, 2014 at 10:47 pm

Ashley, i believe with all my heart that you are actually a muslum playing your taqiyah card as all muslum love to do. how can i tell u wonder? well i can smell a throl even in disguise.

petra on April 3, 2016 at 4:10 pm

this was the most disturbing article with the most disturbing comments I’ve ever read!!
There was nothing islamic in these acts and no muslim is allowed to commit such acts,even though the culprits were muslims!!!!
and they should be punished by authorities!
And for your information pakistan has criminals just like any other country which is not related to religion but it’s because of the uneducated people who mix non-islamic cultures and traditions with islamic stuff!
I can attest to that because i happen to be a muslim woman and a pakistani and 22 years old NOT being forced into marrying at a young age and studying medicine!
Bad stuff is happening all over the world ,stop highlighting the bad in one country and the good in other countries!

Ommyya on June 21, 2016 at 8:34 pm

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