July 14, 2011, - 2:26 pm

DumbAssity Lawsuit of the Day: Single Mom Cougar Romance Gone Wrong

By Debbie Schlussel

If you meet someone online and are shocked–shocked!–when it doesn’t work out, you are a moron.  If you sue over it, you’re even more of a moron.  Take Cheryl Gray of the Detroit suburb of Livonia, Michigan, who filed suit against some guy who is 15 years younger than her, whom she met while playing “Mafia Wars” on Facebook.  You’d think it would be humiliating enough to be dumped.  Why sue and humiliate yourself more? I guess our court system isn’t clogged enough with stupid lawsuits. We need more!

Dumbassity Lawsuit of the Day: Facebook Cougar “Romance” Gone Wrong

And by the way, this story demonstrates in spades why we need to stop encouraging this whole overdone, sick “Cougar” phenomenon pimped on us by liberal Hollywood along with the single motherhood BS.  Gives middle-aged women, especially single moms–most of whom do NOT look like the “cougars” on television–undue encouragement to chase and stalk guys who could be their sons.  UGH!

A Michigan woman is seeking $8,386.88 from a Kennewick man because of a relationship gone bad via Facebook.

Cheryl Gray says Wylie Iwan led her on, caused her to spend money on gifts and a trip to the Tri-Cities, then humiliated her when he posted vulgar comments on her Facebook wall.

The 50-year-old unemployed paralegal admits she was “devastated” and angry when a week before her planned trip, he said he met someone else at a Kennewick bar.

Now, “I feel foolish,” Gray said. “I’m not so much mad or angry. I feel foolish. I am disillusioned.”

Iwan says he and Gray were just Facebook friends who played Mafia Wars together, but the friendship developed into an online relationship. Still, he said, he told her she was welcome to visit during spring break as “my friend.”

When he met someone new, he said he was upfront with Gray about it and initially she was OK with it. But then, the 35-year-old who works at Applebee’s, said, Gray started a hate group about him on Facebook and called him an online predator.

“I want this lady to move on and leave me alone,” said Iwan, who had to find an attorney in Michigan to represent him in the civil suit. “… It’s a completely frivolous lawsuit.” . . .

Gray, a single mother living in Livonia, Mich., with her 13-year-old daughter, said she played Mafia Wars on Facebook and met Iwan through the game because they were part of the same “clan,” or family.

They became Facebook friends in September and had about 300 friends in common, she said. During the next couple of months, they began talking through Facebook messages, and Gray said Iwan wanted to exchange personal information and get to know her. . . .

Gray said Iwan used the word “friend” or “best friend,” while at the same time saying, “I love you,” or, “I’m falling in love with you,” and making plans for the future.

“He led me to believe for a number of months that our meeting was to explore a potential relationship between the two of us,” she said.

She sent him and his sons gifts for Christmas, his birthday and flowers on Valentine’s Day. She bought airplane tickets and reserved a rental car for a trip to Kennewick from April 6-11 and reserved a hotel room in Seattle and got tickets to the Mariners’ opening home game.

On March 30, Gray said Iwan told her he had met someone else four days earlier.

“I was just really devastated … and I guess I was angry. I had done some very nice things for him,” she said. “He supposedly met this person on Saturday, but I don’t believe that. I believe he was already involved in a relationship. … I felt like this guy is taking me on a ride.” . . .

A week later, Iwan got a second email that said Gray no longer was interested in pursuing a claim against him.

On April 22, Iwan got an email from an attorney friend of Gray’s seeking $956.88 for repayment of expenses related to the trip she didn’t take, and gifts and flowers she sent him.

Then on May 18, Gray filed a civil suit in Michigan seeking $8,368.88 for misrepresentation, promissory estoppel, defamation of character and intentional infliction of emotional distress.

The story goes on . . . and on . . . and on. I only posted part of it. Oh, and she lied and said she was 42, not her real age of 50. You know what’s going on here, don’t you? Lonely, needy-to-psychotic-levels single mom hits on much younger guy, acts like a male suitor in showering him with expensive gifts and trying to make him her boytoy. Doesn’t work, so hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.  (On the other hand, he was a dirtbag for accepting this stuff and should have returned to sender–he knew why she was showering him with the lucre.  And he looks like a typical slacker with stupid facial hair.)

Oy, whatta nightmare. Completely irrational. Move on, woman!

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25 Responses

There is only one place where crap like this ends up…THE MAURY SHOW!

Bob Porrazzo on July 14, 2011 at 2:38 pm

He’s not as young as he thinks he is. What 35-year-old man not in a rock band looks like that. He looks like a cartoon of a 21-year-old hipster. 50 and 35 is not that bad an age difference. A lot of people have made that work. They both act like infants anyway.

Fleiter on July 14, 2011 at 2:52 pm

Two losers. She’s a complete nut job and he’s a real putz with that goofy looking goatee. Let them both fight it out in court and blow what little money they have. It will prevent them from spending it on other inane activities.

Jeff on July 14, 2011 at 2:56 pm

I don’t even think the likes of Gloria Allred could possibly think of an angle that might rake in a stipend for this woman. Any judge who takes one look at this lawsuit, and doesn’t immediately toss it out of the courtroom, has to be even nuttier than her.

Irving on July 14, 2011 at 3:00 pm

Isn’t that James Hetfield from Metallica? He, he…..

Gino on July 14, 2011 at 3:13 pm

Let us look at this story from a legal aspect. She has no claim on the cost of any gifts she sent him.

Second, she could have cancelled the hotel room. No damages.

Airplane tickets. Was there a contract to meet? Was there reliance? Was their an obligation between the two parties? No, there was no obligation. Reliance? It depends what he said. She, however, lied about her age, and thus any contract based on a falsehood or misunderstanding is usually invalid.

Hearthrob lawsuits generally faded out at the end of the 19th Century. We are living in the 21st Century.

Disbar the attorney who would bring such a ridiculous suit, and fine the plaintiff and attorney for bringing a frivolous action.

Jonathan E. Grant on July 14, 2011 at 3:18 pm

    Well said Mr. Grant. However, she is an unemployed paralegal and was not represented by an attorney.

    don on August 1, 2011 at 2:22 pm

This is an absurd lawsuit that should be dismissed with prejudice. If this nonsense is accepted as precedent, we could see a whole slew of “dating” cases in courts all over the country. That an attorney would accept such a case tells me that we are suffering from overpopulation in the legal community. Gray is a woman in need of mental counseling, and not legal counsel. That is not to say that Iwan was not a ditz for even getting entangled with Gray. If Gray had had a son, we would probably be reading about some incest story now rather than this.

Worry01 on July 14, 2011 at 3:18 pm

Oh dear. I’m all for un-conventionalism, but not in matters of male/female love relationships.

a) The age difference is all wrong. Its NOT cool for older broads to date young guys. Mostly because it says something BAD about the maturity of the older person, but also because men today are not exactly manly or mature. Gender reversal roles will not end well.

b) When are women gonna learn…the men should court YOU. Not the other way around. If you’re spending $$$ on the dude, you’re already losing. Oh and believe me, these scorned chicks don’t mind at first (they want the guy and mistakenly feel this will get them) but they really get all aggro about it when they see it’s a one-way sink-hole. MEN SHOULD BE SPENDING THE $$$$!!! Stop it, Ladies.

c) Sorry, on-line dating and dating services are for losers. I thought so in the 80s and feel even more so now. If you are connecting on the internet it is because one of you (or both) have trouble with healthy relationships and normal intimacy (I’m not talking about hopping in bed, but those issues will flare later in the relationship…or sooner as this society is so skankified and peeps give it up at a drop of a hat).

I want to repeat. Women, DON’T do what a man should do in trying to get a man. It is not right and will embarrass and enrage you in the end. Let the man play his proper role.

Oh, and dating IS suppose to show one if a suitor is good marriage material. Not for crazy people in the 2011’s to have silly, unmarried dysfunctional relationships. I don’t know were so many went so wrong…

Skunky on July 14, 2011 at 3:34 pm

    a. It’s not that cool for older men to date much younger women, either, actually. Pathetic old fossil Hugh Hefner and his 20 something bimbo of the month.

    b. Speak for yourself, I want a person to spend money on me. And heck, a single mom…should be lucky any childless man would be interested in her. (Or suspicious of that, actually!)

    c. We are in the 21st century, old timer. The lefty feminist nutcases have made it impossible to flirt with women in public without being accused of harassment. And flirt with some one at work…grounds for dismissal. Even saying “you look nice today” can be considering HARASSMENT. Meet someone in college? If you can afford to go to one. A bar? Yeah, folks getting drunk at a bar are ideal mates. Never mind the high rejection rate by people who get their kicks telling folks off.

    And dating to find marriage material…ha! That doesn’t end well, either. More dysfunctional marriages because people’s dellusions of romance override their common sense. Or women whose biological clocks are ticking settle on somebody so they can do what’s expected of them or what their body is supposedlly telling them.

    Flee Harmony on July 14, 2011 at 7:32 pm

      Flea, you talk a bunch of um-gala-gala smack and I can tell from your silly response you have no idea if I am a male or female.

      And I could not give a frog’s fat one if you agree with me or not. It’s not about me…it’s about what is healthy for society. And all the stuff I listed may be boring, young, silly fool, but people and society would be a better place for us ALL if people didn’t dysfunctionally go from skank-to-skank because they are f***ed up and wouldn’t know a healthy relationship if it aced them in their private parts.

      I know my post was too intellectually challenging for you Junior, but you’ll do better next time. Moron.

      Skunky on July 14, 2011 at 7:56 pm

        Intellectually chanllenging? You have a high opinion of yourself, but so do most of the folks here (in Michigan a job at Applebees is better than no job, you snobs).

        “I’m all for un-conventionalism…”

        I doubt that. Most of the people here aren’t. They are conservatives, and that mindset is all about subscribing to conventions.

        You have no real basis for dismissing online dating other than your own old prejudices.

        Flee Harmony on July 15, 2011 at 7:40 pm

          LOL Flea. I see that you are a “dating service” enthusiast and that is why you took umbrage at my initial post.

          Too bad, so sad. Losers like you have to get dates somehow. Too bad you’re so heinous and weird and strange to be able to meet healthy people to date. You need a dating service because you’re so lacking and dweeby. Oh well. You gotta at least have a college try I guess. LOL!

          Skunky on July 15, 2011 at 7:48 pm

      Flea, I got your “Dating Service” you love so much right here…


      You’d never be accepted by E*Harmony…it’s “Lowered Expectations” for you all the way. Fo’ show!

      Skunky on July 15, 2011 at 7:54 pm

That woman’s picture gives me the creeps. That guy is lucky that he didn’t have a rabbit boiling on his stove. -)

This story actually makes me sad. Sad because the guy is a loser (first for taking stuff from a woman he doesn’t even know, second for going to all of that trouble and then breaking it off before he had an enjoyable umm romantic weekend with her, and lastly that stupid lame goatee). Sad for the woman for being that desperate and by her picture she isn’t bad looking. This means she’s got the crazy vibe going which is one of the few things that will repel an aroused male at a bar—hence why she has to troll the Net for guys.

jimmyPx on July 14, 2011 at 4:24 pm

So does this mean we shouldn’t expect to see you in Michigan bars picking up on the new crop of 21 year olds?

Forsberg on July 14, 2011 at 5:17 pm

She lied, love died?

Dr Dale on July 14, 2011 at 6:56 pm

the story as reported portrays the lawsuit as a mockery. she is not suing for a broken heart. he admitted he misled her. there was a written agreement that he would pay her back. and then he disappeared. Channel 7 Detroit video did the interview and has the court documents. these articles being passed along on the web are media fluff.

johnnyhum on July 14, 2011 at 7:21 pm

I think the guy was just really serious about the Mafia Wars game. Until the time was right he was playing it like Michael Corleone – “Keep your friends close, and keep your enemies closer”.

CornCoLeo on July 14, 2011 at 11:02 pm

If she tried to have ANY KIND of a RELATIONSHIP with ANYBODY she met on-line, she should get down on her knees and thank
G-d that he didn’t turn out to be a swindler-or a psychopathic serial killer.

Miranda Rose Smith on July 15, 2011 at 1:53 am

What is a cougar romance by the way? Did she meet a mountain lion?

Miranda Rose Smith on July 15, 2011 at 1:54 am

35 and worked at Applebee’s, nuff said.

FM on July 15, 2011 at 9:21 am

So she’s 50 and unemployed, spending her time playing stupid games and chasing guys on FACEBOOK, for heaven’s sake, instead of looking for a job, and she decides a 35-year-old guy who works at APPLEBEES is a catch? What a loser this woman must be! Our court system should not be used to assuage the hurt feelings of people who should be thinking with their brains.

DG in GA on July 15, 2011 at 11:50 am

The saddest party of this entire case is the fact this woman has a 13 year old daughter to be a role model for. This is who she has to look up to for experience with men and how to comport yourself when dating. This child better be careful when she starts to date her high school boyfriends and bring them home to meet mom who would probably be licking her chops to get them alone.

Koeteus on July 15, 2011 at 3:11 pm

This is just another example of the dumbing down of America and how far we have fallen as a society and a nation.

Jerry on July 15, 2011 at 6:11 pm

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