July 27, 2011, - 2:39 pm

GirlieMan USA Headline of the Day: Men’s Diaper Parties

By Debbie Schlussel

It won’t be long before men are surgically castrated and women are surgically fused with formerly male appendages.  That’s where it appears we’re headed, with women ordering their men to stay home on diaper duty, while they go out and take the jobs.  The latest point on this downward decline of the American male is the rise of diaper parties for men.  This headline was on the cover of today’s Detroit Freepressistan Life section.  But the story originally appeared in the Minneapolis Star Tribune.  Here’s a tip: if you have a penis and you’re holding a diaper shower, you might wanna turn in your man card.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again:  the only kind of shower a man should have is the one that uses soap and shampoo.

If you think otherwise, you are a MINO–Male In Name Only.

[Vera Becker’s husband, a] Minneapolis father of one, with another on the way, is making plans to have a “diaper party,” a male version of a baby shower, where guys get together for one last hurrah before the new baby arrives. In this version of the celebration, each guy brings a package of diapers for the dad-to-be. . . .

Sometimes called a dadchelor party, man shower or daddymoon, diaper parties are the latest way to acknowledge a baby’s arrival. . . .

“I got a closet-full of diapers — more than a thousand,” said Kevin McManamon, a Shakopee father to a 9-month-old boy. “We didn’t have to buy diapers for three months.”

The rising popularity of such celebrations reflects the bigger role that dads now play at home, parenting experts say. Fathers today are more actively involved in day-to-day child care — including diapering, feeding and bathing. And more men are staying home, while women go to work.

Get a load of this “guy.” I don’t think we can actually call Matt Kucharski a “guy” at this point. Jealous of women’s baby showers? Dude, where are your testicles?

Admittedly a little jealous of the fun the girls were having at the office with their bridal and baby showers, Matt Kucharski, a senior vice president at Minneapolis PR firm Padilla Speer Beardsley, decided to throw a “man shower” for two of his co-workers, one who was getting married and one who was expecting his first child. . . .There was plenty of baby talk. . . . The veteran fathers shared stories about what the baby’s first six months are like as well as crucial information — the stuff guys usually don’t know — like, “The due date is never the due date.”

Yup, American men definitely are women, now. Ya think the guys in Al-Qaeda . . . or anywhere in the Muslim world are telling baby stories at a shower? No, they just need to take a shower. The only baby stories they’ll ever be telling are ones that begin with, “And then baby Mohammed helped me attach the wires on his first ever IED.”

This guy baby shower and diaper party stuff is not just moronic. It’s sad. America is on the decline for a number of reasons. Prominent among them is the death of the American male.

And it’s a slow painful death. . . all the way to the diaper shower.

Indulging in this clown-like sideshow stuff where we encourage men to “get in touch with their feminine side” is weakness.  And our society, today, is weak.  Very weak.

Lasting Western civilizations don’t have baby talk parties for men.  They just don’t.

30 Responses

And people wonder why the radical islamists want to kill us or convert us? Because when they see things like this as a repersentive of our way of live, they see us as weak….vulnerable….easly gullible….sheep.

Squirrel3D on July 27, 2011 at 2:56 pm

There is a reason you ‘The Most Interesting Man in the World’ is never shown attending a baby shower!

Jcftx on July 27, 2011 at 3:19 pm

Oops, strike the first ‘you’.

Jcftx on July 27, 2011 at 3:23 pm

Exactly Squirrel3D, the only guys who does stuff like at are men who are “metrosexual” or gay men (NO, I don’t have NOTHING against homosexual people, so I’m NOT no “homophobe”). As for the islamist in the muslim world, when they see some males in the west mimicking off of women, they are laughing their buttocks off at those males who behave like females. I’ll be honest with all of you folks, the islamist only respect men in the west who’ll stand up to them and behave “macho-like”, the islamist don’t respect males who are metrosexuals, they laugh and make fun of them.

“A nation is defined by its borders, language & culture!”

Sean R. on July 27, 2011 at 3:29 pm

Being a good father and good husband means doing a lot of things for the good of the entire family. However, fawning and pandering to the progressive media about your excitement in anticipation of your first diaper party is disgusting. I grew up learning real men take responsibility. Change a diaper? Damn right. Buy groceries with the best of them! Sure did and still can do! Worked my way through college as a construction worker and did these and more while my artist wife busted her butt building an advertising agency. We supported each other and didn’t make a big deal about it, just did it. Both of us went on to highly successful careers, me in high tech and her, a successful ad agency. Plus the kids were normal, ie conservatives. Today’s American “man”, seeped in the liberal slime of appealing to the PC crowd, is disgusting in their need for attention and no balls. Even today, in my early retirement, I could and would like to ride circles around these jokers, cracking my bull whip across their witless craniums and puny backsides. Sheep they are, without the benefit of fine wool.

Lighthorseman on July 27, 2011 at 3:41 pm

    I changed my kids’ diapers (wife did more–I worked, she was a stay at home mom—by choice). I throw out garbage. I change salt in water softener. I usually move laundry (wife has had back surgery).

    I also bought diapers myself for the kids. WTF is this? I’m not surprised it was in the Twin Cities, as they are metrosexual central.

    Occam's Tool on July 28, 2011 at 5:05 pm

Are there female strippers at this diaper party? Are the strippers need changing? If not, there is no justification for these parties, and these men should just drop their testicles into the nearest recycling bin.

Jonathan E. Grant on July 27, 2011 at 3:49 pm

Huh? Who thought up this lame idea? Like we don’t have a playoff game or something……

Tanstaafl on July 27, 2011 at 4:12 pm

“man shower”? Wouldn’t you be embarassed to go? Can’t they just have a party where large quantities of adult beverages and salty snacks are consumed and bs stories are told? Why call it a “man shower” anyway? I guess if you call it “man shower”, it makes acting all chick-like and squealing about how cute the new baby clothes are and sashaying around with a box of diapers while headed to the kitchen for another peach bellini, somehow ok.

BilboBaggins on July 27, 2011 at 4:14 pm

None of this is happening in a vacuum. We know that in most elections, men vote more conservatively than women, so the elite has been trying, on a long-term basis, to discredit and weaken masculinity in any way they can, to weaken conservative voting patterns. They try to make men ashamed, embarrassed and guilty about supporting the more conservative candidates. Also by attacking masculinity in the military, pro-bowl games, etc., etc.

At the same time, they glorify femininity. Since this is combined with decades of dumbing down, they have been quite successful. One outrage after another.

Little Al on July 27, 2011 at 4:30 pm

It wasn’t that long ago that women had baby showers, and men went to the bar and had drinks. The younger men made silly jokes, especially if it was your first child. The older men sat quietly and offered little pearls of wisdom before leaving.

A lot of “men” nowadays are lucky if they even had a male figure present when they were growing up, and even luckier if that male figure didn’t change at least once before they became adults.

Feminism has succeeded, “men” have become nothing but sperm donors, sex toys, and scapegoats for everyone’s problems. Oh, and the source of the bi-weekly child support check. Or a permanent babysitter while “Mom” pursues “fulfillment” and her “career.” No wonder marriage is on the decline…among straight people, anyway.

The barbarians are at the gate, but there won’t be a fight. They’ll just walk in and take over.

murder_city on July 27, 2011 at 4:40 pm

Having baby diaper parties certainly would be unmanly, but what about old guys having diaper parties for diapers used for incontinence, like Depends or some other brand(s)?

CornCoLeo on July 27, 2011 at 6:01 pm

Its one thing to help take care of a baby when the wife is sick or tired. Its another thing altogether to be a habitual Mr. Mom. Of course in our society today, it takes very little to get men to be the wife in the family.

NormanF on July 27, 2011 at 7:33 pm

so what!! when I was working nights, I always took the babies to their morning activiities , and got a huge kick out of it too. whichever partner makes the big bucks should support the family monetarily, while the other partner stays home and tends to the kids and the house. it’s a blessing to be able to have one stay at home mom or dad. beats a nanny. might not beat a good day care though.

Bikerrich on July 28, 2011 at 11:43 am

I think it’s the younger guys who do this mostly. They cut all sort of deals in exchange for getting to wear their wives’ earrings. Sometimes it doesn’t work out well. One young guy in our office got grounded for a month when he used all his wife’s mousse. Pretty sad.

GC on July 28, 2011 at 11:53 am

While I see and meet some encouraging young men who have somehow slipped between the cracks, the remaining weenies have, unfortunately, few patriarchal examples (this syndrome is rapidly approaching two generations of weenieism)to pattern their manhood after. Then we have the body building, tatooed, girlie mag oggling, compensation set, who may well be closer to being gay than they realize. Ya hadda get me started, ay Deb.I think that people need to realize that their American culture is gone; the left being abysmally out of touch with anything workable, and the knuckle-headed right being their cordial hosts and prompting liberal lunacy by wallowing in their own christian arrogance, which,in its own special, close-minded and dictatorial way, uninates on true morality. Once again, the America that once was and had promise of becoming is no longer. This is not an expression of despondency. That’s simply the way it is. Those that we acknowledge as true Americans were so because they conformed to their evolutionary design of constant expansion–“ever greener pastures” if you will. If America no longer serves that design, it might well be time to look for those greener pastures. And those pastures might exist not only beyond the geographical boundries of the US, but within ourselves.

shegundala on July 28, 2011 at 12:01 pm

At my work, if an employee is expecting a child, we host a shower. We invite both parents, and they both receive the gifts. Sometimes, it’s the only time we meet the spouses. We view it as the couple is expecting a child, and should have a shower.

Admittedly, most of the time, the wife is the one doing most of the giggling and oohing and ahhing and the husband usually looks sheepish, but grateful. We have cake and punch, give the gifts, and socialize for a little. NO GAMES.

We do the same thing for weddings – minus the diapers. It’s a couple-thing, and an excuse for a party at work.

Although frequently men will request NO shower, and we honor that request (with some odd grumbles about missing out on an opportunity to party at work).

You’ll be pleased to note that anyone working on an urgent project is understandably not present at these parties, because we ARE here to work. However, one can usually carve out an hour in a month, to socialize with co-workers and build team relationships. That’s why the company pays for the showers – to build morale and good co-worker relationships. If we didn’t have showers, we’d have some other celebration, just to celebrate something, and keep up the morale.

In private lives, however, I’ve never heard of a man shower before this. It seems weird.

Michelle on July 28, 2011 at 12:44 pm

NormanF – If the wife works full-time, and the husband works full-time, and the wife comes home and has full child care duties (unless she’s sick or tired), then I sure as shooting HOPE that the husband is spending that same time period cleaning out the gutters, mowing the lawn, fixing the car, and painting the house!

If he’s sitting on his behind watching TV and drinking a cold one, because he worked all day and is tired and deserves a break, then he’d better be sure he’s making enough money to allow the wife to stay home all day, so she has the energy to work at night, while he rests. Oh, wait. That means she’s working at home all day, too. Childcare is hard work, and add in household chores, and it’s really hard work.

A real man will help with the laundry and the dishes, too! And change the diapers! It’s called bonding with your children, and teaching them to take full responsibility for the family and household duties.

Division of labor is all well and good. It makes things simpler (simple is good when your brain is fried from sleep deprivation when a baby Won’t. Go. To. Sleep!), and it makes sure that everything gets done. Just be sure that the division is fair and equitable. EVERYONE works, and then, when the work is done, EVERYONE rests and plays.

Otherwise, you get some seriously cranky women who kick you out of bed. Seeing their man doing the laundry and sharing the load is a turn-on. Seeing their man watching “The Price Is Right,” while the women are scrubbing floors, cooking dinner, and chaning diapers, is a definite turn-off.

If a father only takes care of his children when his wife is sick or tired, he won’t have a good bond with them. And furthermore, he’ll raise his daughters to think that women are chattel and slaves, undeserving of love or support. The master only allows her a break when she’s in danger of collapse, because if she’s completely worn out, she’s no good to him, anymore. And then she’ll have to be replaced, and replacing a wife is expensive.

Only helping out when the wife is sick or tired? Please tell me you were joking.

Michelle on July 28, 2011 at 12:55 pm

Norman F – do you call taking care of your children while you wife is sick or tired “babysitting,” or do you call it being a responsible father?

If your wife has been at home with the children all day long, and has been so busy with them that she couldn’t fix dinner, would you take care of the baby while she cooks? Would you do this on a habitual basis? Would that make you a girlie man? Or would you look at it as your time to bond with your children, so that they’ll love and trust you when they grow up?

Or do you think men should be unapproachable and never bond with their children?

Debbie’s father spent plenty of time with her, and showed he loved her, not only by being the man of the house, earning the living, and providing, but also by being there WITH her, and teaching her, hands-on. I’ll bet he changed some diapers, too, so that her mother could do something else during that time, such as cooking, cleaning, or even spending some time with adults, in order to keep her mind sharp, and break out of the baby-talk mode for an hour or two.

And I’ll bet he never called it baby-sitting.

Michelle on July 28, 2011 at 1:12 pm

These “girlieman” blogs are always, and by far, the weakest, and not only because they come from a woman who is breaking gender norms. I am glad that Debbie is exactly who she is, but let’s be clear that her very activities and the way she goes about them undermine her own arguments.

Let’s summarize:

(1) Debbie quotes some annoying blurb that celebrates a violation of some sort regarding gender norms.

(2) She then compares the behavior depicted in (1) to what is advocated or practiced by Al-Qaeda. Naturally, Al-Qaeda would not allow Debbie to do what she does here. Al-Qaeda regards Debbie’s existence, not to mention style, as against manhood. Al-Qaeda also considers both Judaism and Christianity to be weak, immoral bastardizations of Islam. Jews and Christians are seen as inviting targets just because of their religion. I wouldn’t worry about diapers.

(3) Debbie assures us that matriarchies never survive. This is most likely false, by the way, as it implies that matriarchies ever exist in the first place. They don’t, so far as we can tell. There are many explanations for this, mostly from sociobiology. In other words, her fear is simply misplaced.

(4) Then, lots of regulars applaud and compete among themselves to say, “yuk, I would never do [whatever was being ridiculed in (1)].”

Every once in a while, Debbie goes after those who are actively undermining men in this society. For example, the way the legal system treats husbands as opposed to wives. But that type of blog is much less common than the one I am discussing. I wish the frequencies were the other way around.

As I have said before (to no effect), if one wants the American society of the ‘50s, then women should be pregnant and barefoot, not at work, and certainly not earning equal pay with men. The moment women are equal in the workplace, power shifts. That doesn’t create a matriarchy, but it does permit outrages that would never have occurred without workplace equality.

I assume that others here will not mistake me for an opponent of Debbie’s. Hardly. Still, I think her approach on this type of issue undermines coalition building as well as being silly. One will not build a coalition against Islam by needlessly heightening latent disagreements.

skzion on July 28, 2011 at 2:29 pm

    Sorry Skzion, I think you shot way, way left of center in your response. I apologize for not having more time to elaborate. Debbie knows that I too don’t always agree with her, but her positioning herself as a successful woman, as well as the rest of the issues you raise, has little to nothing to do with her accusing all too many men of no longer knowing what it means to be one.

    shegundala on July 28, 2011 at 5:39 pm

      Well, shegundala, when you get the time, I’d be interested in what you believe I’ve gotten wrong.

      skzion on July 29, 2011 at 11:40 am

BTW, to be concrete, I would recommend readers peruse some of the classics of the men’s movement to see the kind of “gender stuff” I would, personally, welcome. (Not that my preferences should govern this place, of course.) Common big names include Robert Bly, Warren Farrel, and Christina Hoff Sommers.

skzion on July 28, 2011 at 2:35 pm

Please. Men work and sublimate. Women can work, but only they have wombs, so someone must have kids. I never found being able to support a woman so that she did not have to work to be a major impediment in my dating life. Of course, I only had 1993-1995 for that to be true (Met The Boss in July of ’93 and proposed in July of ’95, she beating off 4 simultaneous contenders), and have been happily monogamously married since. Everything up to that was in preparation for becoming a real live doctor, so I was only chased by a score or two of women. Incidentally, I was socially inept and unsuccessful in my med school class.

I have never found being a Conservative man who picked up checks to be a problem in dating, even in LA.

Occam's Tool on July 28, 2011 at 5:13 pm

I have been supporting The Boss so that she did not work since 2000 on. From 1995-2000, after marriage, she was my office manager; then we decided to start doing things that could allow for kids. The Most Beautiful Girl in the World was adopted in 2004 in April, the Handsomest Boy was adopted in December of 2004. I have financially supported my family without The Boss involved in any way since June 2000.

And that’s the way it should be, I think, if possible.

Occam's Tool on July 28, 2011 at 5:17 pm

When I read the headline, I thought the men were WEARING the diapers.

So, while the actual story is still somewhat pitiful, at least it wasn’t THAT.

Jules L on July 29, 2011 at 2:51 am

John Lennon started all this girly-man stuff when he was a stay-home dad for the first five years of his son’s life, while Yoko was at “work”.
Where have all the Real Men gone?
I bet John Wayne did NOT take 5 years off work, in his prime, so that he could be up to his wrists in shit…

Who cares? on July 29, 2011 at 11:25 am

My first question to you is how many children do you have? Second you obviously have never purchased diapers.Im an executive Muslim man and think they way you describe us is Moronic.We sure as hell don’t waste are time doing that. As for metros they don’t care about having sex they care about looking in a mirror

Dudes have the Diaper Party I had mine at a bar.if I didn’t my kid would not get to go to college with the cash we would spend in diaper. They say that the average family spends nearly 5-6 thousand dollars on diapers alone!Glad that they person who started this blog is made of money cause the rest of us are not.

SuperDad on November 17, 2012 at 12:21 pm

Um, I have been to Many Diaper Parties now and who ever wrote this article must be a Woman. I’m going to let you in on a little secret. The person having the baby is not the only one who has stake in the Diaper Party. So someone is having a baby and they receive a ton of Diapers, this is a good thing for them but is not why Diaper Parties are trending. Diaper Parties are basically a reason for men to throw a Party in Bachelor Party style without getting any flack from their Significant others! It should be called a Free Pass Party (BYOD). People show up with Diapers throw them in the corner and there is no speak of Diapers for the rest of the night. It is not uncommon to even have strippers at the Diaper Party. So call men what you want I’m sure they won’t care as long their Wife, Girlfriend or Other think that their Man is going to an innocent “Diaper Shower”.

JustSayin on October 19, 2013 at 3:38 pm

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