By Debbie Schlussel

Despite the conventional wisdom, I’ve never ever thought Taylor Swift was a good role model for girls. . . unless you want your daughter to become an alpha female stalker. And wantonly sleeping around with much older men. And that’s aside from her dreadful and dreadfully overrated (and extremely boring) music. I’m not just talking about recent rumors that she spent $5 million on a Kennedy compound house so she would be near the 18-year-old Kennedy she’s “dating” (euphemism). Or the reports that she crashed a Kennedy wedding, which she was asked to leave (but refused).

Over the years, several readers have written to me about what a “wholesome” role model Swift is, contrary to the many pop music skanks I write about. And I’ve had male friends of mine tell me they were relieved when their daughters were fans of her music. One said, “Well, at least my girls don’t idolize the Kardashians.” Thank Heaven for small favors. But I disagreed, as Swift ain’t much better. As I told some of these people, Swift is a psychotic stalker and teaches young girls to whine endlessly about break-ups and publicly embarrass the guys who dumped her after she probably was easily lulled into sleeping with them. None of this is a good example for America’s girls. It’s just low-class . . . and creepy. And, yet, American girls see Swift’s nutjob behavior rewarded with lucrative, glamorous deals, such as her contract with “Cover Girl” cosmetics, etc.

Taylor Swift writes songs to publicly embarrass men that dumped her. Much older men that dumped her. Much older men who talk about sex with the girls they date and with whom Taylor Swift was probably not an exception. Swift once “dated” (euphemism) John Mayer (who at 34 is 12 years older than her–she is now 22). She was a teen then. And when he dumped her, she wrote a song about–and against–him. This is a guy who discussed, in graphic detail, sex he’s had with his celebrity girlfriends (he called Jessica Simpson, “sexual napalm”). Most people assume that Swift probably had sex with him, too, especially since she wrote a whiny song attacking him. And Swift dated movie star Jake Gyllenhaal, now 31. It’s speculated that her latest “breakup song,” “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together,” is about him.

I don’t have kids. But if I had a daughter, I would teach her to ignore Taylor Swift and that despite the more modest clothes she wears (in comparison to others like Miley Cyrus), she’s a skank nonetheless. I’d tell her that Taylor Swift probably slept around with these much older men she dated (that’s what they are used to getting on demand), and that the lesson is that they dumped her like yesterday’s garbage in response. I’d tell my daughter that publicly embarrassing and trying to castrate a guy you dated who dumped you (the way Taylor Swift does with every famous guy she dates) is mentally disturbed behavior. It’s the stuff of “Fatal Attraction”-style relationships. It not only turns men off, it’s a pretty obtrusive sign that the woman doing this needs psychiatric help.

Sadly, Taylor Swift is making this pathetic jilted-lover-goes-psycho behavior hip and mainstream (in addition to her obvious current turn into Kennedy groupie-ism). It’s a terrible message for young girls. But, as evidenced by her gazillions, they are eating it up.

And then there’s the fact that Swift is dating Conor Kennedy–son of Robert Kennedy, Jr.–who is four years her junior, which at that age (he is 18 and she is 22) is a much bigger age difference than it would be later on in life. People Magazine reported that Swift, who just began dating this kid, spent $5 million on a mansion in the Kennedy compound in Hyannis Port, to be close to this boy whom she just met (other reports say the story is false). Um, what do you call a stalker with money? Answer: Taylor Swift. (Fortunately, most of her impressionable fans don’t have the checkbook to engage in her “Lifestyles of the Rich and Stalking” episodes.) That’s not to mention that, over the weekend, Swift crashed a Kennedy wedding (that of Kyle Kennedy, daughter of the late Michael Kennedy, of sex-with-the-teen-babysitter fame), to which she was not invited and refused to leave, according to today’s Boston Herald. No bride wants to be upstaged at her own wedding by a crazy pop star who badly wants to be a Kennedy.

Yes, my initial instincts were correct: Taylor Swift is a terrible role model, no matter how many “60 Minutes” reports gush over “what a nice girl” she is. With her ongoing uber-needy, ultra-crazy behavior, I wouldn’t be surprised if, sooner or later, Conor Kennedy wants to take Taylor Swift for a drive on that bridge to Chappaquiddick Island.