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Ban Single Moms From the U.S. Military

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By Debbie Schlussel

I’ve always been against women in the military, except in clerical and USO-style positions because there is little upside and a whole lot of downside.  They get pregnant, and they’re of no use after that, or a poor baby suffers with some other caregiver.    Or other “spectacular” results:  we have Army cooks, like Shoshanna Johnson, in the war zone, and they get kidnapped in Iraq.  Then, when we do something about it and risk other soldiers to find the women and get them back in a way we’d never do for male soldiers.  And then they repay us by attacking other soldiers on CNN’s “Larry King Live” and defending Islamic terrorists like Nidal Malik Hassan.

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Spc. Alexis Hutchinson: Using Her Baby Mama Status to Get Out of Duty

Or we have incompetent soldiers like Jessica Lynch, who–after a ton of training–still don’t know how to load firearms correctly and use them, can’t read a map, and get lost.  Then, we repeat by blowing our battle and security plans in order to find and rescue the female soldier. And they–at least, in Lynch’s case–get an undeserved affirmative-action-for-vulvas Bronze Star (and other unearned accolades and awards).

But those complaints don’t even take into consideration soldiers like Spc. Alexis Hutchinson, who are single mothers and jeopardize their kids’ well being if they go to war.  Statistics show that a large number of female soldiers in the military are, indeed, single mothers, likely with no father figure in their kids’ lives.  That’s bad enough.  What happens if they die?  What happens if they refuse to go when called up to go to war, using their kids as an excuse?

That’s what’s happening in Hutchinson’s case.  Her story shows how much our military is hampered by and bends over backward for single mothers in its ranks.  It’s absurd.

An Army cook and single mom is confined to her base in Georgia and may face criminal charges for skipping her deployment flight to Afghanistan in order to take care of her infant son.

Spc. Alexis Hutchinson, 21, who was arrested by military police Nov. 6, claims she had no choice but to refuse deployment orders when her mother was unable to care for her 10-month-old son, Kamani.

Her civilian attorney, Rai Sue Sussman, alleges that one of Hutchinson’s superiors at Hunter Army Airfield in Savannah, Ga., told her she would have to deploy anyway and place the child in foster care.

No charges have been filed, but Kevin Larson, a spokesman for the Army post, says commanders are investigating, the Associated Press says.

Larson says he does not know what Hutchinson’s commanders may have said, but that the Army would not deploy a single parent who had nobody to care for a child.

Savannah’s WTOC -TV reports that Larson calls some of the statements from the Hutchinson camp “misleading” and says that the Army gave her an additional 30 days to work out a plan when her initial child care arrangements fell through.

At the time of Hutchinson’s arrest, Kamani, was placed into custody overnight with a daycare provider on the post, Larson says.

Yup, you’re paying for full-time parents for single mothers in the military. It’s like paying double or triple for one largely useless soldierette.  Are Army cooks such a hot commodity that the military is willing to go through all of this?  This is the military, NOT Jean George or even Nobu.

It’s time to ban single mothers–and perhaps any mothers of kids younger than their teens–from the military. It clearly exacts more costs and bureaucratic BS than it’s worth. And it harms the kids even more than they’re already harmed without having a father in their lives.

There is no benefit to having single mothers in the U.S. armed forces. Period.

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43 Responses

I am a female veteran; my husband was a lifer; I got out to have children & am totally opposed to both parents being active duty. Obviously if the child is unfortunate enough to have only 1 parent, that parent should not be in the military.

Max on November 17, 2009 at 11:18 am

Well Max, I think there are positions women can fill in non-combat zones.
My Ex husband had been ROTC in college and during NAM lucked out to get AG Corps. Why on Earth does a male who is combat qualified have to fill a pretty “suit?” Those are positions women can fill. I think it’s fine for a woman to serve in these spots especially if the alternative, kid or no, is welfare or unemployment or a minimum wage, no skill job. Spc. Hutchinson SHOULD Be allowed to remain in and she should be put in a position that some guy has so that he can go to the war zone.

MK750 on November 17, 2009 at 11:32 am

    I think that you forget two important things. She had her child by choice and without a father around. I did not hear about this woman being raped or anything. The military is not a large entitlement program, but for national defense. This woman made some very bad decisions, and she has not really had to pay for them. Also, when you get an ever larger group of “soldiers” who cannot deploy, it puts an additional burden on those who are capable of performing their duties as agreed to. In Afghanistan and Iraq, we have had military personnel going on longer and more frequent tours of duty. These far more valuable people get worn out and begin to wonder what they got themselves into when they see people like Spc. Alexis Hutchinson getting such preferential treatment. The people who get overused and abused will eventually leave the military, and what will be left are the Spc. Alexis Hutchinson types and people with other dysfunctions.

    Worry01 on November 18, 2009 at 3:32 pm

I feel women who have small children or plan on having babies shouldn’t serve in the army period. Those who do become pregnant on duty should be immediately discharged as well for their partners responsible for their pregnancy. Perhaps sexual relations in the military should be outlawed as well.

Ginger on November 17, 2009 at 11:36 am

A single parent is not a good fit for military life. The military is like no other career. It demands all your time, energy and devotion. And if you can’t give that – then you shouldn’t be serving in it.

NormanF on November 17, 2009 at 11:47 am

But this is the beauty of diversity! Women are equal! (pardon me while I vomit). Toss the uterus out on her single mother ass. Unfit to serve.

#1 Vato on November 17, 2009 at 11:50 am

MK, In the Israeli army, women fill instructor, mechanic and support roles so the men can do what they do best: go off and fight in a war. They aren’t placing women in harms’ way in order to ensure “diversity” in the military. I think the US brass forget why we have armed forces in the first place: its not to make people feel good about themselves but to defend the country.

NormanF on November 17, 2009 at 11:51 am

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    Shalom From Jerusalem, Norm F :-)

    MK750 on November 17, 2009 at 2:09 pm

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    Shalom From Jerusalem, Norm F :-)

    MK750 on November 17, 2009 at 2:10 pm

ISN’T IT POSSIBLE SOME PEOPLE WANT TO ENJOY THE BENEFITS THE MILITARY HAS TO OFFER BUT WHEN THEY’RE TAPPED ON THEIR SHOULDER AND GIVEN A DEPLOYMENT DATE IT BECOMES TIME TO FIND A SPERM DONOR REAL QUICK TO KEEP FROM BEING DEPLOYED. I REMEMBER THE EARLY EIGHTIES IN THE NAVY HOW WOMEN WHO WERE ALLOWED ON SMALL SHIPS AND SUPPLY CARRIERS WOULD USE THEIR BODIES FOR PROSPERTY OR GET PREGNANT IN ORDER TO STAY ON SHORE. I SAY KEEP THEM ON ON AMERICAN SOIL OR DON’T ALLOW THEM IN AT ALL.

seahawker on November 17, 2009 at 12:44 pm

Diversity is the answer.

ha

hoss on November 17, 2009 at 12:46 pm

Hmmmmmmmm find a caregiver for a year deployed or find one for a year in jail and a dishonorable discharge. Yup, she sure made a wise choice. When she gave birth she was to have a deployment caregiver plan in place ASAP. Her plan fell through way before her deployment date. She had plenty of warning and time. Where`s the daddy or his family?

Hermster on November 17, 2009 at 1:13 pm

I agree. Too many women turn into sperm recepticles when it comes time to deploy. Bottom line is, you signed on the dotted line so you are now Govt property. If a single mother gets pregnant, than she should be discharged and her GI Bill should be taken away along with any signing bonus. I know when I was in the Army that if a soldier gets a real bad sunburn and has to go to the TMC, then the Army could give you an Article 15 for ‘Damaging Govt Property’.

James on November 17, 2009 at 1:14 pm

If someone can’s serve in the military but want’s to serve the nation, there are plenty of ways to do that. I worked at NASA for a contractor for about two years. The Gov has lots of jobs including the military which is needs a few good civilians.

The most important title anyone can earn is mommy or daddy. It looks to me like some people are just trying to get free day care, keeping the parent title with none of the day to day responsibilities parenthood comes with. People who can’t handle life’s responsibilities can’t be successful soldiers.

Fred Taub on November 17, 2009 at 1:22 pm

Debbie you are right again. I really hate that photo. like she is the only person on earth who has to deal with taking care of a child.

CaliforniaScreaming on November 17, 2009 at 2:30 pm

    I would agree with you. That woman should never have entered the military. But, it is the government’s fault for not taking a strict line on such things as becoming impregnated before deployment. Also, it is pretty telling that no father was mentioned in the article. Where is that character? Spc. Alexis Hutchinson deserves nothing more than a General Discharge from the Army and forfeiture of all benefits.

    Worry01 on November 19, 2009 at 1:15 am

But don’t you see, she is a twofer. Black and Female. Brings those numbers way up. Once they allow homosexuals, then black, female and lesbian will be the ticket to the highest reaches of military command!!!

Smarty on November 17, 2009 at 2:33 pm

While serving in the USMC many moons ago, I noticed this trend with the females about using pregnancy as a way to get out of duty. Many times we had guys that had just got done doing a 6 month deployment had to do another one 6 months later because the female that was supposed to deploy could not because of her pregnancy. I am no misogynist but I agree with Debbie that a lot of the clerical or administrative duties should be given to either single, not pregnant females.Many of these advocates for females in EVERY MOS (Military Occupational Specialty) do not realize that the military is not just another 9 to 5 like in the civilian world

Mario on November 17, 2009 at 2:34 pm

Oh Waaa. Nice heart string photo…eh?

Single Parents are already restricted from service in the Army.

They cannot join

Joining under fraudulent conditions, that is say they are single and regain custody of the child are grounds for discharge.

Unmarried soldiers who become parents have to have a child care plan that supports deployment. This must be approved by the Commander. Failure to do so is also cause for discharge.

Looks like this soldier failed to comply and also missed deployment. The story does say if the soldier is a Reservist.
Reserve units aren’t always as well disciplined as Active Duty.

Also, What qualifications does civilain attorney have to address the Uniform Code Of Military Justice (UCMJ)?

Sam Adams on November 17, 2009 at 2:40 pm

Shalom MK, from Colorado :)

NormanF on November 17, 2009 at 5:45 pm

Wow, that is a suprise!! I didn’t know the Army still had cooks! I thought those positions had been contracted our many years ago.

On the other hand, there was no reason for this female soldier to refuse to deploy, the Army offers a pregnancy chapter that allows a female soldier to separate while pregnant. Will even cover the medical and birth. The soldier could of still asked for the option to be chaptered for not having a family-care plan, normally granted. The best thing the command could of done was to chapter this soldier, it can be done involuntarily with now harm to a persons record.

Matt on November 17, 2009 at 6:14 pm

Debbie. Telling it like it is. LOVE IT!

Skunky on November 17, 2009 at 8:29 pm

Isn’t feminism great. Isn’t a great that we have destroyed any form of a patriarchy. I don’t remember any patriarch sending women into the military and then training men to see women raped so they become desensitized to it. Because after all a man can be raped too and I’m sure our enemies will consult the EEOC when they capture a woman to make sure she is treated EQUAL to a male POW. I’m sure they are afraid of the EEOC.

adam on November 17, 2009 at 9:24 pm

Pure stupidity…this “soldier” is so irresponsible! First of all she has a child with a man she is not even married to…way to go. Why can’t the dad watch the baby? Where the hell is he? Obviously she has no clue what the military is about either. When you sign up you know that there is a chance you are going to get deployed…especially since we have been at war the entire time this moron has been in. Did she ever think about that when she decided to sleep around and get pregnant? Either she is a complete idiot or she got pregnant on purpose. I am a female veteran and I think she is an embarrassment. Boohoo with her picture – I don’t feel sorry for her.

Angela04 on November 18, 2009 at 1:09 am

Debbie…I agree 1000 percent with your comments about women in the military. Blame it on effeminates in the chain of command over the decades. Allow gays to manage anything and it turns to sh*t. I have to commend Spc. Alexis Hutchinson, however for sticking to her guns and refusing to leave her son. Praise the Lord!! She’ll be lucky though if the chain of command doesn’t order her and her son to Afghanistan

joesixpack31 on November 18, 2009 at 2:17 am

Yeah we’ve seen how well single moms serve. How the military keeps this practice is beyond me. Combat ready force or what?

I’ve seen first hand how many women SERVE and it wasn’t honorably when it came right down to it. Prego asap husbands getting cheated on left and right. I have always hated having them around because they breed discontent in a unit. They have a commodity and know how to use it.

They have been using the military for years and during wartime it’s simply disgraceful. Funny how few females I saw at Camp Lejeune when I was there. Could be they stay the hell away from a organization that will always see action.

Joe on November 18, 2009 at 6:44 am

    What’s funny is all of the women that I saw at camp Camp Lejeune when I was their. One thing they tell women their is if they are pregnant when they get there or not they will serve.

    Kate on November 29, 2009 at 2:25 am

    This is why your wife cheated on you. It’s okay just let the pain out.

    Kate on November 29, 2009 at 2:40 am

Another angle here is how she became a single mom. Was she actually married at one time and divorced? Was she a drunken slut that got pregnant by some whacked out “baller”? Point is that becoming pregnant with no ring should always be “Conduct Unbecoming” and reason for separation from service. Not p.c. but the military should be able to enforce that for good reason.

Joe on November 18, 2009 at 6:51 am

    Joe you should really stop channeling your broken childhood onto others. Everyone lets take up a slut donation to keep his mother off of the streets.

    Kate on November 29, 2009 at 2:35 am

Well, it seems once again their are a lot of simple minded people talking about issues they know nothing about. I venture to guess, Debbie that you probably never served ONE day in uniform and furthermore you probably wouldn’t have the guts to do so. I myself am a single mother serving in the Military, and have always provided very well for my daughter both financially and physically. I have been deployed, and have also been stationed state side. In either event my daughter has always been well taken care of, and is incredibly well adjusted and smart. I have NEVER used my single parent status, to dodge or get out of any of my duties. In fact, the military has provided a way for me to already have a LARGE majority of my daughter’s college education paid for, and I have never paid one cent towards her medical care. I strongly believe that women, as well as single PARENTS (not just mothers) can and do serve a vital purpose in today’s military. Although, I don’t agree that it is the right decision for every single parent, I believe it is incredibly UNFAIR and IGNORANT to stereotype all of us!!

Tara on November 18, 2009 at 8:13 pm

    You actually fit it quite well. Did you have your unfathered child before or after you joined the military?

    Worry01 on November 19, 2009 at 1:34 am

      Just because your mother couldn’t raise you and gave you to the circus doesn’t mean that all single parents are bad. Give your mom a break and let the healing begin. :~)

      Kate on November 29, 2009 at 2:29 am

    Finally some one who makes sense.

    Kate on November 29, 2009 at 2:26 am

    Hi Tara my name is liz Iam a mother of 4 young children really wanting to join the millitary seeing that your a single mom your self what type of advice can you offer me as far as joining the millitary.I have thought how being in the the service could benifit my children now and in the feature my parents seem to think Im being selfish and only thinking of my self wich I disagree with.I do know what Im getting my self in to ounce I join but they dont believe I do

    Elizabeth Gaytan on December 12, 2009 at 9:08 pm

First, let me say that yes, every single parent in the military should and must have an adequate family care plan. This applies to both male and female single parents. Tara – I appreciate your service and it sounds like you are doing a great job as a mother and servicemember. It’s likely that most of the posters on this page have never served a day in uniform and/or are misogynists. And shame on the other women for taking up the “ban single mothers” ranting! You never know what circumstances brought a woman to be single and pregnant – divorce, death of her partner or rape – or yes, she made it her choice to have a baby while single. She is in the military and knows the consequences of not having an adequate family plan.

I don’t condone what this soldier did; I’m active duty and I served in OIF. I never would have dodged my deployment. There are many proud and dutiful women in uniform who do their job without complaint and wherever needed. And Tara – I’m proud of you as a single mother. The rest of these ignorant idiots will live their life with these judgments – and that is their burden to bear, not yours.

Active_Lady on November 23, 2009 at 4:44 pm

They have women in the military in all places now,
including submarines. Now the women are whining that they have to leave their kids on deployment. What did they think would happen when they joined the military. Do you suppose that they thought of the military as only one more welfare
program? That would be my guess. I feel that if they take a man’s job they should to the man’s job and shut up about it. Of course the news media is always ready to jump on something like that in favor of the women. Women rule!!!

I always think of the time I was traveling on military air a long time ago and a woman pilot was seated not far from me. She was wearing glasses. I remember that when I went through training you had to have perfect eyesight to be a pilot. Not so for the women it seems. Just another example of women takiing over everything.

Retired Vet on November 30, 2009 at 10:31 am

single parents are banned from enlisting but not from commissioning because of people like this woman. it’s once you’re in that causees a dilemma. and this woman isn’t the typical military mom. most parents go on w/ their duty and obligation and for this woman to refuse to fulfill her responsibilities as a soldier is an embarressment and shame to all the men and women who are parents AND soldiers, airmen and sailors. i think people who use their children as an excuse should be discharged but you should not punish all the hardworking active duty and reservist parents because of the stupid actions of a few.

afwife on December 21, 2009 at 7:08 pm

WOW FOLKS….FOR ALL WHO THINK THIS IS A GREAT IDEA….WHAT IF YOU HAD A KID? WHAT IF YOU WERE SINGLE AND YOU DIDN’T HAVE ANYONE TO CARE FOR YOUR CHILD BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS ARE TOO OLD OR YOU DONT HAVE ANY IMMEDIATE FAMILY IN THE STATES? WHAT IF YOUR FROM THE PHILLIPINES AND CANT GET YOUR CHILD BACK THERE…WHAT IF YOUR PARENTS ARE DISABLED AND THEY CAN BARELY TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES.WHAT IF YOU GOT PREGNANT AND YOUR SPOUSE LEAVES YOU? WHAT IF YOU ARE IN THAT ONE PERCENTILE THAT IS ON BIRTH CONTROL AND USE PROTECTION AND GET PREGNANT ANYWAYS? OR YOUR RELIGION DOESNT BELIEVE IN THE USE OF BIRTH CONTROL? So what if you’re a single dad, is this going to affect you too? This needs to be looked at from all different perspectives being one sided isnt acceptable and sexist. .
…….

ABSOLUTELY APPALLED on December 23, 2009 at 1:50 pm

Well you could look at it sooooo many differant ways My soon to be Ex is or was a e-6 now e-5 because he was doing a PFC on his FOB when seven of are gyes were killed now ( With Pants down REALLY) Now I am left with 2 kids and NO EDU sooooo i am looking into the army so I can WORK and get an EDU so I DONT have to be on wellfar I am not a single mom not by choice I just want to provide for my kids and I AND HAVE HEALTH CARE and a stedy pay check lets face it some women have to step up because most men step down and fail to do there duty at home and in the military …..Just trying to make somthing work Jodi.
NOT the JODI

Jodi on January 12, 2010 at 11:52 am

OMG really??? I have never heard such ridiculous comments in my entire life. I am a divorced mother of a 16 month old and have served in the military for over four years. I have deployed and never once complained about the job requirements, such as staying late, excercises, and deployments. This is sickening to hear these comments, because being a yound airman and only 22 years old, I am mature enough to see that I am making something of myself. Atleast your tax money isn’t going toward my hud house, food stamps, or welfare!!!!! I am doing it on my own without your help.. Oh but wait a minute.. your not doing your job without my help!! Everyday I work for your freedom to go to your job, and I have risked my life 365 days at WAR so you can say all this BS that you have commented. I bet not one of you who have these opionions have put the uniform on once in your life!!!

Janie on January 28, 2010 at 2:56 pm

OMG yall make me sick! As a SINGLE mother to two daughters who has serves OUR nation I am soooo sicken with many of the replies!! I love my children, and I dont use them as an excuse to get out of deployments! I have done two already in the last 4 years!!! My children while I am away are well taken care of, the Army DOES make sure we do that! How about single fathers bc YES there are MANY single fathers who serve our country as well! Geta clue people!! Should single parnets just not work! Bc its a JOB!!! I am NOT deployed ALL the time but when I am I got my sh!t together and my girls are safe! I KNOW how to fire my weapon, read a map and be a SOLDIER and I am a COOK where keep in mind 8 out of 10 cooks are MEN! Idiots!

Edith on March 5, 2010 at 10:09 pm

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