May 11, 2014, - 4:51 pm

Mother’s Day: Hype Over Kevin Durant’s Irresponsible Single Mom is Absurd, Undeserved

By Debbie Schlussel

Is it just me . . . or are you also sick and tired of the gushing over Kevin Durant’s mother?

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So, it’s Mother’s Day (or is that Mothers Day or Mothers’ Day?–I can never figure out for certain which one is right, though I believe it’s the first one I used). And for the last several days, the mainstream media have been gushing and drooling over NBA player Kevin Durant’s tearful speech thanking his mom when he won the NBA’s MVP Award (see the video below). The opportunistic, grandstanding NBA already took part of his speech and turned it into a “Happy Mother’s Day” ad. While Durant clearly loves his mother and calls her “the real MVP,” there’s a lot wrong with the undeserved congratulations for Wanda Pratt, Durant’s mom. Her behavior as a single mother risked his future, rather than guaranteeing it. It should be chastised, not cheered.

Being a good mother begins before conception. It begins with making good choices, like not choosing to become a babymama and have kids out of wedlock. But Kevin Durant’s mother made the wrong choice–not once, but TWICE. She had her first out of wedlock kid by age 18, and then she had another kid with the same man (thank Heavens for small favors) by the age of 21. Still not married. Not surprisingly, the man–Kevin Durant’s father, Wayne Pratt–walked out of their lives and didn’t return until Durant (he took his mother’s maiden name) was 13.

Here’s a tip: having kids out of wedlock is the best predictor that those kids will live in poverty and have it tough on a number of fronts–educationally, with illegal drugs, with premarital sex, crime, and so on. But Kevin Durant’s mother didn’t care. She went and had sex and two kids out of wedlock anyway. And for that, she’s being thanked and gushed over? For being a babymama and putting her kids into bad situations and poverty? Why should she be thanked for that? That’s behavior that shouldn’t be glorified. It should be condemned. But I’m the “backwards,” “old-fashioned,” “anachronistic,” “stuck in the ’50s” person for saying so.












NBA Ad . . .

Durant talked about how poor they were, how they kept moving from apartment to apartment, and that when they finally had an apartment of their own, they had no furniture. And everything else was a struggle. Well, you know why it was such a struggle? Because Kevin Durant’s mom chose to become a single mom. She chose that life. Why should we applaud her for that? She’s lucky that all three of her kids had athletic talent and that one of them became a multi-millionaire who could finance the rest of them for life if he wanted to. Without that, her kids would likely become just three more negative statistics resulting from illegitimate births, especially in Black America, where this is now the norm. And yet the NBA and the media think this is to be applauded and gushed over.

Kevin Durant’s mother is being applauded by himself and others for clothing and feeding and housing her kids. Um, isn’t that the basic expectation for someone who chooses to have kids? Wasn’t that her job? And didn’t she make it more difficult upon herself by choosing it this way–as a single mother and a teen? Yes. She did. The tough circumstances she put all of them through were circumstances of her making. That she overcame that isn’t cause for kudos. It’s cause for saying, well, she’s one of the lucky ones because she put herself and her kids in this situation through bad choices. And now we are supposed to applaud her for making things right and having the equivalent of Powerball-winning odds with one of her sons making it to multimillionaire NBA-dom.

Uh, sorry, no applause from me.

Kevin Durant and the NBA should be telling inner city America and the rest of American babymamahood that this isn’t to be applauded and gushed over, that these women are creating these crises for their kids. But that will never happen because the NBA won’t dare offend single mothers–who are fast becoming the majority in America and are already the vast majority in Black America, where it has its most loyal customer base. That also goes for the current roster of NBA players, the vast majority of whom were born to baby mamas and have never had fathers in their lives.

Political correctness has overtaken the idea of what is a good mother in America. And that’s why the media and the NBA and Kevin Durant are gushing over someone who really wasn’t a good mother after all.

Choosing to have kids on your own and putting them into poverty isn’t being a good mother.

Yes, I’ll say it. It’s the very opposite of good parenting and good mothering. When you choose to have kids out of wedlock, you aren’t a good mom. You’re just another contributor to America’s downfall.

So, sorry, but I won’t be wishing you or any of the millions of others like Kevin Durant’s mother a Happy Mother’s Day. You don’t deserve it, no matter what Hallmark and American Greetings and the NBA and Kevin Durant tell me.

To the dwindling number of women out there (including, fortunately, my own mom) who chose to do the right thing, the responsible thing, the now out-of-vogue and sadly unfashionable thing, and actually got married before they had children, you are the ones to whom I wish a Happy Mother’s Day. You are the ones who deserve it. Happy Mother’s Day especially to the women who actually choose to be mothers, rather than womb-and-egg-donor working women who see their kids once in a while, though the nanny or the daycare operator or the Xbox sees them far more. In fact, more and more in America, we should probably be wishing a “Happy Mother’s Day” to the growing number of castrated men who’ve surrendered their cojones at the door and become Mr. Moms like Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” instructed the women to force them to become. That’s America’s future, as women dominate college and grad school student bodies and graduate pools, and as they dominate and make more than men entering the work force.

And to the kids of those women who did not make that choice–to marry the father of their kids before having those kids–I feel for your kids who had the odds stacked against them from the get-go. I feel for them especially on this day when some of them might be rightfully confused about whom they are wishing a happy day to and why.

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In case you are wondering, Kevin Durant’s mother, Wanda Pratt, eventually married Wayne Pratt after Kevin Durant was born, but he left by the time Kevin Durant was one year old. He returned when Durant was thirteen and was in and out of his life. The Pratts eventually divorced.

Regardless of Mr. Pratt’s bad behavior, Mrs. Pratt slept with and had two kids with him without a ring on her finger. And that’s the most obvious hint that any woman can have of what’s to follow.

If you choose to bring kids into this world without a husband, you bear the responsibility of what happens to those kids. And, generally, what happens isn’t good.

And you don’t deserve America’s–or your kids’–thanks. You deserve their wrath.

You don’t make America better. You make it weaker.

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32 Responses

Did she really raise these kids by herself, or did the American taxpayer help by providing food stamps, housing assistance, welfare, Aid to Dependent Children, etc?

Let’s not give her a mother of the year award for bilking the taxpayer of their money to raise her bastards.

Jonathan E. Grant on May 11, 2014 at 5:20 pm

    At least she waited until she turned 18 to have her first illegitimate child. Most of them get pregnant as soon as it is biologically possible–around age 12. But you’re right–Durant should have thanked us, the taxpayers who supported them.

    lexi on May 12, 2014 at 11:20 am

    “Did she really raise these kids by herself, or did the American taxpayer help by providing food stamps…”

    As Barky would say, “she didn’t do that.”

    skzion on May 12, 2014 at 1:50 pm

I wonder if part of this adulation is because Durant is on the team that is playing the LA Clippers, owned by the evil Donald Sterling.

Little Al on May 11, 2014 at 5:41 pm

You’re right. I raised three boys with the help of my husband, their father. I did no less for them than she did for hers. In fact , we did more because he worked and we didn’t depend on the taxpayer money(other than his military check–but he worked for it). They never had to worry about if they would eat or have anything for their birthday or clean clothes and beds to sleep in. I’m amazed at the number of black and white girls now who seem to make it a priority to get pregnant before marriage. It’s in vogue. And they are given all the perks…baby showers galore and free college tuition…as they parade their baby bumps with tight fitting spandex tops.

Janis Nihart on May 11, 2014 at 6:04 pm

    Janis, you have hit on one of my hot buttons. With so much “reality TV” out there these days I am seeing lots of aberrant behavior being touted as the norm. On shows with women shopping for wedding gowns, we have brides who bring their two or three kids with them to shop, talking about how they’ve known their fiance for ten years and have three kids together so the NEXT LOGICAL STEP is to get married. I think that step should have preceded Baby #1. Then on the Mothers Day edition of that show they celebrated the greatest mother/bride of all, a 40-something woman who is a school principal who just had triplets or quadruplets or something, and they gushed over how wonderful she is. Now what kind of example does that set for the children in her school when a role model like a black female principal gets knocked up and doesn’t bother to get married? Then she sticks the new babies in day care and waits to get married until she loses some of the baby weight. Huh??? Yep, that woman is to be celebrated.

    Frankly, when bad behavior is not labeled as such, and when it is instead celebrated, why should we be surprised when we just get more and more bad behavior?

    MIGirl on May 12, 2014 at 3:11 pm

Yep, well made points. My ex likes to call herself a “marine mom” just because she allowed him to become a teen age alcoholic and juvenile delinquent that tried to assault me once when he was 13. She sought to be his friend like so many idiots with vaginas. She’s still the main one in his life, as I was demonized thoroughly and completely even though I never missed a payment or opportunity to have visitation and she allowed his step dad to openly exclude him from hunting trips and fishing with his own son. She encouraged him to join the Marines with the present leadership and wars. Some moms aren’t worthy of celebration.

samurai on May 11, 2014 at 7:03 pm

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bJbiXXA1yp0

believe on May 11, 2014 at 7:04 pm

It’s all about positioning for the ultimate stud muffin injection these days.
Get those Athlete genes and it’s game on.
Don’t say we didn’t warn you but one day we’ll automate you.

Frankz on May 11, 2014 at 7:09 pm

Debbie, I understand where you’re coming from in this article about Kevin Durant’s mother, yes she made idiotic and selfish decisions, that we all agree on and shouldn’t be praised!

However, at the very sametime, not everyone who was raised by a single parent (or LGBT parents as well) turns out to be a bad or terrible person, and believe it or not, they’re some folks who grew up in the traditional “mother-father” household who tends to be ethically corrupt, so neither end should stand on the “moral-higher-ground”.

And are there improvements that can be made, the answer is “yes”, and I also agree with you between the lines in the source where you aid that the NBA (or any sports for that matter) should be lecturing against out-of-wedlock, babymamas, and/or babyfathers, etc., instead of being indifferent and nihilistic on it.

Sean R. on May 11, 2014 at 10:47 pm

But, then again, marriage has been transformed into its opposite because of, er, marriage equality, so why can’t motherhood be transformed as well? And the family? The liberals and leftists want to make the government the family.

Little Al on May 12, 2014 at 12:20 am

Okayyyyyyy, . . .

I really don’t have time for this, and I’m aching badly, with deep chills in my body. Using machetes on thistle makes me feel a lot like Ali-Frazier I. Frazier won, but took the worse physical beating. Whatever happened out in the fields today didn’t make me feel much like a winner, but it sure is cleaner up on the western hill. OW!!!

Little Al as usual, makes more good points in fewer words than just about anybody. Talk about a winner.

Fury, you’re a weewee weewee scawy wooking man. Having established that fact, let’s look at some facts. Debbie lives in a suburb of Detroit, has for most of her life from what I can gather. Lives around a lot of blacks, always has, from what I can gather. Can YOU, Furious George Flies A Kite, gather your wits about you for a REAL discussion?

Seems like none of you leftists ever can. It’s all about emotion, name calling, and so many of you leftists are intellectuals, yet when it comes to what’s wrong with Amerika, it’s all about emotion. Can you say, . . .

SATAN? I can. I know it when I see him.

Why don’t you address the article with talking points? Can you do that? Like, can you, kinda sorta, explain how the fact that the black poverty rate, which hasn’t moved a notch in the past half century, is a good thing? Can you explain why a 73% out of wedlock black birth rate is a good thing? Can you explain why it’s better that Daddy Has A New Roommate or any of that new age multicultural gobbledegook rather than a household having ONE husband (who is a MAN!), and ONE wife (who is a WOMAN!) is such a bad idea?

As for Debbie not knowing reality, try living in Detroit, or anywhere NEAR it, buddy. When Debbie’s parents were having her, Detroit was burning. Even tough New Yorkers were afraid of Detroit back then. Being within 100 miles of Detroit was considered a bad idea. Debbie knows reality, the way Bo knows baseball, football, opera, chess, wok cooking, and whatever the heck else he was supposedly good at.

Next time you and the gang at Media Matters, Politico, or the NBA send someone over here to spew, how about some substance? Kevin Durant loves his mother. Nothing wrong with that. But there IS something wrong with Amerika’s burgeoning propensity to embrace and anoint what was in my childhood looked upon as the aberrant.

God is not happy, Mr. Fury. One day he will make it known in a Fast and Furious fashion. Oh, let’s review, . . .

the word PROPENSITY. That is NOT the same thing as what’s in the tank on the other side of the wall from my stove. THAT is called, . . .

PROPANE. Which is not to be confused with the thing Eric Clapton sang a song about. THAT would be . . .

COCAINE. So put the spoon down, unfold those massive arms of yours, and . . .

DISCUSS. INTELLIGENTLY. Like Little Al, for example.

Alfredo from Puerto Rico on May 12, 2014 at 1:44 am

Thanks, Little Al. I’d like to say I’m back, but I have some rare free time, for now. A lot of problems in my personal life, along with aforementioned financial issues. I’ll be around when I can, but the posts will likely be few and far between.

Alfredo from Puerto Rico on May 12, 2014 at 2:54 am

Don’t know if you will post this Debbie, but have you ever wondered if there is something wrong with Mother’s Day full stop?

The Encyclopædia Britannica says it is: “A festival derived from the custom of mother worship in ancient Greece. Formal mother worship, with ceremonies to Cybele, or Rhea, the Great Mother of the Gods, were performed on the Ides of March throughout Asia Minor.”—(1959), Vol. 15, p. 849.

So does it have its roots in goddess worship, which is something the God of Abraham, the true God, condemns?

sue on May 12, 2014 at 9:21 am

apologies for my previous post which is a conflation of various concerns into sarcasm that doesn’t make sense.

Frankz on May 12, 2014 at 9:35 am

Apologies for my previous post which didn’t make a lot of sense.

Frankz on May 12, 2014 at 9:38 am

i wonder if durant’s old man found his way back into his son’s life now that he’s struck gold as a pro athlete…

kirche61 on May 12, 2014 at 10:18 am

The Raw Story is running an article about a Palestinian TV show (Pioneers of Tomorrow) that teaches kids to punch & shoot Jews and you guys are complaining about a mom who raised an upstanding citizen. Something to think about!

Lee on May 12, 2014 at 10:25 am

    Oh libtard Lee, can’t you and fellow libtard Claybaby just get a room and stop trolling here? You are not intelligent enough to educate anyone here. Sheesh.

    skzion on May 12, 2014 at 1:54 pm

There is really nothing to praise here. This mother allowed herself to get impregnated twice out of wedlock. She most certainly got public assistance during the childhoods of her boys.

Worr01 on May 12, 2014 at 12:48 pm

I think you’re being too harsh on Kevin’s mom Wanda. I think that she wanted her children to lead a better life than she did, and that she sought to instill some good values in her children, in spite of the path she had chosen (or found herself in).

Consider this December 2013 interview of her:

Interviewer: You were married at a young age and found yourself a single mother with two kids by the age of 21, yet you still raised them to be both respectful and successful. What were some of the values you instilled within them as individuals?

Wanda: Well, the values I instilled within [my sons] was to always work hard, to treat your neighbors as you treat yourself. To know that some of the decisions you make are not only for you but they affect other people. To persevere, to be determined [and] to work hard. To enjoy your life and trust your instincts. All of the things a mother tries to instill in her children, I try to instill in my sons. But they are still works of progress, of course. As I am!

And what was some advice you gave your sons on treating women?

That women are to be considered as the weaker vessel- in physicality but not in strength and emotion. All the different dynamics of who we are. But [women] are the weaker vessel. And men should take a rightful place with women, not to…abuse or be over them. But to take that position of respect. That position of honor. That’s what I try to instill within [Kevin].

I still try. They aren’t perfect. I’m not perfect, of course. But they try. And it’s always something I try to continue to talk to them about.

Interviewer: What about some advice you offered him as far as staying focused on other things? Temptation, that fast lifestyle of partying, etc.? I mean, Kevin is the guy that carries a Bible in his backpack, so clearly he carries his faith with him wherever he goes. But did you ever offer any advice as far as staying grounded?

Wanda: I wanted my sons to enjoy their lives. I wanted them to experience life. I didn’t want them to look back on their youth and say ‘I didn’t have a good time.’ So I wanted them to experience things. I wanted them to go out in the world and find out who they are and explore who they wanna be. I wanted that for them.

It didn’t change because [Kevin] was an NBA player, it’s the same goals that I had for him if he was someone who worked at the post office. I want him to enjoy his youth.

Interviewer: So of course Kevin recently just got engaged! What was your reaction to his engagement?

Wanda: Of course I loved it! I mean, this is my son and he’s getting ready to start leading a family. I mean, how wonderful that is. A mother loves that for her son. Of course, to see my son’s children…I was always told you can tell how well you raised your children by how they raise your grandchildren. So I’m looking for the evidence! [laughs] I don’t care what you all talk about, I’m looking for it in my grandchildren. Which I don’t have yet!

Interviewer: With you getting married at a young age, were there any concerns regarding them rushing or being too young for marriage?

Wanda: Well, no. Because I think we all are different. We all know [that] at that age, we think we know. So who am I to put a damper on who he says that he is? I mean, I’m your mom. Of course you take my advice but you say you’re in love and this is your woman- who am I to say that you’re not, you know? I just don’t have that authority. Even as his mother, I can’t be in that position. I just won’t assert my position as that person. I won’t do that.

When you have children, when you’re a mother and your children are adults like my children are, you have to trust that you instilled the right things. And I have to trust God that He is going to take care of them just as He took care of me in my youth. So that gives me peace. That really gives me peace.

Ralph Adamo on May 12, 2014 at 2:14 pm

    She got pregnant twice, and not simply once. This was not an honest mistake, but an effort to maximize her benefits at the time. Birth control existed back when she was getting pregnant(and I am not talking about abortion). I would be inclined to give this mother some slack if there had been a once time “Accident”, but not when she doubled down with a second public assistance pregnancy.

    Worry01 on May 13, 2014 at 5:36 pm

Yes in a perfect world she would have been married and then having two kids, but obviously she raised them right. They didn’t run the streets, get involved with crime. So even if it wasn’t the perfect situation, she was a decent and an effective mother.

Big D on May 12, 2014 at 2:38 pm

Hello Peoples. I am currently recovering from 2 small back-to-back heart attacks that I had 2 weeks ago.

I know that returning to this forum may not be the wisest thing to do. But I need the exercise, both mental and physical.

So, by taking everything that DS and the DS Usual Suspects have been saying in this thread, I’m getting the impression that Kevin Durant’s mom loved to f*** and get high (and vice versa). Whether it’s pandemic among young women (regardless of colour) these says, I cannot say. But it’s apparent that these baby-mamas tend to partake in such activity.

I do have to give her some respect (in light of Ralph Adamo’s post) when she claimed to have done the best for her children. But on many levels, this is the equivalent of getting the horses out of a smoky stable and closing the stable doors: you did the right thing in saving the horses, but you failed to check if the smoke will turn into a full blown inferno and what caused it in the first place. If the stable were to burn down, then the good deed is irrelevant.

Unfortunately, too many people are doing just that. “Oh, yeah. S*** happens when she f***s and gets high.” We bitch about the symptoms and the results but we never publicize the environment that fosters the problems. Too many people fail to take into consideration that discipline and morals have turned into lost arts. That in order to survive and thrive in a free, progressive society, you need to have order and restraint and to know your place. This is the paradox that we have to accept when one considers that just being alive is a privilege and not a right. (I should know.)

So as much as I respect Kevin for defending his mother, his mother should also accept accountability for getting herself into this situation.

And she should count her blessings that she doesn’t live in an Islamist theocracy: I hear that baby-mamas aren’t treated that well there.

My 2 cents. The End.

The Reverend Jacques on May 13, 2014 at 11:21 am

Can I get in on this circlejerk…?

Or is it an invitation-only club…?

Liz Katz on May 15, 2014 at 2:27 am

What a sad article. You must be truly miserable to write such hateful words.

Tim on May 15, 2014 at 9:21 am

A lot of you people are ignorant, and for the douchebag that wrote this article go lie on the nearest train tracks n kill yourself, you sound jealous and like you have nothing else better to do. It’s so many people out there that have had abortions and not even carried their children full term afraid of what people would say. Not only did she raise wonderful children but she helped bring them to their full potential by loving and caring for them with or without government assistance. FYI that’s why it’s called government assistance. I guess your against helping people who actually may need it. Even though the majority who use them are white, I just love how ignorant people like you make it seem like baby daddy’s and stamps are a black thing. Hmm..,,Which shows exactly what kind of a person you are. So go suck it.

Bethany Bicol on July 3, 2014 at 9:10 pm

Yea she makes some pretty good points but KDs mom could’ve given up after moving abandond her kids and other stuff but she just kept on supporting them and one of her kids made it do wat she made some mistakes and didnt get married before she had a baby happens to a lot of people what are gonna do put her down if u guys are gonna get on her for making mistakes i think your gonna have to find and get on other people black and white and i just think all the people hating are just mad cause they did all the “right things” and your son is not winning the mvp or making millions of dollars playing on one of the biggest stages in america and we have to applaud kevin durant to for making it through his struggle cause personally i don’t think i could the man went through alot moving from house to house fighting the odds and making it to the big stage so what alot of people are talking about her on mothers day cause for the most part every mother is a good mother in her own way and just cause they lived off taxepayer money would u rather have them living on the street yea some of you would like that no kevin durant or no wanda and im sure every mother in the world glhd a good mothers day and was praised the way they were supposed too

nah man on August 2, 2014 at 10:31 pm

Wow .. You guys are so petty especially johnathan E. grant.. Well guess what, I was raised by a single mother too. It wasn’t because my at her didn’t want to be here he was my best friend until he was tragically taken away from me at the age of 11. I’m now 18 and I’m a freshman in college and headed down the right path in life thanks to who? .. My single mother .. The woman who woke me up in the morning even after working all night. The one who bought all of my football equipment from middle to senior year ( now I play in college) .. The one who sacrificed many things to make sure I had a smile on my face. So if you have never been in that position then don’t judge it . It’s arrogant and insensitive individuals such as yourself that marginalize and stigmatize the ones who have it rough. You guys are the ones who give the youth no hope , no future . I’m single parent raised and I didn’t have to use one curse word to express my feelings. I’m single parent raised and I don’t sale drugs , I am in college. I have no criminal record. I’m single parent raised and you’ll probably never amount to any of my accomplishments in my 18 years of life. I’m single parent raised and all you did was add fuel to my fire and show me why I have to keep striving for greatness and prevailing over the incoming obstacles in my life. So while you’re sitting here blogging and criticizing single households, I’m out here grinding from 6 in the morning until 9 at night with my mom to push me forward to succeed just like KD and his mom .. But then again you’ll never know our struggles . None of you will .. In 10 years I’ll have a charity for single mothers. And if I can help spark one mind to be great then I will forever be successful while you guys sit on the computer and read about it. Bet on that

Leik P on September 2, 2014 at 4:10 am

You are a wonderful example for kids. And struggling through your atrocious grammar, I was searching for something of substance, because I thought your sloppy English might be hiding it. But woefully…

Little Al on May 12, 2014 at 12:25 am

Of course my 12:25 am comment was not directed at Alfredo, whom I am glad, once more, to see back. It was directed at a now-deleted piece of garbage.

Little Al on May 12, 2014 at 2:34 am

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